Is this overprotective parenting?

Question

I have a question-- what are the privacy laws for IL. My mother is continuelt going through my things. she reads my dairy and i am 20 years old. I was wearing a tube top aND SHE PULKLED DOWN MY TUBE TOP STARING AT MY BOOBS -"Saying what if a boy does this to you." and then she had pulled down my tube top.-- She has gone to far she wont let me get an privacy and when i tell her about it she says --you will get privacy when you move out of the house--until then you dont get privacy--- and i am 20 years old. She walks in the bathroom when i am peeing all of the time and wont let me pee in privacy. what arew the privacy laws cause i want to complain about it --if i find out what the privacy laws are against her.--she throws out clothes that i bought wth my own money and that i have paid for-- and she throws the clothes away.

Answer 1

Your mom's behavior may not be appropriate, but as the saying goes -- if you don't like it, don't live under her roof.

Answer 2

I don't think privacy laws apply except outside of the home where you live or to family members in this situation. While your mom sounds a little unconventional, I don't know that you're going to get any peace while you live there. Ultimately, she is right. If you live on your own, you will have tons of privacy. Unless you get a roommate who eats the food you pay for, and gets into your stuff when you're not around.

Answer 3

You do realize that your mom acts this way because she cares about you and doesn't want anything to happen to you, right? The way she's going about it is a little overboard, but she just doesn't want anything to happen to you. NO I'm not old, I'm 25 myself,but I am a mother and I can see why she would not want you to dress provacativley. As for the bathroom thing-she's just your mom. Unless you are doing something in the bathroom you don't want her to see, why care?? She's probably seen your vagina more times than you have. Technically it's her house so she can do what she wants to. I think if you tried to file charges or whatever you'd just be laughed at to be quite honest. If you are that desperate for privacy then you should move into your own place. It'll be easier than trying to change your mom.

Answer 4

If you want privacy then move out. Even if you where 50 there would not be anything that you can do because it is her house. But personally it sounds like she has some issues and does not see you as an adult. I would try to talk to her about it. If that does not work then try looking for a roommate.

Answer 5

It sounds like you need to move out of your mother's house. I don't believe you will find any laws to help you. You might be able to make a case to the department of social services to help you pay for an apartment of your own. Consider sharing an apartment with another woman your age. You will have more privacy with a roomate than you do with your mother.

Answer 6

Wow! Your Mom clearly is in the WAY WRONG here. I can't imagine what her motives could be and this sounds like it is definitely more about her than you. She is bulldozing through your boundaries in a completely abusive way! You are being abused and need some support and guidance. I would personally start with some therapy for you. Wheather or not she gets help is up to her. You can't do anything to change her. What you can do Is work on yourself and make some descisions here. You do not have to continue to be victimized like this. I would get the Heck out of there too. Some distance between you both would be a great start for this healing process. I will be praying for you and feel free to email me if you like. God bless! Love,Cindy

Answer 7

that is bullshit ,move out n on the way out just remind her revenge is sweet n what goes around comes around ,maybe she will be the one needing to live under your roof oneday in her older days so just make her think i would , if u work n pay board to be there u have rights , look into it .if my mother pulled my top down on my even as a 16 yo i would of went mental at her let alone a 20 yo

Answer 8

im 20 to and living with my mom! I just got a job and I'm savin up money to leave her crazy ***!! then just buy a lock for your room and tell her shes goin overboard with the protective thing if she doesnt back off now you will move away then she wont have you too do these messed up things to! I feel ya girl my mom isnt that bad though!! sorry for you! just start savin the $$$$!!!

Answer 9

that is not something any good mom should do no matter how old you are you do need to get out of her house but i know that things happen that you just can affored it at the time but she needs help to be a better mom. i have a child and i know there is going to be things she will do i will not like but all i can do is tell her what i think and hope she will do the right thing . let god tell you what is right for you he will not tell you wrong

Answer 10

WOW! I can't believe some of the answers! When you live under someone's roof you have to abide by their rules! Now, as over grown as you, ask yourself this question, did I pay to live here, do I buy food, do I pay for utilities, do I help clean up, do I contribute enough to my mother? What have I done, beside being a little brat and complaining about me,me,me? When you have valid answers than you can take on the resposibility on your own.

Answer 11

I am sure that your mother is more than a little crazy, or so it would seem. Controlling, compulsive, obsessive and invasive, too, but none of these things is against the law. Move out.