Ok, so i used to like this guy a few months ago, and i tried everything possible to let him know but he never got it, so i just gave up. then this summer, i started going out with my current boyfriend whom i really love. a few days ago though, i found out that the guy i used to like is really attracted to me. i think that i may still have really strong feelings for him too. do i have any options that won't hurt anybody too bad???????????
2006-09-24 13:59:35 · 16 answers · asked by sweethyedreamer213 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you want to change boyfriends, change boyfriends. Its not like it is going to require divorce lawyers or anything. Just say to the current guy- Sorry, things just aren't working out, no its not you, its not me either- its guy number two. He's just so much hotter than you.
2006-09-24 14:01:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, not really. Let me tell you something about men....you can't just give them subtle hints.....they just don't get it....if you want them to know something you have to just come right out, point blank and say it. Sorry, that's how the male brain works. Second of all, how much are you in love with your current boyfriend. If you break up with him for this other guy would it all be for lust? Possibly. Think about the pros and cons of being with each person. Sorry, but some one will get hurt. If you are happy with your current bf, why end a good thing? I think you have a case of the grass is always greener on the other side, so be careful which decision you choose.
2006-09-24 21:05:56 · answer #2 · answered by Melissa M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow. that's a tough one. Im kinda in one of those situations right now myself. And I really dont know what I want. It's hard. But im just thinking to make that old flame my bestfriend. But at the same time i know it will kill me to see him everyday and have stong feelings for him. We likes eachother back in the day but we never spent a lot of time with eachother and then we fell out. and reuninted a year ago. But then I had someone new. I see him every week and it kills me.
But we made an agreement that we'll be lovers in a next life time. lame i know. but we are closer than ever now. As best friend. love that guy to death.grrr just stay with the guy that you are curently with. that won't be fair on him. it's either one or the other. you cant love 2 people at once. you have to think about which one you think would bring you more happiness, which one do you see yourself in the future with, or having kids with you know what I mean. Im sure they both have completley different qualities that you like...And that is what attracts you to them. You just have to make up your mind.
Put them both to the test. Im not saying to date them at the same time. But get to know that guy from the past. over the phone or whatever. But honestly I dont think it would work out. He hardly even knows you. You probably just feels like he's attracted to you physically and not emotionally you know what i mean.
Yopu love you current boyfriend. so dont let a good thing go. So what im saying is not rush into anything just yet.
You never know if you'll making the biggest mistake of you life. out of some old flame that never got to happpend. life went on and you met someone new. It just wasn't meant to be. now the tables have turned around. And it's hard. But you can't just give in like that. It was his loss. some things aren;'t always as they seem. trust me!
2006-09-24 21:03:34 · answer #3 · answered by blah blah 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't rush into anything. Check out the reasons why you aren't with the guy in the first place. Think about what you have now with your current boyfriend, but give it time. If you still feel strongly about the other guy, be up front about it. Good luck.
2006-09-24 21:03:30 · answer #4 · answered by Bexcy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Prime example that you have no clue as to what love is. You say you really love your current boyfriend, but now this other toad appears and you have "Strong" feelings for him. What the h*ll is all that? you either love one guy or you don't. Obviously you don't understand love or the appearance of the first guy would not affect you. Grow up and allow yourself to mature .
2006-09-24 21:04:27 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your' bfand the guy and whichever is calmest then take 'em but it's not possible to not hurt either of 'em too bad. Trust me on this one no matter what you do one of 'em is gonna get hurt so do what makes you happier.
2006-09-24 21:02:46 · answer #6 · answered by outlandishb13 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should stick with your guy your with now, the other guy had his shot at responding to your advances (which may've been not conspicuous enough for him to pick up on.) and he didn't get it, so it's his loss
if things go south with your guy (but you did say you loved your guy) then look the other dude up.
2006-09-24 21:07:32 · answer #7 · answered by quiksilver8676 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you sound exactly like my best friend. lol. Anyways, if you are with someone that you love and will take you somewhere in your life, then stay with him. Feelings come and go, love stays.
2006-09-24 21:01:32 · answer #8 · answered by aricalyn10<3 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
okay, who do you love? if its your current boy toy, then stay with him, and forget about the dweeble who was 2 dense to pick up on the fact that you had it for him.
2006-09-24 21:02:11 · answer #9 · answered by Max 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whoever u think u can last the longest with and will have the best relationship
2006-09-24 21:05:01 · answer #10 · answered by Mysterious 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋