my boyfriend and i have been together a year. We are both 21. He has just started a college course in a city about 3 hours away from mine,but we are still together and in love. He just called me at about midnight, drunk, and said he has spent most of the evening with one of his new flatmates (they are all strangers and he says the other ones dont seem to be much fun) who happens to be a girl. He then chatted away about how nice she was and then even went as far as describing her "cool" pyjamas that apparently she has been lounging about in his room in. I was overcome with a jealousy i have never had the need to feel regarding him before and was almost too angry to talk to him, he made a mild protest and asked if i was jealous, assuring me i had no need to be,but he didnt really realise being so drunk how mad i actually was.
Am i overreacting and worrying for no reason? I know men and women can "just" be friends but i just cant help feeling uncomfortable about this whole situation.help
2006-09-24 13:20:47 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
we're scheduled to visit each other once a month every month so he shouldnt get TOO lonely...do you think that will make a difference?ill get to know her myself then as well, then maybe i'll feel less jealous?
2006-09-24 13:28:18 · update #1
If you become visibily jealous, he'll believe you don't trust him, and that will only give him ammunition to do something destructivbe, like cheat on you.
if you don't trust him, the man you love, who willl you ever trust? everyones will have friends.
you should only expect that he will stay faithfull to you, but it's out of your control otherwise. know that if he stays true, that'll only make your relationship stronger.
2006-09-24 13:29:36 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would not trust any guy who has a girl parading about in his room with her PJs on. He is also playing mind games with you. If the tables were turned, how would he feel? Maybe it is time to give him a dose of his own medicine? Let's see who will be jealous then? Being drunk is NO excuse for bad behavior. Have the two of you agreed to date no other people while he is away? If so, he has already stepped over the boundaries. Make it clear unless he wants you to do the same thing, there are to be no women in his dorm. This will depend on the type of relationship you two have and what previous understanding the two of you have.
2006-09-24 13:32:07 · answer #2 · answered by Marie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no... from first hand experience it isnt going to work... im sorry but if you have only been together a year, unless he is different from 95% of young men... its not gonna work
if he hasnt then he probably will sleep with that girl who is convieniently taking your place when he gets lonely, and if not her then someone else. I was only 35 mins from my boyfriend of 3 years... long distance doesnt work and you wont be able to trust him go ahead and move on and get over it, you can always give it like 2 months then go surprise him... chances are you will catch him doing something wrong... Sorry hun there are plenty men in the world
2006-09-24 13:26:19 · answer #3 · answered by BeachLvr2006 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if he really loves you , you should have nothing to worry about. I would feel jealous to. But if he tells you nothing is going on, im not sure what to beleive.. if you have any feelings that something is happening with him and anyone, make a friend down there, or ask one of the new friends he has made, and ask them to spy on him for you
2006-09-24 13:25:14 · answer #4 · answered by Jessssss 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
unfortunately, at your age and in this circumstance, I wouldn't count on him being faithful to you. He might not have cheated yet, but there will come a time when he probably will... getting drunk with other chicks around is not a great sign.
2006-09-24 13:29:35 · answer #5 · answered by jen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, based on what you've described of him and his behavior, you would be smart to cut and run for your life. The longer you hang out with him, the more miserable your life would be. You are just beginning to experience it, aren't you?
2006-09-24 13:27:58 · answer #6 · answered by lg traveler 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should trust him to a certain extent don't trust him to the point were you think he can't do any wrong because you'll get dissapointed every time
2006-09-24 13:28:36 · answer #7 · answered by tpchick22 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO!! you cant trust guys trust me i know. you can talk to him about it but if he werent checking her out then how can he describe what she was wearing ecpecially if he was so drunk.I wouldnt trust him at all.
2006-09-24 13:28:21 · answer #8 · answered by alicia m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to trust him I know it's hard
2006-09-24 13:23:59 · answer #9 · answered by Scooby_doo06 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
never trust a guy when he is away.. at least physically.
2006-09-24 13:22:35 · answer #10 · answered by sara_s 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋