I really like this guy and he is supposedly a trouble maker but I see other wise he is so kind to me and I want to ask him out but my father dosn't approve of the kid.
2006-09-24 13:59:21 · 14 answers · asked by Virginia R 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
he is in a group home for bad behaivior but he's changed and I cant get my father to say that
2006-09-24 14:00:53 · update #1
Well since he's had a bad track record, your dad doesn't want you to get mixed up in that.
your dad needs to see that he's actually made progress and not just because YOU say he has.
the kindness could just be a front, you gotta be absolutely sure about this guy. just because he's bein nice to you desn't mean he's not out causin problems when you're not around.
do you ACTUALLY know for sure that he's makin progress from gettin himself in trouble, like doin better in his school work, maybe plannin about a college for a degree he wants to go for after he gets outta high school, or gettin into the military, getting himself a decent part time job to earn his own way for things.
your dad just don't want you gettin caught up in this guy's mistakes. So YOU need to be sure that the guy is actually doin right and SHOW your dad proof that this guy's makin progress not just tell him.
good luck
2006-09-24 14:25:55 · answer #1 · answered by quiksilver8676 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here's my advice. People do change, but don't date anyone right out of group home. Please! Give him some time back in the real world and see if he can keep it together. If he needs a friend be a friend, but don't be his everything.
Don't let someone pull you into their problems, you could start going down too. Listen to your dad and I'm sure, years later when you have a special man who can make it in the real world than you'll thank your daddy!
2006-09-24 14:08:08 · answer #2 · answered by llbm3 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know this is hard to believe, but sometimes dads can see things that we just are not seasoned enough to see ourselves. Tell your dad that you really respect his opinion and want to know specifically why he does not like this boy. Try to focus on what your father is saying, because if I had listened to my dad I would have saved myself a lot of trouble. If you think that your dad is not being fair, tell him you would like to discuss this with him without getting upset, and give him solid reasons why you don't think he is right. If you are underage, always honor what your parents say because nobody loves you more in this world than your dad and mom.
2006-09-24 14:07:58 · answer #3 · answered by Marie 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is good that he treats you kindly and you believe in the power for people to change. However, you should listen to your father because believe it or not, he has experience and knowledge.
Plus, as long as you are living in your parent's home you should listen to them. This guy will not be in your life for long. Teen love relationships rarely last. However, your family will be with you forever unless you push them away. It may be difficult due to your feelings for the boy, but don't rock the boat.
2006-09-24 14:12:20 · answer #4 · answered by Laughing Libra 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A group home. Well, hopefully he has changed, but he also might be a con and know how to play up to girls to charm them.
Your dad is your parent and you should honor him.
If this boy has changed and is a good guy, then when he returns home or over a period of time has proven he is on the better side of things.......then go for it.
Nothing wrong with being his friend.
2006-09-24 14:04:23 · answer #5 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
your not stateing your ages.know you don't want to hear this but some times parents know best. my dad told me to take time about my first "love". Years down the road, after my dad had past away, i had a dream where he told me stay away from a certain person. Yes in my case with my dad gone he still knew best. if this guy has been in trouble and stay in trouble beware
2006-09-24 14:05:31 · answer #6 · answered by mamma bird 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
LISTEN TO DADDY......!!!
I am not saying he hasn't changed. How long has he been in a group home? It can take years for someone to change basic behavior and make it stick. The bad boys of today are the wife beaters of tomorrow.... they usually don't change either.
Listen to daddy...he knows best!
2006-09-24 14:07:21 · answer #7 · answered by westfield47130 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-17 22:06:44 · answer #8 · answered by lindgren 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
um... make sure you really love the kid first... i believe you that he's a nice kid, and if you really like him that much i highly encourage you to go out with him, but just make sure you fully understand ur decision.
2006-09-24 14:03:09 · answer #9 · answered by Alyssy 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
talk to your father about it or ask ur mom if she can talk to your dad about it ...your dads probably just scared and worried since your growing up so fast and starting to date guys and he knows how perverted guys can be
2006-09-24 14:02:01 · answer #10 · answered by ♥◦◊◦Brown eyed babe◦◊◦♥ 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋