We agreed to go out on a certain date, but if he doesn't call for two days prior to our date, is it normal? We work together and we see each other almost everytime we work, but if he doesn't call the last two days before the date and during work, if he doesn't say much, just smiles, does that mean he lost interest and doesn't want to go on the date anymore? Am I overanalyzing? I really liked this guy so that's why I'm putting a lot of thought into this.
If you think I should find out if he lost interest or not, should I call the day before the date? How should I ask him if we're still on? He's the type who doesn't like to hurt people's feelings therefore will go on the date anyway just to make the other person happy because he's too much of a coward to be honest. So how can I tell what he's really feeling?
I'd appreciate it if you respond to most or all points in the question...
2006-09-24 10:51:55 · 16 answers · asked by pureessence 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
1. No it doesn't necessarily mean he's lost interest. You already agreed on the date! Maybe he's just trying not to smother you.
2. Yes, you're overanalyzing.
3. If he still hasn't approached you to iron out the details of the date by later in the day on the day before the date... it might be time to start moving. Guys have a tendency to forget things, so a casual "Hey, so are we still on for tomorrow?" in the hallway at work might be a good way to remind him. Chances are he's remembered, though.
4. You can probably guage how he feels about you on the date. If he's attentive, kind, thoughtful.... you're good to go!
2006-09-24 10:58:36 · answer #1 · answered by lj3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Chill out and quit reading so much into it. Just wait until the day before, then approach him and say, "Hey, what time tomorrow?" as if you are completely confident that things are going as planned. If he looks at you like you are crazy, you will know he has lost interest. But odds are, he will smile and say, "How about 7 o'clock?" at which point you can just play it cool and say, "Great, I'll look forward to seeing you then." Then, while on your date, you can drop a subtle hint that he should have taken the initiative to call you a day or so before the date to set things up.
2006-09-24 18:01:42 · answer #2 · answered by Desiderata of Happiness 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he hasnt rang you then maybe he is hoping that you had forgotten, if he was really interested he would have said something or done something. Would you really want to go on a date with this guy cause your always going to be thinking does he really want to be here. And yes he is a coward most men are because they cant tell the truth. Just leave it with him dont be to forward if he wants you he knows where you are dont make yourself so available to him men like the chase, try flirting with other guys not over the top but just that little bit to get his attention back towards you. Good luck babe
2006-09-24 18:03:59 · answer #3 · answered by chaneluk 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do think you are over analyzing. Guys don't fret over the small details. They live in the moment. I think that you may want to say something like "Can't wait for Saturday...' or something like that. Just to let him know that you are looking forward to your date. If you two see each other everyday, I don't think he necessarily has to call you every day.
Although, if you think that he is a "coward" and would not be honest with you--why are you going??? You need to first think why you want to go with him in the first place.
2006-09-24 18:02:07 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I think calling is a good idea, maybe you should call during the day and ask if your still on for that night. And if you want to know if he really wants to go out with you just be straight forward and ask. Hopefully you'll be able to spot if he's lying. :)
2006-09-24 17:57:16 · answer #5 · answered by Pop princess 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe he still has interest, but i think u should call him the day before and ask if u r still on for the date and if he says yes and ask u why u asked him, just tell him that were just curios because he didn't say anything, for the past couple of days.
2006-09-24 18:00:26 · answer #6 · answered by nick 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
while your on your date just ask. Don't do it in the office because he can still brush you off if he wants. However on the date he has no choice but to give you some type of answer.
2006-09-24 17:55:45 · answer #7 · answered by baby girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just ask him the day before the date if you are still on. he will either say yes or no. go on the date. you will be able to tell if he is interested in you or not. watch his actions and reactions. good luck.
2006-09-24 17:56:16 · answer #8 · answered by panther 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe he is a really shy guy. I think you may be just a little paranoid or insecure yourself. Have you been hurt or stood up before? Girlfriend you have got to have tougher skin then this in the dating world
2006-09-24 18:00:34 · answer #9 · answered by Magica! Star 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think he might just be nervous that's all but watch how he is at the date and if he really seems interested
2006-09-24 17:54:44 · answer #10 · answered by Taylor 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋