is there anyone out there that can help me with this?

Question

OK, here's the problem my little boy ( he's six years old)learned a cuss word from my brother's girlfriend. My husband and I are so pissed at her. and that was maybe about 1 year ago and he is still saying it ( by the way the cuss word is f*****) wene he say it no word's can explain how upset we feel. And me and my husband have been trying so hard to raise him around positive influense's. we want him to stop saying this cuss word soon cuese, we are planning on having another baby soon. please help!

Answer 1

It's called discipline. He's six so he's old enough to be smacked. Not hard, but hard enough to get the hint. Time out, talking, taking away toys - BS. It don't work. Perhaps a little soap on the tooth brush. He'll figure it out.

Answer 2

Once you have explained to him that the word is unacceptable, you can ignore it. If it doesn't get him any reaction, he will get bored with using it. If that does not work, maybe you could give him a time out every time he uses it. Another alternative would be to have him "sit" against the wall. Sit as if he is sitting in a chair but without the chair underneath him. Make him do this until he can't stay up any longer.

Good Luck.

Answer 3

First of all do you say you are "pissed" to you son? If you do not want him to use inappropriate language, then you need to be careful about your own language. If you have a fit every time he says it, you are giving him attention and reinforcing his use of the word. You could try ignoring it completely. If that doesn't work you could try rewarding him for not saying it. For example a gold star on a chart for each day he goes without swearing and when he gets....10 stars? he gets a treat, a toy? a movie rental? whatever.

BTW just wait until he starts school he will learn lots more words to drive you nuts.

Answer 4

you are probably goin' to have to take him aside the minute he says it and say: The word you just said is a bad word. And is not good for a good boy like you to say that.

he should understand. And if he doesn't again, you tell him, that is a bad word, and tell him to say sorry for saying a bad word.

hopefully he will stop. Plus the expression on your face, showing that you are serious, and that you are hurt, helps to let him know that it is really not a good thing to say at all.

Answer 5

have you ever seen supernanny??? she has some good idea's go get a little stool or some kind of crate or mat for a time out spot everytime he says the F word thats where he goes it may be a struggle but if he wont sit you have to keep placing him there until he gets the point that you wont let him get out of the naughty spot when you finally get him to sit in the spot time it for about 5-6 mins then when its time for him to get up explain to him why you put him in the "naughty spot" and that everytime he says that bad word thats where he will go (be persistant dont feel bad about putting him there no matter how he acts when you do it or he wont learn anything) but you also have to have a reward for everyday he doesnt use naughty words for example children love stickers so get him some assorted stickers and a calender of his own and at the end of the day if he doesnt use the naughty words he gets to place a sticker on that date but dont let him put stickers on the days he uses naughty words (obviously) anyways say after a week straight with no naughty words he gets a prize say a .99 toy hotwheels car or maybe even make him his favorite supper eventually he will get the point which words are bad and good and after oh i dunno maybe about a month consistant of not saying the naughty words you can forget about the calendar completely or you could use it for days he does his chores he can get a sticker and at the end of the week either get allowance or something as a reward for a job well done

Answer 6

I remember when I was little and i said something like that my mom would ask if I knew what it meant. and not to say something i didn't know what it meant. if explaining things 'like it's hurtful when you say that.' or ' you know that you are being really mean when you say that' can also help. Children don't usually like to be so hurtful, so if you make it sound absolutely horrendous in words he can understand, that may help. God bless and good luck with the little guy! p.s. when i lied, i got my mouth washed out with soap and given a cup to spit into, and a pad of paper and 2 pencils and had to write lines!

Answer 7

from now on whenever he says it just ignore him. he may overdue it and say it many times to get a reaction from you but do not react. go on like your not listening. if you you do not give him any reaction for a long time(by the way it might take while) he will most likely stop using the word. but whatever you do, DO NOT show him any sign that your paying him any attention.

Answer 8

at 6, he's old enuf to understand that this is unacceptable language, and after a year is still due to be called on it. express your reason for not using bad language, punish useage of word with real time-out, or good old-fashioned soap-just a little.

Answer 9

Well, my folks actually used to wash our mouths out with soap as a tonic against cursing. At least I I can say I no longer cursed in their presence.

Bye the bye, if you incorporate such terms as "pissed" into your own vocabularly, how can you expect your child to see the difference in what base terms he chooses to employ?

Answer 10

don't make a big deal out of him saying it and he should stop if not try Tabasco sauce in his mouth every time he says it, only after of course you have told him that isn't a nice word for a little boy to use.