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About 4 yrs ago I began dating this guy. We dated for 3 yrs and never had a single problem. He was my first love. He joined the Marines and we fell out of touch and things just weren't the same, but we still remained friends. Well I haven't spoke or seen him in about 4 yrs. here recently I got his address and wrote him a letter. Well last night I found out he was in town and I even went to the same party he was at since our friends are basically the same people and I also found out he is looking into moving back. Yes he is single and available and so am I. But my question is what would you do in this kind of situation? Should I see if maybe something is there again or should we just try and remain friends?

2006-09-24 11:52:08 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships Singles & Dating

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You could go either way on this one, but, I am assuming you are a young lady so don't limit yourself when you have options. If you and him click and are good together, then go for it. You have a long and good history with him from what I read, so this alo helps you to feel good about him right from the start. Just ease into it, and see if things click. Give it a little while, and don't be girlfriend-ey from the get-go...just be friends at first even though you were once lovers and see if it goes to the next level. It would not be bad at all to just have him as a friend, too, although it might be weird seeing him with other women considering your past. But friends are good to have too. Good luck!

2006-09-24 11:57:48 · answer #1 · answered by misteri 5 · 1 0

I would try and see if there is something there again. I think you guys would have been together if he hadn't went away. Distance can really create problems and strain for a relationship. You two loved each other, but this was the only thing that got in the way. I would give it another shot since he's back in the picture. You never know why things work out the way they do sometimes, maybe you two are meant to be together. You sound like you still love him and you should act on these feelings you have.

2006-09-24 18:57:52 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

If it was me, i would be thinking of the reasons of why you fell out of touch, did you resent the fact that he joined the marines and left you?. Did you write to him, did he right to you? You dated this guy for 3 years and to this day still remain friends. Solve the problem of the distance first. Get to know each other again. And if it works out. Dont lose touch again. He may be the one.

2006-09-24 19:02:42 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

Well...if you still feel attracted to him and viceversa, and if you know you were able to have a nice, non conflicted relationship with him...I really think you should give it a try. Anyway, you will have a relationship sooner or later and I think it's better with a guy you already know and share friends with, than to try to start from zero with a total stranger.
People change though, so be prepared to discover some new "features". But according to the circumstance you describe, I think you have a pretty good chance to have a good, fulfilling relationship.

2006-09-24 18:59:52 · answer #4 · answered by Mardesal 2 · 0 0

You never really had a falling out but just sort of drifted apart...
Maybe he's matured in his time away and is more ready for a serious relationship.
If you're both single and available as you say, then what reason is there not to go for it!?! Is he still attracted to you? Worst case scenario is that he'll "just" want to be friends.

2006-09-24 19:01:06 · answer #5 · answered by pat z 7 · 0 0

Test the waters, he wont be the same person as he was before going into the Marines and you may want to get the new him first...

2006-09-24 19:12:01 · answer #6 · answered by ABBYsMom 7 · 0 0

well just go down on there and talk to him. I would basically get to know what has been up after all these years. and see if things can hit off good, go dating with him.

2006-09-24 18:55:47 · answer #7 · answered by mystic_lonewolf22 5 · 0 0

If you still feel the spark go for it. Start by asking him to lunch to catch up on old times. PS my husband & I were friends for years before we got romantically involved. We would still just be friends if I hadn't given him the kiss of his life. :)

2006-09-24 18:58:17 · answer #8 · answered by opposummomma 2 · 0 0

Friends first then see what happens-people can change quite a lot in 4yrs,if the feelings are mutual,then go for it.

2006-09-24 18:57:20 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

Maybe remain friends until he decides he wants to hook back up! Take it one day at a time and if it does happen that he wants to hook back up, go for it. Maybe it is meant to be for u and him

2006-09-24 18:55:18 · answer #10 · answered by good4u06@verizon.net 2 · 0 0

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