If you think that your mom is a selfish person, who married your dad for money, would you have respect for her? Would you still love her?
2006-09-24 13:52:37 · 24 answers · asked by BusyBee 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Unfortunatly your Mom is your Mom. We do not get to pick our relatives. if we did I have a handfull I'd have traded a millenia ago. Heres the thing, with your heart you will always love her. but you do not have to stick around and be close when she decides to do things that are awful that you would disrepect her for. If Mom cannot be a good example of a human being you cannot be her "concience". Let it go and put some distance there, for your own sanity.
There ARE worse Moms in the world...
http://www.badmoms.net/
2006-09-24 14:11:15 · answer #1 · answered by Beamer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love and respect do not go hand in hand, sad but true. Since I don't know the whole story I can't judge your situation. My mom is very selfish and I've got my own reasons for thinking that. I mean I'm sure that you have more reasons that just the reasons he married your dad for feeling that she is selfish. I have no respect for my mother and I still love her. I don't necessarally feel like I've got a mother daughter relationship with her. At times I feel that she is more like a friend than a mother, but she did that to herself. But I still love her as much as I did last year adn the year before, since I was born. Loosing respect for someone can make you feel that you may not love a person as much because you're feelings change towards them. You know the term I can love you but I don't have to like you? It's the same thing. If my mom died I'd be very hurt. I still love her. And consider this. If you didn't love her would the things she does bother you so much? Most of the time random people on the street that do things to irritate us do only that, just irritate us and then we forget about it and we don't let it get to us but it's not personal. We are hurt by the things people we love do the most. Keep that in mind.
2006-09-24 14:12:20 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why your mom married your dad and if its fair or not is not your affair. That's their business not yours. Your dad may know that fact but loves the other qualities she possess. Love your mother in spite of her faults. I'M SURE SHE LOVES YOU IN SPITE OF YOURS. Respecting her should be based on the respect she gives out. I'd never suggest disrespecting your parent at any cost- even if you are telling them how you feel about something. Expressing oneself doesn't have to be done without tact nor without respect.
2006-09-24 14:10:57 · answer #3 · answered by hellokittyt012263 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you'd still love her but would not have to continue respecting her because she has not earned that respect. Respect has to be earned whereas love does not have to be earned. This would explain why a mother can love a child who is a drug addict or a thief but not respect him or feel proud of his life choices.
2006-09-24 14:26:28 · answer #4 · answered by Auntie Tindo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The deal with love is that it is not based off of logic and ussually is pretty unconditional when it comes to family. Loving someone although doesn't mean liking or agreeing with their actions. When it comes to emotions between the parents, its usually always best to stay out of it and dont choose sides... its almost a guarantee you dont know the whole story. Moreover, that you dont need to either.
2006-09-24 14:13:35 · answer #5 · answered by okitty_kat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay have you ever heard the saying that love has no boundaries. Meaning you should love them no matter what.She is your mom..Didn't she raise you? Take care of u when u were in sh i tty diapers?How easy it is for us to forget...She is your mom and she brought u into this world...So stop being naive and think of your mom for a change.
2006-09-24 14:16:51 · answer #6 · answered by sweet_thing_kay04 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course I'd still love her. But maybe she has changed from when they first got married. People and things change over time, as you will too.
2006-09-24 13:59:57 · answer #7 · answered by Bexcy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know if I would respect her decision but I would still love her because she is my mother.
2006-09-24 14:05:45 · answer #8 · answered by ♥dream_angel♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you know what dear. Your mom gave you life. there are going to be plenty of things that you are going to do that your mother is going to hate she may one day find you to be selfish and unruley however you don't stop loving her becuase she does something that you don't agree with. this makes her, her own person as you are.
Trust me within the past two years my mother has done things that have just blown my mind. I don''t understand them and it makes me angry.. and i am 26. but she is my mom and she is an adult and i love her.
2006-09-24 14:07:57 · answer #9 · answered by Mellisa C 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't know what I would do, but I would still love her no matter what because she was my mom and that was my dad.
2006-09-24 13:59:35 · answer #10 · answered by heidi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋