about 6 months ago i started dating this guy. we considered ourselfs to be bf and gf. but after 3 months he sayes he doesnt want a gf right now, but he wants to stay friends. but nothing has changed in our relationship, we still hang out, we still talk to eachother every day, we see eachother no more/less then when we were "dating", and the sex hasnt slowed down any. i still consider us as a couple but he doesnt. and i dont get it. im 26 and havent dated for about 7 yrs. (i was married and devorced by 19 and wasnt looking for anything. so i feel out of the loop on dating.) hes 31 and was the one to pursue the relationship. i have met his family but he dosnt have any desire for me to meet his friends and wont take me to his bars or hangouts. im not sure what to think of the relationship. ive been sceptical of the relationship from the beginning. and im 95% sure that hes not "cheating". i have yet to find any evidence to suggest that. why not just say were dating? is he hiding something?
2006-09-24 11:27:51 · 7 answers · asked by dsasie1 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i think in plain words he is just not ready for a commited relationship, meaning a REAL one. those 6 months were probably wild, fun, exotic, enjoying and now what? what is suppose to come next? the answer is: a commitment...and what does he think? he doesnt seem to be too ready for that. that is why he isnt taking you to meet his friends, because if he did he would have to introduce them to you as "THE girlfriend" than, "the-girl-i-just-met-6-months-". and thats a seroius thing. the guy seems like a down to earth guy, who doesn want to just play around but needs to make a decision. i mean he can be an a$shole and simply get commited and then go off and break up.
i think the reason why he is still seeing you, still having sex, still talking, is because he likes you very much, but is NOT sure whetehr he wants to get further.
talk to him, maybe he might just need a little pat on the back and say , 'yes im ready for a commitment, are you?' if not, cut the relatioship off, its not getting anywhere and he isnt deciding, and that isnt the most healthiest thing in a couple. choose one or the other.
2006-09-24 11:38:18 · answer #1 · answered by sueet2b 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
We all have reasons for staying in an unsatisfying relationship. If you are happy and willing to accept his level of commitment then all is good. If, on the other hand, you are wanting more..like an open and honest public disclosure of the nature of your relationship, then something has to change. Let him know what you want or need from him. Communication is one of the most, if not THE most important thing in a relationship. Let him know very clearly what you need and want from him, including being included in his circle of friends. Something doesn't "ring true" in this relationship. You admitted it yourself. Trust your gut instincts..it's really your very soul talking to you. You do not need to accept poor behaviour from your bf..or anyone else for that matter. Good luck.
Dave
2006-09-24 18:44:50 · answer #2 · answered by Dave B 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't mean to be mean but you are nothing but sex to him. Get out now. He is only using you for sex. I am sure you don't want to be someones piece of ***. He has no feeling 4 you except a place to get laid when he needs it. If a man will sleep with you and then tell you that he doesn't want a girl friend that means he already has a girl friend. You are just sex on the side.
2006-09-24 18:39:49 · answer #3 · answered by Sarcastic Sid 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he obviously is not ready to settle down and from what you say, you are ready. If you have been skeptical from the beginning it's time to move on unless you decide that you would like to being in this loose relationship of sorts.
2006-09-24 18:32:19 · answer #4 · answered by jvickers82 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yea hes either playing around or does not want to settle down yet.
2006-09-24 18:49:54 · answer #5 · answered by Tan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like a player to me...........or he is scared about something.......31 well he shouldnt be...but who am i to say anything i want a relationship and im 25........
2006-09-24 18:36:09 · answer #6 · answered by carguyseeksanyone 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Something seems wrong.
2006-09-24 18:38:15 · answer #7 · answered by Niceguy 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋