My 11 yr old son has pierced his ear today while I was napping. He has been asking if he could get it done and I've been telling him NO. Now it's done what should I do?
2006-09-24 13:20:40 · 31 answers · asked by Help Me Help You 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Make him take it out and let it heal. That's his punishment (among other things, if you so choose) because he probably thought that once it was done, it would be too late for you to do anything about it. Prove him wrong. It will heal. He knew exactly how you felt and he did it anyway.
As for people not seeing what the issue is, forget that. You're the parent. You set the rules and he went against them. I'm sure you have your reasons for raising your child the way you see fit, as long as it's beneficial to him and his wellbeing. It doesn't matter if others feel it's not a big deal. It is to you and that's what matters.
2006-09-24 13:40:32 · answer #1 · answered by ♥i KnwUc It♥ 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Make sure he doesn't put any earrings into his ears anymore from this day forth.Take the earring away and throw it away. If he goes to school and tries to put them in on the sly then have the teachers notify you when they see it in his ear. After this he will get the point that you are not playing and you mean business. Your son needs to be put in his place. He's too young to be thinking he can do what he wants to at 11 years old. He doesn't pay any bills, and he doesn't put food on the table either. When he's an adult and is old enough he can do whatever he feels like, but he needs to respect your authority, and you need to make it known to him that he will respect you and what you say. Nip this in the bud with him before it gets out of control. Be persistant and make him see that you will be right down in his back and in his face if he thinks he's going to do what he wants to do. I would talk with the teachers and have them notify asap if they see this going on. That way he'll know that he can't wear the earring to school as well. After a while of him not being able to wear the earring, the hole in his ear will close.
2006-09-24 13:41:10 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make him take it out, not so much because you do not like it but because if you let him get away with defying you at 11yrs, you will have some real problems down the road. Of course expect some rebelling over this. In addition I would be removing most priveledges that require trust on your part. I would explain that if I had to worry what he was doing in my care while I was napping then what am I suppose to think he was going to do when he was not in my care. Make him earn back the priveledges slowly by telling him you are not setting a time a limit on anything but setting restrictions according to his own actions. You really should take this opportunity to enforce he learns from his actions while he is still young enough to accept it. Good luck!
2006-09-24 13:33:27 · answer #3 · answered by okitty_kat 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sit him down, have a calm conversation with him, explain to him that what he did was wrong. Pesonally I dont see the big deal, I had my ear pierced at 11, i got sick of it and it closed in, recently I had it repierced, no big deal. I would let him keep it, he's at an age where he is image conscious and is trying to become himself. I would discuss with him a punishment, he disobeyed you, he should not have. Definitely take him to a Dr. if it looks like it is at all red or swollen, if you let him keep it make sure he cleans it nightly and in the morning. And don't let him remove the piecing for a few weeks, if you want him to not have it removing the piercing will allow the hole to close like nothing had happened.
2006-09-26 09:09:20 · answer #4 · answered by evanstahl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ear piercing? I would've put that under "don't sweat the small stuff" but having said NO the issue is now his defiance. Sounds like grounded for a month and dock the allowance for any doctor visit if it gets infected.
2006-09-24 13:27:03 · answer #5 · answered by Slake 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You mean he did it on his own? That's a health risk, you should at least make sure it doesn't get infected. Generally I think you're supposed to get a professional to do it.
As for trying to stop him from wearing earrings, I doubt you can do that. But if you really want to, then I suggest using reverse psychology: Say his earrings are really cool, and make sure to mention how everyone did it back in the days when you were at school. If he gets the impression adults like the idea, there's a good chance he'll get disgusted and stop wearing them.
2006-09-24 13:24:02 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
why you are feeling bad?he is too young to understand that in straight guys it looks bad.may be someone in his friends group has done and he is also excited about that.better u ask him why u want to do that and tell him nicely that only girls does that.just take out the reason why he wants to do that.and if you really dont want to see that just dont allow him to wear him anything i mean to earrings or stud.it will go off after some days.best of luck.
2006-09-24 13:24:38 · answer #7 · answered by kc 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He pierced it himself? Take him to the doc. to make sure it doesn't get infected. Then forbid him from wearing the earring. It will close on it's own.
2006-09-24 13:26:16 · answer #8 · answered by curious51867 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him to take it out or you will take it out thru the back of his ear. My son wanted one too. His dad told him he would remove it himself if he did. Then we told him when he was 21 if he still wanted one he could go get it. By 18 he thought it looked gay and never got one. m
2006-09-24 13:26:17 · answer #9 · answered by Mache 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kick his butt and ask him why he would defy you like that. I think you should also take away any privileges that he has. You can also make him pierce his other ear, his naval and nipples and see how much he likes piercings after all of that.
2006-09-24 13:21:34 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋