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I am not against him being part of the baby's life, but I don't feel he has ended that relationship yet. He says he wants to marry me and I am the only one he wants to be with but not now because we are not financially stable for a wedding. I want out, I can't sleep, barely eat, and it is making me sick from the constant stress. He says that he has realized the mistake he has made, but he cannot fix now it's too late. I love him to death but I love my boys and myself and they are at age that I know this is molding them. My six yr old ask a lot of questions regarding his new sister. How can I get out of this mess with out making it worse. I know it will hurt for me, but what is the best way that I can walk out of this? Thanks!

2006-09-24 12:23:51 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships Singles & Dating

yes...the boys know who she is...she was an ex-roomate...

I own everything, there is nothing in the house that belongs to him but his clothes and stuff from his hobbies...

I want him to leave since the house, the car, and everything is mines...I just don't see a way without a huge blowout and that is what I am trying to avoid, but apparently, it is not avoidable...

2006-09-24 12:49:26 · update #1

6 answers

"I love him to death..." says it all.
You must learn to love yourself and your sons more than you love this cheating, dependent, lying, immature man. It's time to take charge of yourself and your sons, and leave while you still can.
Is there someone who could help you talk to your sons about all this? Perhaps a school counselor could help.
Good luck.

2006-09-24 12:30:01 · answer #1 · answered by lottyjoy 6 · 0 0

I really think the relationship is over the day he cheated on you and chose his relationship with the other girl. You and the boys weren't enough to begin with and that is why he did it. My guess is get the hell out asap. Tell him your done and you move on. Do something different with your time that you use to be with him. It will make it easier to move on and not be so depressed. Having money for an wedding is an excuse. My wife and I didnt have money when we got together but we managed a license and a trip to city hall just so we can be together and we are still doing fine 20 years later. You can find someone who gives a crap about you and those boys and will know how to treat you the way you deserve. Get out before you end up really sick. Your health and your childrens happiness will be worth it in the long run.

2006-09-24 19:32:56 · answer #2 · answered by Barry G 5 · 0 0

Look it is sad that you cannot put this behind you and move on but on the other hand he has cheated on you so realistically speaking you will never be able to trust him again and this will always come up in future arguements which believe me will always happen, and the nice thing about kids are that they get over it they are still young and when they are older you can explain to them why it happend and why if you do decide to , why you left, but for right this moment until they are that age, make as if you are leaving on great terms and remain friends with him so that the kids never see the hurt or anger you might be feeling, as for the lady that did this with your husband who was she and does she still see your husband , have your kids seen her and him together becuase that will definately cause future problems

2006-09-24 19:31:36 · answer #3 · answered by Dr Danielle 1 · 0 0

Yeah you need to leave him, he's only sorry he got caught and had a baby as the result, you don't know how many other girls he's been with and you don't know about.
When he's gone out, you need to pack up all your stuff and just leave, change your phone numbers so he can't contact you again, sorry but he's playing you for a fool. just think of it like this, he's cheating on you, sleeping with all these other girls, then comes home and sleeps with you, leaves a bad taste in your mouth, right?? you don't know how long he's been cheating on you for, or how many other girls there's been, hell he might have even more children he's hiding from you, you need to leave.

2006-09-24 19:36:47 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0 0

contact your local court house and have him served with a eviction noitice. tell him that you want out of the relationship and you are going to go about it in a professional manner. also tell him that you do not want to discuss it infront of your children. If he trys anything call the police and have him removed from the property then!!!! Hes not worth it. He didnt love you and your children enough to keep himself in his pants. Go out there and find someone better to be a role model for your kids.

2006-09-24 20:19:31 · answer #5 · answered by crystalyn129 3 · 0 0

Why would you even consider being with him after this?! He's sorry he got caught! Do you think it's gonna get better after your married? Think of your boys now and what is best for them.

2006-09-24 19:28:44 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0 0

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