How do women view scars?

Question

i am a very self consious guy and at 20 have not even tritd to get a lady. one reasion being is because of all the scars i have. i have 2 one inch scars on my hips 3 on my back one being 8 inches long and so big it actualy keep my right peck from looking normal (pulls it flat even though my pecks are the same strength) and i have one about 4 inches above my male equipment (i have no idea why its there...guess i should call my mother and find out)

another problem i have is that i an not exactly good looking, i am really this and am about 5' 11.5'' 150lbs. no toneness and skelatin like.

so what kind of bad news do you have for me?

Answer 1

hold on, I am rereading your question....

You know, I think that maybe you are really hard on yourself. My husband and is overweight, has very many scars and keliod skin, that means that his scars have developed thick scar tissue. He has man boobs and a slight hump in his back. But you know what...... None of that matters to me. What matters is that he loves me, he treats me very good and he is faithful.
The most attractive trait any man can have is confidence. Look at yourself in the mirror and learn to love yourself. Dress nicely and keep your head up. Wear good smelling colonge, not the cheap stuff, or at least not the cheap smelling stuff and take your time when you get to know a female. Make friends with them first and what ever you do, DO NOT TALK ABOUT HOW BAD OF A CATCH YOU THINK YOU ARE. If you follow this advice in a year or so, you will be on here asking us what your wedding colors should be... And I will want an invitation.

Answer 2

The thing that's holding you back is not your scars, nor the fact that you don't resemble a body builder -- it's your own poor self-image. None of us is perfect. You're self-conscious about your physical imperfections, and it's affecting your ability to meet someone.

The scars you describe are mostly covered by your clothing and aren't that visible. Have you had a lot of surgeries, or have you been in fights and been cut? Consider your scars as "battle scars". You can make up any kind of tale to explain them, although you really don't need to. A good cosmetic surgeon can eliminate or make your scars less apparent.

As for being too thin for your height, why not get into some weight training and body building? You need to take in more calories than you expend, and that will help you to gain weight. Eat more foods that have carbs in them; whole grain breads and cereals, lots of high-carb foods like beans, rice and pasta, along with vegetables and fruits. You need lots of protein in your diet also -- meat, fish and eggs.

You are probably better looking than you perceive yourself to be, so you might benefit from counseling to find out how you can feel better about yourself. When you meet the right girl, she is going to look past your looks anyway. It's what's inside a person that really counts. Given a choice between looks and character, nine times out of ten, the right person will choose the latter. You need to build your self-confidence. Then get out there and meet people. You need to first love yourself, then you will be able to overcome what you consider to be imperfections. No one goes through life without scars -- some on the body, and some in the mind. When you meet the right girl, she will love you, scars and all. Trust me!

Answer 3

If you meet the right person they will love you no matter wht your body looks like. my ex was involved in a very nasty car crash when we were together and he broke every bone in his face and his whole face was scared as was his arms and legs, but i still loved him and the scars are not the reason that he is now my ex!!!! my husband has a very bad scar that runs all the way down one of his arms where he put his arm through a window when he was younger and for the first week of dating i couldnt touch it or stop looking at it but then after that it just fades from your mind and you dont see it any more. Learn to love your own body, oh and when you find out where you got the scar above your manhood i would love to know!!!! lol

Answer 4

Scars are more than physical. Sounds like you don't even know where you got some of them from...or do you? If it's bad, I'd just work on healing the emotional. I don't think scars will mean much of anything to a good woman who cares about you. But the scars you carry inside can hurt a lot more. Good luck.

Answer 5

don't worry, you dont want to attract a shallow girl who only likes you for your looks anyways. if you are confident and act sure of yourself (but not full of yourself) other people will begin to be sure of you too. your positive feelings about yourself will make others view you positivley. as for the scars, how did you get them!! be more careful! however, scars can be attractive and show someone is brave and a survivor. you can give them a very macho appeal, as long as you believe it others will too. you also may want to try use some of that scar removal stuff. ask a doctor, but dont spend all your time fretting about it! look at heidi klum, a supermodel who married Seal, despite all the scars on his face! seriously, it means nothing. impress people with what you have and what your good at, not what you dont have and wishe you were good at.

Answer 6

cheer up. Go tanning, work out. start flirting. it will take some getting used to, but after awhile you will become more comfortable with yourself. Do you care about scars on girls? I dont think they are a big deal. A LOT of people have scars from surgeries and such. Go out with your friends and start living. Don't let anything hinder you. Remember, nothing can bother you unless you let it.

Answer 7

I think you should quit worrying about it and relax and enjoy your life the minute you stop worrying about it one will come to you.And for the scars I don't think we care as long as you are a nice guy and have a sense of humor and if they do care then they are shallow and superficial and you don't want someone like that anyways so good luck and just enjoy your life you don't need a woman to do that.

Answer 8

I have no bad news at all for you. I am a woman and I can tell you beyond a shadow of a doubt that any woman who loved you would see only your beauty. Your scars are part of your story. Part of your struggle. part of you. She will have scars too. Maybe not ones you see, but ones that are just as deep. But in your eyes, she will be radiant. Believe in the healing power of love and do not despair. Your future is unfolding before you. have faith in it and care for yourself as the gentle, honest, strong and visionary man that you are. Love will find you.

Answer 9

as for the scars.. i love men who are have scars and i know a lot of girls who find that attractive,, second.. i know lots of girls who are head over heals in love with less than average-looking guys.. so that really shouldn't be a worry.. you gotta find pride in yourself and learn that if a girl falls for you.. she is lucky!! .. don't underestimate yourself and don't have second thoughts about how you look like.. you can ask god to look like brad Pitt when you go to heaven .. but while you're at earth.. you gotta cherish yourself for who you are.. i loved a guy who is VERY average-looking.. but i loved his soul.. and now i find him the most handsome guy in this whole universe.. there was a girl at university who everyone thought was extremely pretty,, even myself.. but when i got to know her.. i started to see her UGLY.. if you are good from inside.. then beauty swims to the surface and not the other way around.. i don't think you should ever find it challenging to "impress" any girl. she should love you for WHO you are and now WHAT you are.

Answer 10

you shouldn't be so hard on yourself!!! I don't think anybody should care about scars or anything like that. Its your personality that shines through your apperence. There is no such thing as a 'not good looking person'. Everyone is different, and everyone has different tastes.