Why must men be courteous to women? Like opening a car door, holding the door, buy them flowers or whatever etc. Women want to be seen as an equal sex right? So why should they expect men to do these things and never return the favour?
2006-09-24 12:42:40 · 24 answers · asked by emmet s 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Note to self: don't include examples otherwise people will base there answers on it. The etc was put in there for a reason!
2006-09-24 14:03:02 · update #1
Long ago women were considered frail and helpless and empty headed things that could be made happy with flowers, candy and sweet talk. Today more and more women see themselves as strong and equal people. Now, don't get me wrong we still like nice things but we now know that we can do and get these things ourselves. Besides men like flowers, candy and the door open up for them. So ladies try buying a box of chocolate for your man and while you are at it ask them out to dinner and don't forget to hold the car door open for them.
2006-09-24 12:56:31 · answer #1 · answered by Magica! Star 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men don't have to be courteous to women in the same way that women don't have to be courteous to men. However, my husband opens the car door for me, holds the door open for me and treats me like a lady. What do I do in return? I acknowledge his graciousness, compliment him in public and tell everyone how proud I am of him at every opportunity. I don't expect my husband to do these things, but he's done them since the first time we met. I reciprocate by doing things I know he appreciates. People should be courteous because it's the right thing to do, even when those around you aren't. I give up my seat and / or open doors for the elderly, disabled or someone (man or woman) with kids. I will let someone with a smaller order get in front of me at the checkout line. The world would be a better place if people extended a bare minimum of common courtesy.
2006-09-24 20:16:31 · answer #2 · answered by Le_Roche 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In another time, women were considered to be the weaker sex. With equal rights, women have taken a stronger role in pursuing partners they are interested in. Many women send men gifts and flowers. They also pick up the tab in restaurants and I have seen a few of them open doors for men. While I'm not at all opposed to this, I must admit that in some ways I'm still old fashioned and absolutely love receiving flowers from my husband. In return, I pick up special gifts that I know that he will enjoy.
2006-09-24 19:55:40 · answer #3 · answered by mom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For the same reason that women ought to be courteous to men and everyone should be courteous to everyone else.
Women can be equal, yet be treated like ladies (by men opening doors, etc.). Gender equality has nothing to do with common courtesy and chivalry.
2006-09-24 19:53:03 · answer #4 · answered by The ~Muffin~ Man 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's a double standard that women want. The only way to break them of it is to stop doing it. If I hold the door open for someone, it doesn't matter to me if it's a man or a woman, I do it to be courteous. As a general rule though the only special treatment I give to women is my wife.
2006-09-24 19:51:03 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow,I dont know.I guess men do like to be made feel special too. But how I precieved it maybe a hammer not roses lol. I really do understand,if I am ever where u r I promise I wil open the door for u Good luck Curious 2006
2006-09-24 19:49:29 · answer #6 · answered by Curious 2006 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have never found courtesy or sense to be common. What passes for "common sense" and "common courtesy" is rarely courteous and rarely makes sense.
I suggest that in this world, we strive for extraordinary courtesy and to show extraordinary sense. Don't worry about those who display neither. Just be hopeful that they may learn from your good behavior and good sense.
You'll make the world a little better if your focus isn't always on "what do I get our of it?"
2006-09-24 21:18:06 · answer #7 · answered by danny_boy_jones 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, the origins are a little old-fashioned, but I still like it because it's cute. I'd like a guy to open the door for me for the same reasons I'd open the door for him. I want him to be happy and I want to show him I care. It's really just being polite.
2006-09-24 20:13:22 · answer #8 · answered by Quiet Amusement 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I often do hold a door open for men. It all depends on the situation. If I'm there first, I hold it. If a man is there first, he should hold it for me. It's not a sexual issue, it's just courtesy between two human beings.
2006-09-24 20:02:41 · answer #9 · answered by koffee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't mind opening a door for anyone regardless of their gender because i think it is appropriate especially if they need my help. Personally, i never see this act as something only men should do although it is kinna sweet having someone do it for you. But anyway, i don't mind returning the favor...
2006-09-24 20:45:33 · answer #10 · answered by Jasmine Ird 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋