My ex is obsessed with making my life hell and has taken me to court EVERY YEAR since we split - wasting the courts time and upsetting the children each time. He has now sent me a letter saying he is doing it again - is there ought I can do?
2006-09-24 11:14:31 · 24 answers · asked by Kris B 2 in Politics & Government ➔ Law Enforcement & Police
I don't think you can, if the case should not be there in court the judge will throw it out
2006-09-24 11:18:32 · answer #1 · answered by luke.1981 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Divorce law is weird that way. He is probably using the children as a loop hole to continue this behavior. I would consider that you get a good lawyer to look at this situation. As with everything, people take others to court because they want something. Let a good lawyer write a contract for you stating certain boundaries that your ex is not to cross or they will not get what they want. You can put anything into a contract, such as, you agree to not bring court proceedings against me unless this happens etc. A really good lawyer will cost a little more but it may be your only chance at peace of mind.
Example: I worked for a lady lawyer who was on such bad terms with her ex (also a lawyer) that they were court ordered to only communicate by fax! That allowed her to stop him from coming to her work, phoning, and other such disturbances.
2006-09-24 11:23:49 · answer #2 · answered by r_k_winters 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I suppose it depends on why he keeps taking you to court and whether he is successful in court.
If he is not and these seem to be malicious, time wasting exercises, I would speak to the police about harassment - ensure you have all your evidence to back up your claim.
It would probably be worth seeking legal advice to prove that this chap is wasting your time, that of the courts and probably also the tax payers money. Perhaps he can then be prevented from doing the same in the future.
But you have to take action.
2006-09-27 05:00:07 · answer #3 · answered by Sally J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is a technical term called a 'vexatious litigant' which is technical way of saying the person is persistent pain in the a... and has no merit in their claim. Whether the circumstances apply in your case I don't know but explore them with your solicitor and get them to explain it to you in detail. It's not something you can easily do yourself and it's something the courts will rule upon but if they do it basically means the person has to have the permission of the court before they can bring an action against you.
2006-09-24 11:57:11 · answer #4 · answered by on thin ice 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Do you have a lawyer?
If you do, and you find there is nothing you can do, then laugh it off. Teach your kids to, as well.
Call it a family get-together ,and be happy.
What is he taking you to court for?
Perhaps a lwyer can help you with harrassment issues.
Either way, whoever your lawyer was for the divorce may be your best bet.
First fo all, get a restarining order so he himaself can not contact you or send letters without being in violation.
Are the letters his, or from the court?
Protect yourself.
If you don't, then your doomed to relive this.
You left him, so now stand your ground. It's your job as a woman and as a mom.
Good luck
2006-09-24 11:25:01 · answer #5 · answered by Fitchurg Girl 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yes, find a hit man to sort him out, that should then stop you having to go to court each year although you will most likely have to go one more time if you get found out but it should be only the once.
2006-09-24 23:03:41 · answer #6 · answered by Bluebird 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A great way to get your ex back is https://tr.im/ywT8y
They might realize they need you and come crawling back!
If you do get back together, don't let the same issues that destroyed your relationship crop up again. Have a good, long talk about how you're both going to make it right this time.
2015-01-29 00:27:19 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is what is called "out of court settlement" done by mostly rich people including you as well
but your case sounds like its got a lot of issues you did not disclose .
any way
you just need to talk to him find out how best you can settle the issues outside the court . with your solicitors present explore the case all aggreements signed on paper
2006-09-24 11:33:27 · answer #8 · answered by teecee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have to go to court go never fail to appear...and if he has grounds to sue you every year then that's his right I think the guys an *** personally to sue someone every year and upset the children I would talk to a lawyer about malicious prosecution, most agree to give free consaltations and they let you know what you should do...good luck!
2006-09-24 11:23:34 · answer #9 · answered by YD 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There must be a reason why hes taking you to court, is it for the custody of the kids? An owing debt? Whatever it is hire a good solictor, who will sort it out.
2006-09-24 11:21:44 · answer #10 · answered by lonely as a cloud 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a solicitor and explain everything to him. Let him know how much this is upsetting the children and ask him if he can find out if your ex is going to fin anything else to disrupt your lives. If you cant afford a solicitor you can get help!
2006-09-24 11:26:01 · answer #11 · answered by mistickle17 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋