2006-09-24 12:21:04 · 9 answers · asked by juliaguliasoccer 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
We have been living with each other since the day we met....That was 3 years and one child ago... I love him with all my heart..and it would kill me to leave him.. I DONT WANT TO....We were suppose to get married in Aug. but i called it off cuz there were somethings that needed to be worked on and now all of that is worked out I m still nervous for when the big day comes HELP!!
2006-09-24 12:31:03 · update #1
Are you nervous about the ceremony or being married? If it's the ceremony, it's normal to feel that way. I don't know anyone who wasn't nervous. I was terrified that I'd screw up. But then I realized who cares!? It's my closest friends and family there. They don't care. They are there to support me on this special day. Just laugh. It's a happy day and you're surrounded by loved ones.
If you are nervous about whether or not you are marrying the right one, well that's another issue. You need to ask yourself if you really love this person. Faults and all. Do you get along? Make you happy? Support you when things are stressful? Do you want the same things in life? Encourage you? If you've answered yes and can't see yourself without this person then you've made the right choice. If you can't answer yes to at least these questions I'd be really questioning if you're doing the right thing.
2006-09-24 12:30:32 · answer #1 · answered by fiestyredhead 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are two types of nerves... jitters (aka cold feet) and intuition (deep feeling that this is not right). If you love this man but you are just afraid of the change in committment level, then you need to work that one out on your own. Perhaps a psychologist could help you. Nothing wrong with seeking some unbiased help.
But if you are not sure that he is the man for the rest of your life then you need to make that decision sooner rather than later.
As a bride to be myself, I get nervous sometimes. I don't deal well with change. I'm a 30-something woman, very independant, career-driven, own my own home, etc. The idea of sharing my life every day with someone else is frightening. But when you know you love that person and you could not live without them... then you just know. All of those annoying habits he has, and frustrating comments... they would never be enough to make me change my mind!
2006-09-24 14:46:13 · answer #2 · answered by PT&L 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're sure that is really what you want to do, that gets rid of that nervousness. As far as the ceremony goes, probably everyone gets a little nervous. Just take 3 big breaths before you walk down that aisle. Then you can settle down and enjoy the reception after the marriage. Best of luck to you in everything!
2006-09-24 12:30:23 · answer #3 · answered by ~~Fast Eddie~~ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
alcohol helped me!
Seriously, if you've been together to plan a wedding, you're doing good. A wedding is not such a big step as only announcing it to others that you love each other.. and a lil tax break. If you're just now moving in together, then think of it as aquiring the things of his you wanted... as for the rest.... well..... there's always storage.. or even a yard sale.
It doesn't change your relationship, only your expectations from each other.. you should discuss these expectation before the big day... so you both know what you are getting into.
2006-09-24 12:25:51 · answer #4 · answered by WifeandMom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please please please trust your heart. I wish I would have walked away and trusted my gut when I married my ex husband. I was afraid and sick about it when there wasn't anything really "wrong". He was a good man and he loved me in his own way.... But he didn't take my breath away or make my stomach do flips. I told myself that soooo much money was invested in this wedding that I couldn't do that to my parents.... That I couldn't disappoint our guests just because I wasn't sure. We were divorced 6 months later. It just wasn't right and he wasn't the one. I'm now with a wonderful man that I have two children with... I think about him when I wake up and before I go to bed. He can make me weak in the knees with a kiss. He is the one and I wish I would have trusted my instinct the first time around. If you find yourself making excuses why you need to do it then it's not right...
2006-09-24 12:26:02 · answer #5 · answered by lnfinitelylnteresting 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
particular, with the aid of fact I do. i've got faith my determine's poor marriage affected me slightly. yet, I met many men who have been sturdy as datings yet no longer for marriage. i think of many all human beings is likewise worried approximately financial status. Divorce scares every person. I unquestionably have my activity and that i've got my discounts. I honeslty do no longer want to marry a guy who does not take life heavily. i do no longer prefer to spend my discounts with a guy who in no way convey funds at residing house.
2016-10-17 22:00:25 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really love someone & you are 100% sure, there should be no nervousness & no doubts about marrying them.
2006-09-25 04:27:05 · answer #7 · answered by beachbum26 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Close your eyes and breath, slow deep breath in through the nose, and let it out through the mouth.....it really calms the nerves.
2006-09-26 10:31:18 · answer #8 · answered by Ali Z 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just do it
2006-09-24 12:23:28 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋