2006-09-24 13:59:02 · 17 answers · asked by lumi 4 in Health ➔ Mental Health
I'm with Jack on this.
Find out from a doctor if you are clinically depressed and take medications exactly as prescribed if you are.
If you're not clinically depressed, I guarantee you that the problem is that you are lonely and pouting because there is no love in your life. And this makes you a prime candidate for being ripped off!
Contact me through my nickname and email me if you want confidential advice in private. Hiding out there, in the crowd, with poker faces, are people who love you as do Jack and I.
Take care of yourself.
2006-09-25 12:07:09 · answer #1 · answered by urbancoyote 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First, ignore anyone who tells you to snap out of it or get over it. You'll just feel worse when you can't, and if you're really depressed: you can't just snap out of it. It's a physical condition and requires professional attention. MEANWHILE... when you have a thought about yourself, change it from "you are so.....whatever" to "I am so..." and then if you can't make it a positive thought, then add a "...but I will be..." with a positive idea. I am quite clumsy and accident prone. Right now I have a sprained ankle and I burned my thumb and forefinger. I used to think to myself, "You're so stupid! You should have known that was hot, dumbass!" Now I say to myself, "Ouch! I made a mistake! I'm used to cooking in the microwave, so when I use the oven I have to be more careful." Do that as much as you can, whenever you can. Eventually you won't feel so worthless. Secondly, do something nice for someone, just because you can. Nothing big. That little bit of appreciation from outside of yourself is real and a reminder that you have worth, you just talked yourself out of it.
2006-09-24 15:22:44 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really should try and go see a therapist or a counsler. Sometimes there are things in life that we just cannot handle on our own, you may need someone to talk to. I know what you feel like, I feel this way a lot. I have a therapist and am on medication and it helps, but sometimes it just isn't a miracle cure.
See if you can find a therapist that you can afford. If you have insurance, there are Mental Health clinics that are often have little or no out of pocket expence. It really sounds like you need to talk to someone.
You are not worthless, everyone is worth something!
Good Luck.
2006-09-24 14:08:17 · answer #3 · answered by jade_frost82 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get a grip, fella. Those feelings will not "totally consume" you. As men, you and I have been feminized from a young age by our education, with pussified politicians and feminists influencing our schools and society. Yes, get therapy, but your therapist will likely want you to blubber and wail like a big woman, so be on your guard against that. It's time we men stopped being such weak little p ussies!
Start being a man again. Do manly things. Hunt, fish, camp, bowl, use fireworks, chop wood, build a patio, change your own oil, watch football and baseball. If you have gay inclinations, watch UFC. Also, get into bodybuilding, especially POWERLIFTING.
Read "The Testosterone Advantage Plan," by Lou Schuler, and follow the workout and diet described within to a "T." You need to get testosterone (daddy's little helper) flowing through your system at an optimal level - once you do that, your depression will dry up and blow away like France.
Amazon link:
http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/customer-reviews/0743237919/ref=cm_cr_dp_2_1/002-2338454-2913632?ie=UTF8&customer-reviews.sort%5Fby=-SubmissionDate&n=283155
I also suggest you read the "US Army Survival Manual [FM 21-76]." Believe it or not, much of what is contained in it is indirectly (and sometimes directly) related to overcoming depression. The first chapter is called "The Will to Survive." Need I say more?
Amazon link:
http://www.amazon.com/US-Army-Survival-Manual-21-76/dp/0967512395/sr=8-1/qid=1159147572/ref=pd_bbs_1/102-3027201-4354501?ie=UTF8&s=books
Read it online:
http://www.equipped.com/fm21-76.htm
Love Jack
PS: Notice how most of the people giving you answers here are WOMEN. They mean well, I'm sure, but their advice to you seems to be directing you to think and act like a woman to get better. Take their advice with a grain of salt. I think it's their maternal insticts kicking in, not their fault.
2006-09-24 14:42:16 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
sometimes we just all need help.......find a good pyschiatrist and get an evalutation...often depression can be episodal...as in something traumatic has happened in your life to cause this change...often they will put you on an anit-depressant for 6 or 8 months, then take you off. If you do well, the doc considers this an incidental thing. If you get depressed, it could mean you are clinically depressed and will stay on the right med the rest of your life.....no big thing...i come from a family with lots of clinical depression....ME???? bi-polar, so my moods dramatically switch. Please do seek help....it is not fun to not be able to get up and function.....it doesn't have to be this way.... Prayers for you...
2006-09-24 14:13:06 · answer #5 · answered by Cassie 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
ok...first of all, i was going through this not too long ago and am recovering slowly now...and in my case, it got so bad that i was considering suicide. i did not tell my parents and did not tell a counselor. i saw no therapist...in my case that would have only made my life harder. what i did was this: i realized that God cared about me. that was it...and know this, God would not have you her on this earth if you were not worth something to someone!! please do not let yourslef slide any further into depression!! i am one of the few who know how much it hurts!! if you are still having problems, tell someone that you would trust with your live!! what helped me most after realizing i had a purpose on this earth and praying to God for the strenght to get me through was telling my two best friends. i begged and pleaded with them not to tell anyone, and they were true to their word and have stayed silent. it was the best feeling in the world to be able to talk to someone without being judged or betrayed!!
in other words, if you are having problems take action right now and pray to God...
1.) realize he put you here on this earth for a reason and you have a purpose!!
2.) tell the person in your life that you trust the most...it is the best thing for you...better than any therapist is your best friend
<3 you...my name is Chenoa and i am a 14 year old christian...email or im me if you would like to share stories...
2006-09-24 15:54:27 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
..my stepfather between beatings, always asked me if I would ever amount to anything... he died a couple years ago and it was like a weight was lifted.... alcohol ruined my family. But! l learned how to deal with it, now I care for quadriplegics and get paid... I came right out of it when I began helping others.
2006-09-24 16:10:18 · answer #7 · answered by Boliver Bumgut 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont know your age or your situation, but i would say you dont need a councilour or medication, you need a life! .. be positive, change things you dont like, it will make you gain confidence, feel better about yourself, get dressed up go out, flirt and have a good time... i did and ive never looked back!
2006-09-24 17:27:30 · answer #8 · answered by tinylincs 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmmm. i always feel bad for people who feel this way. i can relate. find a good therapist and don't be afraid to give medication a try. it doesn't work overnight. believe it or not...things will get better for you. you are worth something - or i wouldn't bother answering your question. see - someone you have never met and probably never will cares for you.....get some help...you are worth it.
2006-09-24 14:03:43 · answer #9 · answered by firenice 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Time to visit a therapist.It sounds like you have a chemical imbalance.
2006-09-24 14:06:50 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋