OK, here's the problem my little boy ( he's six years old)learned a cuss word from my brother's girlfriend. My husband and I are so pissed at her. and that was maybe about 1 year ago and he is still saying it ( by the way the cuss word is ******) wene he say's it no word's can explain how upset we feel. And me and my husband have been trying so hard to raise him around positive influense's. we want him to stop saying this cuss word soon cuese, we are planning on having another baby soon. we want him to be a good influense on his future sister or brother. please help!
2006-09-24 14:31:56 · 21 answers · asked by johns' Ljubav 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I have a 5 year old and he has heard daddy say a few things here and there, has repeated what was said, but believe me as soon as mommy says his names he knows he is in trouble! hehe
I sat down and had a talk with him and I explained to him (like a little adult that he is), that it doesnt sound nice when he says that, that just because daddy says doesnt mean he can, mommy doesnt say it. I also asked him if liked it when I got mad and he said no so i told him dont say those words or mommy will get mad, etc... it tooke awhile to get it in his head but believe me he knows better!
hope this helps!!
I always treat my 5 year old like a little adult and he understands and he has learned not to say it, but at school well thats another story.
2006-09-24 14:45:55 · answer #1 · answered by CoolyUly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My son is 7 and learnt that word when he was 4. When he first said it, it was more of him telling me that he had heard this bad word at school. I explained that it was a naughty word and he isnt to use it. That was all that was needed. He has never used the word to or against anyone. I am sure he uses it with his friends at school but he knows never to use it in front of me or his grandparents or teachers etc.
Since you let him use it for a whole year I think you will have trouble getting him to stop. maybe start withholding treats every time he uses it or if he gets pocket money he needs to put some of it in a swear jar. Explain to him that this money will all come back to him when he no longer uses that word.
Good luck
2006-09-25 02:58:07 · answer #2 · answered by wickedly_funny66 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can encourage him to pick another word... start with one that may rime with ******.... like "duckin".
You could give him an allowance and every time hes caught saying "******" he could pay part of that money (25 cents) to a piggy band in which he can not spend. Once hes gone a number of days without saying it, the money can be spent on a reward.
If hes caught saying it he could spend 6 minutes in a time out.
If he says it when trying to get something he wants.... he doesn't get it.
Make sure he can understand why hes being disciplined and make sure the punishment fits the crime.
2006-09-24 22:48:52 · answer #3 · answered by erinjl123456 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No offense, but start by not using curse words yourself. You can say "you and your husband are upset" rather then "pissed". He needs to know that there are consequences for using this word. At age six, he's old enough to understand that it's wrong to use this word and old enough to accept responsibility for using it. If you use time-outs effectively, try that. You can also take away a priviledge, such as evening video game time. Discuss this with your brother too. Let him know that he's a role model for your son and he needs to watch the influence he and his friends have on your son. Good luck.
2006-09-24 22:00:51 · answer #4 · answered by TJMiler 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to relax. Making a fuss about it is the ONLY thing that kept him using this word. All you need to do is tell him you expect him to respect other people and not use words that upset those people. When he does it, try to ignore it because ignoring something is the best way to make it go away.
I'm sorry you are so upset about this, but you are totally overreacting and being very silly. BTW, I think 'pissed' is a pretty crude word. What kind of influence will you be?
2006-09-24 22:42:28 · answer #5 · answered by cassandra 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well next time he says explain it to him that it is a bad word he doesnt need to be saying it. If he contues after this punish him in some way to make sure he knows not to say. Now with the girlfriend tell you brother that if his girlfriend is going to cuss in your kids presance you think she should not come around and if she does it aain just simply tell her that you dont appericiate her cussing in front of your child and leave. Best OF LUck
2006-09-24 23:14:02 · answer #6 · answered by boycrazedprinces709 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At 6 years of age...I think you should tell him that is not a nice word to use and that he should not use it. Give yourself as an example and ask him if he ever hear mummy and daddy using it. Tell him it is not nice and if he use it again it will get mummy vex and ask him if he wants to get mummy vex. Hug him when you are telling him this and most likely he will say "NO" At three my son learned it from people passing in the street and used it to his brother of 6 (obviously in the wrong context) I ignored him and it went away. Best of luck
2006-09-24 22:20:31 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Although I've been fortunate with my daughter (she doesn't cuss), I can draw from my own personal experience as a child. When I said a cuss word, my mom put dish soap on a tooth brush and made me brush my teeth and tongue...worked like a charm. I'm not really sure if that is legal these days though.
Good luck! :)
2006-09-24 21:45:49 · answer #8 · answered by bettywitdabigbooty 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well seeing as to him being so young you could explain to him first that its a very bad word which im sure you already have then if and when he says it again put him on the naughty chair and keep telling him this language is simply not except able the biggest problem with this is parents don't follow through so keep positive.MY GOD dont use soap not these days there are so many chemicals in soap today.
2006-09-24 21:42:54 · answer #9 · answered by suepetonquot 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
the best way to handle it is to ignore it. dont pay any mind to it, if you show to much attention to it, then he will keep saying it, you have to just ignore it because it is attention and that is what all kids want but it is not the right attention, if you ignore him when he says it, that is showing him no attention and he will start to say something different to get your attention again. and when he says something else make sure you give positive reinforcement, even if it is a word he says all the time, show him no attention when he says that word
2006-09-25 09:04:00 · answer #10 · answered by dolphins4sheri2001 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋