If they have not been invited or have not phoned ahead ???
2006-09-24 12:56:20 · 19 answers · asked by Curious 2006 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Community Service
just be like, "well, we're about to eat, i wish i had known you were coming, i'd have made extra!!"
hopefull they'll get the point!!
2006-09-24 13:04:51 · answer #1 · answered by anonymous 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm not sure what the most diplomatic approach to this would be, but I can tell you what would happen if you did nothing.
My step-uncle does this all the time. He is a time waster 5000. He shows up unannounced, at anytime of the day, and no matter what is happening in my families house, he will just hang around all damn day. Why does he keep doing this? Because no one has the guts to tell him to leave. I would, but I live about 150 miles away from my families house, so it's up to them.
Just explain as best as you can that it's the families "family" time now, and you'd like some privacy. If you don't, you may give that person the assumption that it's safe to come over and hang out for hours whenever they please.
2006-09-24 20:09:03 · answer #2 · answered by whoholdsthepower 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Lol - this happens to me all the time!
I usually end up inviting them to stay and eat and spread it out as much as possible....at the end of the day, I figure it doesn't hurt for me and my partner to eat a little bit less!
Guests normally take the hint and leave, so when they don't, I just feed them and don't think too much of it.
Frustrating sometimes though - especially if certain friends materialise right at dinner time with monotonous regularity!
2006-09-24 20:06:20 · answer #3 · answered by LadyRebecca 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask them to leave and come back at a more opportune time, your are getting ready to have dinner. I personally do not allow people to just show up at my home unexpected. Make that clear that you expect a phone call, it is after all your life, your home. And i would consider the actions of someone to just show up and wait until dinner is done to be a very rude act.
2006-09-24 20:38:00 · answer #4 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Maybe you can tell them ahead of time, I'm glad you stopped by but I wish you would have called first, as I'm really busy now .and I have to get dinner ready. If you can call before you come then I can make time for your next visit.
2006-09-27 19:05:04 · answer #5 · answered by lennie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Will the right thing would be is to offer them to stay .
Unless you don't have enough or your planning a special dinner just be honest. That you'd more then welcome them to stay, But becuase you weren't aware of it and short notice . this time you just don't have enough and that it's a specail dinner just the family.
if they can't understand then yes ask them to leave now.
There really isn't any better way to say it but Just be honest and don't contradick yourself.
open and honest is the key and being freindly at the same time
2006-09-24 20:06:38 · answer #6 · answered by d_a_truckergal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you're obviously northern. southern hospitiality reqiures that you feed everyone who comes to your home. and we don't always call ahead we visit, which means we just decide to go and see someone spur of the moment. you never make a guest feel unwelcome even if they arrive at an inopportune moment. your guests comfort is more imporatant than your own. southerners get a bad rap, but we truly do treat our company better than anyone else.
2006-09-25 07:51:07 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The polite thing for them to do is leave, however, it seems they don't know what is polite, so the polite thing for you to do is to invite them to stay for dinner. And if they do it again, when you answer the door, tell them you're preparing dinner and if they'd like to visit, to call next time, or come over after you've finished dinner. Hopefully, they'll get the message.
2006-09-24 20:06:52 · answer #8 · answered by Saved 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
these are the polite choices
1) invite them to eat
(if they are family in-laws etc this is only choice).
2) if the visitor is a child visiting one of your children
you say Please excuse me My son/daughter has to
eat their dinner now why don't you watch TV while you wait.
for them to finish.
3) if the visitor is a friend of yours and you are the one cooking and serving the meal then you say
please excuse me for about five minutes I have to put the meal on the table for the family. You then serve your family and then return to your guest. offer them a drink coffee or tea and visit with them in another room until they leave (you, yourself won't sit to dinner until they are gone, with luck they may get the hint.)
4) if the visitor is a guest of another adult in the house
then they should stay with the visitor while rest of the family is being fed
2006-09-24 20:19:30 · answer #9 · answered by coachelarose 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
explain to them that you haven't made enuff for them and that you and your family use meal time to connect with each other without any outside distractions. Offer to get together sometime for dinner. They should have better manners than this, but there's not much you can do about how they were raised. Be firm, yet not mean about it all.
2006-09-24 20:06:35 · answer #10 · answered by spunkyshell2000 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
LOL feed them, they must be hungry! Duh =) But really if you're annoyed, just kinda hint repeatedly throughout dinner that you're sorry there isn't enough because you did not know they were going to be eating, and give them really small portions. They'll get your less than subtle hints or get tired of eating tiny portions and find someone else's dinner to crash =)
2006-09-25 21:05:51 · answer #11 · answered by Lady G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋