My boyfriend and I have been together for 2 yrs. now, we love eachother very much. We have become very comfortable around eachother and he doesnt do any of the sweet stuff that he used to and he seems like he just doesnt care anymore. I know he loves me and I love him too but I feel like its either going to end soon or get worse. What should I do???
2006-09-24 11:36:38 · 29 answers · asked by ~Cupcake~ 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
TALK TO HIM ABOUT THAT!! RELATIONSHIP IS BUILT ON COMMUNICATION. THAT'S THE ONLY WAY TO SAVE THIS OR ANY RELATIONSHIP. AFTER ALL, U R A TEAM!! UR SUPPOSED TO SOLVE ALL UR PROBLEMS TOGETHER!
2006-09-24 11:39:24 · answer #1 · answered by Stella 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The problem is that you two have gone past the "infatuation" stage of your relationship. This is where you two stop feeling incredible spellbound by one another and start treating each other like normal people you see on a regular basis. This is where most relationships end, but that doesn't mean that you two will, the fact that you've stuck together for 2 years, shows that you two definitely have potential. He probably feels that everything is fine, he's just hasn't gone to the pump to fill up his romance tank in a while. The fire of your love life hasn't gone out yet you just need to throw some gas on the pile, and spark it up. You might want to have a dinner together or have a night out on the town. Don't forget to wear that dress that he likes. If you give people a chance to surprise you they will. I hope this helped, good luck
2006-09-24 18:48:17 · answer #2 · answered by binhducduong 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know what you are going through, it's just that he's become comfortable around you, and 'safe'. See, at first, like all dating, there is an element of wanting to please and satisfy so you'll stay together, and this stage is obviously passed. However, if you are in love and can trust each other, just let him know how you feel and things should get better. Suggest you do something new and spontaneous, either in the bedroom or a fun weekend trip or something- just something differnt and exciting. You both are probably bored and hopefully you can work things out. Good luck!:)
2006-09-24 18:41:19 · answer #3 · answered by misteri 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is what happens in normal relationships. You get comfortable together and forget the nice things. Relationships are work! I have been married years and most if not all the sweet stuff is gone. I hope it comes back but there are some many other things in our life now. Good Luck!
2006-09-24 18:39:38 · answer #4 · answered by Yoda 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh honey this is natural for a guy. Once they have you, they start letting themselves go. Dont think things are getting bad, he just doenst want to put forth any work in it now that he has you. You have to keep him on his toes. Dont make him think that he has you by the tail. Get up and demand some attention. Go out on dates like you used to. Sometimes you have to make some moves too. He might be thinking the same thing about you. But men only do romance for one thing...sex. Now that he's getting that, he doesnt have to work towards it anymore. But dont be so willing to do things for him as much. He will take advantage. Anyone would. Make him get off his *** and take you out. Tell him how you feel. Dont let him get away with that. Tell him a girl still wants romance in her life. Try your best to stay young and go out like you used to. Make time for romance, and it will start back again.
2006-09-24 18:44:35 · answer #5 · answered by peachturnover 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, Cupcake.... It's that way after a relationship grows. You're comfortable with one another, and that's normal. Do you spontaneously do sweet things to remind him of the romance? Try a little something off the wall, out of the ordinary, maybe he might get the hint. You could also just come out and be honest how you feel.
2006-09-24 18:42:56 · answer #6 · answered by LARGE MARGE 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
End it. The first breakup is just a preview of the final break up. As for being in love, well, I love my brother but I don't want to date him. Love can change. It doesn't mean you hate eachother to break up. You're not married, and if you can't ever see yourselves married, why waste more time? Be friends. It actually does work, after a cooling off period.
2006-09-24 18:39:53 · answer #7 · answered by Elizabeth T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can truly undestand what you are saying. My wife complains about the same thing. She tells me that I used to be very romantic and did a lost of small things which brought her a lot of happiness. All this was during our courship. However, after marriage she complains that all is gone and that I take relationship for granted. I sat about thinking about it and I did find some truth in what she thinks.
During coursship guys tend to be insecure and do all that is necessary to make the relationship strong. And once that happens they tend to get lethargic and take it for granted. I beleive this is what is happening in your case. I don;t know a solution to this.
Talk to your BF about this and let him know how you feel. Try to ignore him (may be) so that you get your attention. All I am saying is you got to understand his point of view as well. It does not mean that he loves you any less. May be it is just the way God made us. Good luck.
2006-09-24 18:43:27 · answer #8 · answered by syd_gattaca 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you are thinking about taking a break for a few weeks or maybe a month. This might make him think of you a lot when you are gone and maybe some of those old feelings will come back for him. Not that they aren't there, but maybe he will start doing the things that he used to do.
2006-09-24 18:40:02 · answer #9 · answered by j.tech_77 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's kind of hard to tell,but i think he has someone else in the picture.But i could be wrong.It also could be that he feels he doesn't have to do all the sweet things anymore,because you will stay with him no matter what.I would set down with him and talk to him about the things that you are feeling,and ask why.I hope you will get some answer's.
2006-09-24 18:41:42 · answer #10 · answered by silly_girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to find a way to spice it up a bit. It sounds like you are depending entirely on him for this, when it is a partnership. You have to invest some effort, yourself.
You may need to find some time to be apart, also, to see just how 'uncomfortable" you might be.
There's nothing wrong with comfortable; it's the boredom that hurts. You need to address that.
2006-09-24 18:41:34 · answer #11 · answered by seeitmiway32 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋