there for me. I won't go on like this. I won't let them rule me.
2006-09-24 11:20:46 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You have to love your family...If not you will always have issues and never be able to move on with your life.
Just thing oh that Uncle John drinks too much and never thanks me when I buy his shopping but despite his faults I love him.
As it is family you must also treat them like firends and be honest with them, never lose your temper because when you do that the argument is already lost, but in time they will appreciate your honesty and your relationship with them will be able to move on.
I know this is hard on you but believe me eventually it helps.
2006-09-24 11:32:47 · answer #1 · answered by Slasher 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can pick your friends, but you cant pick your family. Ask yourself this. "Would I accept a friend treating me this way?" If it was a friend doing this would you tell them you are not prepared to accept their unnacceptable behaviour?
What makes the way a family member/s treat you any different? You are a human being, you may be a son or a daughter or mother or father but we all deserve to be treated fairly and just because it is "family" doesnt make it right if a family member treats you unfairly.
You need to assert your rights, tell them you are not prepared to accept their treatment of you. You do have that right.
I have an older sister...there is no way I would have chosen her as my friend...she is greedy and nasty and talks down to me. I had to put up with her when I was growing up because she was "family". When I was old enough to realise that my sister is nothing more than a money hungry selfish person that I wouldnt normally associate with, I cut ties with her...I dont need people like that in my life sister or no sister....I have good friends who appreciate me....I dont need the constant criticisms of a family member. Ever since I made that decision my life has been wonderful...I havent got to "prove" anything to anyone. Getting rid of my sister out of my life was the best thing I ever did.
2006-09-24 18:49:49 · answer #2 · answered by rightio 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seeing as I'm experiencing the same issues I'll be very interested to see what the response are. I would suggest creating some distance between you and your family. I recently lost my grandmother who basically raised me and now my family is giving me the treatment that she use to get. I want to walk away but I feel the pressure and aggreviation will follow. I know this didn't help very much but it's nice to know you're not alone.
Take care,
Spice
2006-09-24 18:26:58 · answer #3 · answered by DontTell 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, we can't pick our family... fortunately just because they are family doesn't mean we have to suffer them. don't be a doormat, don't expect anything from them (you only set yourself up for disappointment) and stand your ground. Be happy in your life, they should respect that.. if not, they are not considering you at all. Screw em
2006-09-24 18:32:53 · answer #4 · answered by WifeandMom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can you talk with your family about it? Because sometimes people don't realise how cruel they really are to another being.
2006-09-24 18:23:22 · answer #5 · answered by Everona97 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is true that those we love the most can hurt us the most-remember that time passes and changes all things-hang in there!
2006-09-24 18:25:48 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i sometimes have the same problem but it usually has to do with money, like i'm their personal bank!
2006-09-24 18:23:43 · answer #7 · answered by Little Ms Taz chic 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know, just tel them to stop. Tell them to leave.
2006-09-24 18:26:00 · answer #8 · answered by thehutch86 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋