what is the right amount of time you have to write thank you cards after a wedding?

Answer 1

According to Emily Post, author of etiquette books, the newlyweds have one year to get their thank you cards out after the wedding.

Personally, I like to receive them much sooner than that. Especially after somebody has gone to the effort of selecting the right gift for you, paying for it, wrapping it, sending it, etc. Nautrally, the newlyweds will want to take their honeymoon & get settled into their new married life together first. They should do their thank-yous as soon as reasonably possible after that. Aim for the first few months, or at least before six months. It lets the sender know their gifts were actually received and appreciated. Grooms should not think that doing all that work is entirely the bride's work. The gifts were for both of them, so both of them can acknowledge the gifts. In some couples, the bride writes the letters to the people who sent gifts from her side of the family, & the groom writes them for the gifts sent from his relatives. Whatever works for them is fine, as long as they get written & mailed out!

If a year has gone by & the thank-yours have still not gone out, they should still be done as soon as possible because "better late than never." You might have forgotten about them by now, but I can assure you that your guests have not forgotten that they were not properly thanked.

To not send a hand-written note would be in poor taste. By the way, e-mails or phone calls are not adequate ways of thanking someone for a gift.


Congratulations & best wishes :)

Answer 2

Etiquette says that you have one full year from the date of the event. If you receive a gift prior to the wedding, you should send out a thank you ASAP (particularly if it is mailed/shipped directly to your home - a prompt thank you will notify the gift-giver that you have received the gift and it has not been lost in transit).

Personally, I think a "thank you" should be sent within 8 weeks from returning from your honeymoon. Truly, there is very little reason for someone to take much longer than that writing out thank you's. Even if you write out five an evening, you can knock out 250 of them in less than 8 weeks(and that would be a LARGE wedding). I've received thank you's as quickly as a week after a wedding, and as long as 2 months. Any longer, I think I would be a little shunned.

Answer 3

How long is honeymoon?
If its 2 to 4 weeks, well then I would start sending the "thank you's" right after getting back.

The POINT is that you are thanking people. It is not a time situation, however more than 2 months later is a little late.

One person sent one to me a year later in two different envelopes! One with the church address where we attended church and then my home address. I know they made an effort, appreciate it but a YEAR! I didn't want to be reminded.

Answer 4

I think one year is absolutley ridiculous! I mean if it takes you one year to plan a whole wedding, I would think anyone could write thank you notes within a month of your wedding. A well organized bride already has thank you notes purchased in advance of the wedding date. You already have the addresses from the wedding invitations. If both the bride and groom work together, it can be done in a weekend!

Answer 5

I'd say at least one month no more than 2 months. I depends on how many people attended. I had 250 people to send thank you's to and it took me 1 month and 2 weeks. I was writing them on our honeymoon. I heard you have up to 6 months after the wedding but to me that's too long.

Answer 6

Immediately after the honeymoon. That way, they and their presence are still fresh in your mind. Plus take special mention your appreciation of their gifts (if they brought any). The sooner you say thank you, the more sociable you are in their eyes, and the less you look like an ingrate.

Answer 7

Given that you have time for a honeymoon, I would say about 1 week or even 2.
You don't need to respond to thank you cards if they respond to your thank you cards :0)
Believe me it happens lol

Answer 8

No longer then a month. People do understand that it takes time after the honeymoon to get settled, but do not forget them as well.

Answer 9

Six months, but make it sooner, especially cash gifts. They need not be elaborate; just get them done.

It doesn't take long to write "Thank you for the lovely "name of gift." We will cherish /use /enjoy it for many years to come."

Answer 10

start immediately or it will never get done. Like I mean immediately as in on the pplane to your honeymoon and back. You need to really start like right now! What the HELL are you still doing on the computer?!?!? GO!