I really need help here. How do you deal with a younger half-sister who doesn't understand what the term "half-sister" means and thinks it means not a sister at all and not a member of the family?
My younger half-sister just doesn't understand that we are "half-sisters" because we have different fathers, and treats me like her personal servant and nanny and denies that I am family and treats me accordingly. How can I not be her sister when the same woman who gave birth to her also gave birth to me? But she just doesn't realise that. She has her fiance's family convinced that I am not family and am just a room and board tenant. What can I do about this? Talking to her never works: if I have a problem with her and try to talk to her about it, she does the "I never did that" deny, deny, deny routine. And talking to my parents doesn't work either: mom sides with her and says I'm over-reacting and gets mad at me, and my step-dad doesn't even seem to care. Any advice?
2006-09-24 11:12:02 · 9 answers · asked by cherrycharmca 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Angelfish, what do you mean by sponging?
I am not sponging off her in any way. In fact, she's the one doing the sponging, treating me like I'm her servant and the family nanny.
2006-09-24 11:43:35 · update #1
i'd tell her to shut the **** up and that she needs to learn that you are half sister and if she can't axcpet that then you are going to make her life a living ****!!!! GOOD LUCK!!
2006-09-24 11:17:09 · answer #1 · answered by Mater_rocks!! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think your sister knows fairly well that her mom is siding with her and that gives her a lot of security to treat you like you like she does. She picked up an attitude that her father propably started by not caring about you. Do the same to her treat her like she is not family and doesnt belong. maybe shell come to realize that what she does is wrong and hurts people. If she doesnt come around i can only advice you to start living your life like you want it and leave her out of it because you cant make her see things your way.
I have 2 step-siblings, 1 twinn and two half-brothers and the fact that we are mostly not from the same father, mother or blood related at all didnt ever matter to either of us. We knew about it but we grew up being treated equally and it never gave any problems like that. Of course their was jealousy and other things like that but our perants never sided with anyone. if we got in trouble we were all punished.
I think your sister is treating you this way cause she knows there is nothing you can do about it since she has your mom and her dad on her side. And even though they may not know it they taught your sister to act this way towards you.
2006-09-24 11:54:12 · answer #2 · answered by purple butterfly 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are adults now be smart. If she denies that you are "half sisters" then deny it to. I've learnt not to sponge on people because the more you sponge the more they gravitate away from you. You need to let her be and move on with your life. It's not worth fussing over. I have a half sister and i've only seen her once and it doesnt bother me. I'm ok with it. You will be too.
2006-09-24 11:23:07 · answer #3 · answered by angelfish 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think of you're lacking the section approximately the way it pertains to the parent;; evidentally, the guy who feels that this person is a sister, won't be too keen on, or won't have that bond with the different parent;; while the only that words 'a million/2' nonetheless connects to the different parent...& the youngster that belongs to the two between the mum and dad, of direction would sense 'sister' & no longer a million/2...wish this facilitates, yet purely one attitude...
2016-10-01 08:00:48 · answer #4 · answered by sashi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW! you must be real irritated.You know the truth.Reacting is not working.Remember that you can't change somebody else's behavior .You can only change your own behavior.Treat her like you want to be treated like a sister and try to ignor the behavior. It is too bad that she treats you this way. I hope this doesn't happen to my 2 granddaughters who are half siblings. They are too young to realize the fact yet.
2006-09-24 11:22:22 · answer #5 · answered by nancy e 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That’s very messed up I have two half brothers but I just see them as my brothers and never even think of them as ½ even though they are. Maybe you could try explaining in a different term “We are only ½ sisters by blood, but we are full sisters where it counts”
2006-09-24 11:33:34 · answer #6 · answered by Spread Peace and Love 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my 6 yr. old 1/2 bro thinks i am adopted or something, & always asks me how i got into the family & why i'm here. i will just have to wait until he is old enough for "the talk" & i'll explain it to him then. you can do something like that or try to set her down & expain that it takes a mom & dad to have a baby & that you 2 share a parent.
2006-09-24 11:24:31 · answer #7 · answered by Chels 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think she wants to have a sister type relatinship with you. And you can never make her have one. Just be a biotch to her.
2006-09-24 11:17:52 · answer #8 · answered by justanotheruser 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
wow
2006-09-24 11:15:20 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋