black and white going out?

Question

my friends were arguing about white guys going out with black girls and black guys going out with white girls. My one friend said that it wasn't okay for black girls to go out with white guys because they were only suppose to go out with their own race. I almost smacked her because she gave me the look when she said it, because i go out with white guys. Than my other friend said that it was okay for black guys to go out with white girls because guys aren't suppose to care about skin color! What is up with that?!

Answer 1

Everyone should be able to date who ever they feel comfortable and compatible with. Seems as though your friend is either jealous or racist. The matter that you like someone should not be determined by the shade of their skin.

Answer 2

That's all so stupid, typical for races to be protective about their women. The guys can sleep with whatever race and the women can't or something. I don't know, it all sounds unreal to me.

I think there's more racism in America simply because they're all stuffed in together and mixed. People tend to stick to their own kind that's all. It always seems to me there's more racism in countries with much immigration.

I don't see the problem why black women can't date white men. Or the other way around.

Answer 3

You have an odd group of friends. There's nothing wrong with going out with someone of a different race, white or otherwise.
But if you go out with whites thinking they are better than blacks or other races, then that's wrong. Maybe that's the real reason you get the look, even if it's not true.

Answer 4

I'm also a "minority" and sometimes I dream about everyone in the world mixing it up so that the whole world will be mixed-race and pretty. But that's reverse racism, so it doesn't really work either.

Ignore your friends, or better yet, tell them you can date whoever you please. Double standards are so annoying. Whether it's their own race or a different one, I think it's totally fine for people to be attracted to whoever they're attracted to. Some people are weirded out by bi-racial couples, but I think over time society will get more and more acclimated to it.

Answer 5

Ask her where the hell she got her rules from! I went out with a black guy. So let me get this straight....Whites cant be racist, but blacks can huh. Practice what you preach sister! Ask your friend why the heart should have to choose the same color. You are the one going out with this guy. Its no ones business who you go out with. When is America going to grow up and realize that the same God that made one color...made the other ones too?!! Follow you heart and let those sterotypes be lonely and hard in their lives. You are responsible for your life. Live it how you want.

Answer 6

you will always run into people who don't agree with your choices.no one can tell you who you should be with.you can't help who your heart chooses to love.inter-racial relationships can be extremely difficult,but don't let that keep you from being with someone who makes you happy.don't date outside your race if it is only to draw attention to yourself.i am bi-racial and i married a white guy.my life wasn't easy, but that was mostly the time i grew up in.inter-racial relationships and mixed children are more common.hypocrisy and racism don't just surround black/white relationships.there are many races/nationalites that don't approve of mixed-dating.date who you want.love who you will.be strong when surrounded by negativity.don't let other's opinions bring you down.if someone is a true friend he/she will support you no matter who you are dating.your friends should be more concerned with how that person treats you than the color of his skin.love on!

Answer 7

You seem to be on the right track: this is the new millenium and we should not evaluate each other on our looks(race, ethnicity)but on who we are. Unfortunately a lot of people have double standards...but listen to this one: dogs and cats have a lot of different races, they come in all sizes, purebred, mixed mutts--but none of them is declared a different race---so why do human beings want to do that to another group of human beings.
Racism can work both ways. I am caucasian, my son is married with a white girl, my stepdaughter who is black, is married with a white guy---who wants to be the judge on "our race" vs."your race"? There is only one race and that race is homo sapiens--mankind. I get sick and tired of these attitudes because we are all one PEOPLE not a bunch of different "kinds"

Answer 8

Your friend sounds pretty crazy. Why would she think it wrong for a black woman to date a white man? Does she have some kind of insecurity thing going on?

Answer 9

Well in my opinion, a literal view of Genesis would solve all aspects of racism. The belief that we all come from 1 man and 1 woman then later from Noah and his wife, and his 3 sons and their 3 wives.

There are several ways that racism has taken hold.
One is an allegorical interpretation of Genesis. They think Noah's wife was a descendant of Cain and Ham had sexual relations with her and created the black race.

Hinduism is known for its caste system which does have levels of racism within it.

Aryanism and Zoroastrianism are/were both religions with racist elements.

Nazis and Hitler borrowed ideas from Aryanism, Hinduism, and Charles Darwin in their desire to breed out what they considered inferior races.

Some people think it would be difficult on the kids from interracial reltionships. They say that they wouldn't know where to fit in and that both ethnicities would reject them.

In the Bible, Moses married an Ethiopian woman. His brother Aaron and sister Miriam told him off for marrying another race. God put leprosy on Miriam for her racist remarks. Moses later stood in the gap for her, prayed for Miriam, and she was sent out of the camp for a time and her leprosy was cured.

An African man helped Jesus carry his cross.

The Bible condemns racism. It never speaks against mixed marriages. The closest thing to it is talking about marriage and says, "Don't be unequally yoked with unbelievers." Which means to not get Romantically involved with nonChristians.

Answer 10

People are just weird and irrational in their opinions. I have a close white friend who fell for a black woman. He was, I thought, one of the most racist white guys I knew. She sure changed HIS attitude!

I also have two good friends who are black men, and who both married white women.

You can't chose who you fall for. Your friends will just have to learn to deal.