How come guys never make the first move?

Question

I know guys are shy and all, but really i've been crushing on this guy for like a month and a half and he hasn't even moved an inch to actually tell me he likes me, when I even know, I'm technically asking guys this, but girls you can go ahead and try to figure this out to..?

Answer 1

Although guys seem to think they are all that, they really arent , men dont like rejection and ok woman dont either but we have more balls than they do in the sense that we at least are up to the challange and take the first step even if it means that we will get rejected.

Answer 2

Hi I think most of the people answered your question, just tell him you like him. I want to add one thing. The guys that are too fast probably just want to get in your pants. I personally dont like guys like that. I like a guy that is something like my dad or two grandpas. They were kind of shy when they were boys and never tried anything. How do I know this? My mom and grandmas tell me about their husbands. Even now they are kind of immature acting men. My dad will play with my brother and me and sometimes even acts silly and dorky at home. Nevertheless, he loves my mom and is a good provider. All his money goes to his family. He has a real responsible job and at work he acts like a REAL man. I think a man who still has the boy in him is a lot better than those so called cool guys who only want sex and dont want the responsibility to the children they create. Stay with the shy boys, keep them that way, love them, and maybe someday he will be a man who all your friends will wish they had.

Answer 3

To be honest, I am a bit confused about your question. I am assuming that your question is: How come guys never make the first move and tell you that they like you? If that's the case, then here I go:

Guys are far from shy. Granted, there are some exceptions, but when it comes to matters of the heart you shouldn't be surprised that guys won't openly say the words "I Love You," or even the baby version "I like You." When a guy says something, he usually means business. If a guy really likes a girl, he wants to be 100% sure that he feels that way. He wants to say those meaningful words only so often because these are the Excalibur of words. If a guy kept on saying "I love" all the time, it wouldn't much to himself or to the girl he's talking to.

I assume that you two are in the process of dating, so that means that he is still just getting to know you. He's definitely interested in you, but those golden words haven't been sprung because its just not the right time for him.

Besides, it doesn't make sense for him to come out of the blue and say "I like you." If he's already hanging out with you, of course he likes you, why would he need to say those words? No one in their right mind would want to hang out with someone they despise.

You know that he likes you, so you shouldn't worry about if he say those words, but just be patient and he will say those words to you.

Good Luck!

Answer 4

It's a known fact that women mature earlier than men. However, once a guy catches up, he is usually the aggressor. Just because you have a crush on someone, doesn't mean that he returns the feeling. Maybe he doesn't even know about your crush. Have you thought about telling him? If he runs away, you'll know he's too young. If he stays, then once he reaches your maturity level, you'll be asking on here how to fight him off.

Answer 5

I have never had that problem before and men approach me. I am assuming you are under 30 since it seems to be a phenonom specific to your generation.

There is a chance that the guy is not interested in you, he may have a fear of rejection or peer pressure keeps him from asking you out.

If it is fear of rejection, think about how you are afraid to ask him out. I have to hand it to men because they have tough skin.

Answer 6

We can see that some girls really like us so we can make our move, but when a guy likes a girl and she barley shows interest, we will take long to make a move and we are afraid of denial.

Answer 7

Maybe he does not know you like him or he does not feel that same about you. You may need to make the move first. If he does not know, he does not know. That way you need to take it upon yourself to make the move. The other thing is that he may not like you and you really can not do anything about that. You will need to move on, if he does not like you.

Answer 8

Well sometimes guys are a little slow..and sometimes they dont want to make that move because they could get a laugh in the face..because they say they go up to women and they say "do you like me".and they say something like "hahhahahaaa are you kidding ..never... not me..where did you get that idea"..and that can make anyone feel like placing their head in the sand..so they get tired of wearing their hearts on their sleeves...So, if you like him go on and tell him but dont be surprised if he will not respond..because they are like that..and then he may not talk to you..because he knows you like him..they are sooo junior high..But, I hope you get a responce and he will be mature enough to handle the situation ..because it could turn out to be something special you never know,,go with your gut instinct..what ever its telling you go with that..Good Luck..

Answer 9

I'm the same way, I'm way shy with girls. You just gotta take the initiative, at the very least youll make his day and he'll be flattered that you like him. Just go for it!

Answer 10

Guys like gals, have a fear of rejection. If you really like this guy, be a friend first, so that he can feel comfortable around you.