If you don't then great, this is not directed at you. But I see stay at home moms on here all the time with a "I am a better mother than you" attitude. One prime example is a woman who's answer to another question that I just read. This is exactly what she said, "why have kids AT ALL if you are going to pay someone else to raise them?" Now if that isn't an obvious jab to working mothers, then I don't know what is! If a mother can afford to stay at home full time with her kids, wonderful. And by "afford" I mean no welfare, food stamps, or any type of public assistance. But just because a woman has to work for a living to support her children, does not make her any less a good mother than a stay at home mom. We love our kids just as much as SAHM's do, unfortunatly to feed and clothe them, we do have to work. So again I ask, why do some SAHM's think they are better mothers than those of us who work? Don't we deserve to have children just as much as you?
2006-09-24 10:52:54 · 26 answers · asked by LittleMermaid 5 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Fruity girl: I have seen numerous examples on Yahoo Answers over the past couple of months that back me up, so I know that there are SAHM or have a "holier than thou" attitude on here. I don't need praise, I just need the mothers on here to have a little respect for us working moms.
2006-09-24 11:00:55 · update #1
I was a SAHM for about 18 months, so I have nothing at all against a SAHM. I just feel that all moms who care for and love their kids deserve equal respect.
2006-09-24 11:12:17 · update #2
For several years I was a stay at home mom and although I didn't look down on those that worked to me I felt like it was a choice. Give up some of the luxeries and you could stay home to type of thing, then I got a divorce and was one of those moms leaving her kid in daycare 10 hours a day to go work somewhere and still barely make ends meet. I think working mom's have it hard because you don't have a choice you do what you have to do and know that you are missing out on things with your kids you don't need other people to tell you that. Now I am back to staying at home and helping run our farm while my husband works and I am seeing that my kids actually behaved better and were more independant, cleaned up after them selves all of that when I was working than now that I am home. SAHM's need to think about that we are takin advantage of by our kids and even if they say they aren't they are without even seeing it. Both are equal and no one should be judged because they work.
2006-09-24 12:16:35 · answer #1 · answered by Martha S 4 · 4⤊ 1⤋
both are good moms. its nice to be able to stay at home and take care of your kids but many simply cannot afford to. Besides, staying at home is not the only way to raise a child - it takes a villages to raise a child. There is not evidence that the daycare system messes up you kids. As long as, when you get home from work, you are not neglecting your children. Being a good parent is about quality parenting, not necessarily about being at home every second of the day. I think that you can still make your children the priority while being a working mum at the same time
2016-03-18 00:52:58 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I saw that comment and thought the exact same thing. I've been both, a working mom and a SAHM. Staying at home is nice, but it gets boring after awhile. Soap Operas suck. Now I'm a half and half. lol I'm at home most of the time, but I also work (very) part-time at the local police department filing. I'm an NCMA and phlebotomist by trade, but I don't want to work 8+ hours a day because day care is highway robbery! If I need to go back to work full time, I will, but I don't consider myself any better or any worse because I can sit on my butt all day and watch TV while the kids are at school.
2006-09-24 11:05:01 · answer #3 · answered by jenpeden 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I will say that I am a SAHM and I feel the same way... I have to deal with the moms that think they are better than everyone.
I do not get ANY help from the State at all......... MY hat is off to ALL THE WORKING MOM"S it is very hard to do..... Not only so you work full time you have a full time job with you're kids,,,,, Don't let the other Mom's bother you...
2006-09-24 12:13:23 · answer #4 · answered by Mrs. Getz 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I do not think stay at home moms or working moms are no better than each other because if you decide to stay at home with your children thta is just something you chose if you decide to work that means there is alot more out there that you want your children to have
2006-09-24 11:01:41 · answer #5 · answered by Juicy 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yes, you do and I am sorry that some over-opinionated women have offended you. I am fortunate enough to stay at home with my little one but sometimes wish that I was working. I think all SAHM's feel that was sometimes if they would admit it.
You can be a great Mom no matter if you stay at home or if you work. And a person can be a horrible Mom even if they stay at home! As long as we spend quality time with our children, impart out values to them and make sure they know that they are loved, we have done our jobs!
One thing is for sure. Your children will know that having a good work ethic is important as they watch their Mom helping to support the family.
2006-09-24 10:59:43 · answer #6 · answered by Mrs J 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Hey girl, take it down a 1000, I am a mother of 6, yeah 6, and I work, and have been a stay at home mom and when im not working I feel that mothers that work have better options than i do, It doesn't have to be true, thats just what i feel. I think that women that have children, and take care them to the fullest, should be applauded for doing their job, juggling work and children, oh and dont have a hubby, then thats even more,lol. Point is: If you can raise children and still provide for them by being in the workforce, more power to ya girl, and dont even let what dem hater's say, keep doing ya thang and keep up the good work!! (That womans comment was silly, we being women and mothers should stick together and not kicking each other when they are down.
2006-09-24 11:12:11 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
I am a working mom and i love what i do and i love my children as well. I see no diference between a woman who works and another one that doesnt work. By the way, in the time i stay at home (last year) only 6 months after my baby was born, i really had a bad time and felt very much depress. I like to buy my own things and i believe i am very independent. I always wonder, what if my husband dies tomorrow and i dòn't work? it will be a disaster!!!
2006-09-24 10:59:00 · answer #8 · answered by ∂ιαиα †Matisyahu† 7 · 2⤊ 2⤋
I know from a mans point of view the stay at home mom has a thankless job .There in no time card to punch ,You are at work 24/7 .You are a main ,child care giver ,chef ,financial advisor ,chauffeur,nurse ,domestic home care worker ,sex slave ,dishwasher and so on .
I had an ex wife who did nothing .I worked night shift and had to do the jobs mentioned earlier .
It was no picnic .I couldn`t wait to go to work so I could have a normal routine .
I give all my praise to stay at home Moms .
My mother was and I thank her for that .Neither my 2 brothers or myself ever went to jail .
2006-09-24 11:06:33 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am a strong believer that women should stay home with their children and the husband should be the one working. I do think its wrong to have someone else raising your children. I am going to be a stay at home mother until my children are all in high school or college. That's the way it should be. I do not think I am better then anyone else. I do believe that I am making better choices for my children though.
2006-09-24 16:17:35 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋