ok so this guy..i have been meeting him and stuff..and we mess around...like kiss...and etc...and we have also gone pretty far...but the problem is...i dont think he is willing to commit..he just wants someone to hang around with i guess and do this stuf with...but i want him to start liking me and getting attached to me..so wat i want to know is...if i keep going around with him and hanging out..eventually will he start feeling something for me? doesnt sex make two people emotionally attached? Does that ever happen? Or is it just that a guy who wont commit will always be out just looking for fun...HOW CAN I GET HIM TO GET EMOTIONALY ATTAChed TO ME?!!! REPLY PLZ!!
2006-09-24 10:44:26 · 18 answers · asked by sneha 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
In my experience, if you are already going 'pretty far' and he has no attachment for you then it is not going to change. I would be very careful with what you do with him since 'accidents happen' (pregnancy) and if he is not wanting to commit then a baby will just push him farther away! Also, sex may make a girl get emotionally attached, but for a guy it just makes him lucky. I would just get over him and move on. Best of luck!
2006-09-24 10:48:39 · answer #1 · answered by keri0426 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you want him to become attached then you need to not hang around him and if you do then don't even kiss him good night after like a week or so he will start to wonder what is up and should ask you and you just tell him you don't wanna do that stuff with out a relationship because that is what tramps do and whatever you do not give him the sex he will have no respect for you
"Why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free"
2006-09-24 10:51:13 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If all he is looking for is a physical relationship with you and you provide it he will continue to come around. If you let him know that you want something more substantial and are willing to withhold the physical unless he can make a commitment to you, you will quickly find out where you stand in his life. This may sound like extortion, but think about it: Haven't you the right to be happy? To call some of the shots in YOUR life? Or is the entire relationship built on HIS wants and desires? Stand up, be strong, and assert yourself! Get what you want. Better to know now how he really feels about you than to spin your wheels. There may be a man better to suited to you wishing you were available.
2006-09-24 11:15:43 · answer #3 · answered by Atticus Flinch 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen, some guys are either too stupid OR too bitter from a past relationship to want to commit. Im telling you right now, as Im one of them...Were very hard to change. Theres almost no way.
hanging around him more and giving him what he wants is definatly not going to change his outlook. He won't get attached to you, because whats the reason? He wanted sexual stuff...and your giving it to him. Why would he settle down?
My advice is to stop giving him what he wants and set em straight. Tell him that you want a relationship, not a f*ck buddy. He's either going to accept that and settle down or leave. Good luck, but I dont guarentee anything.
2006-09-24 10:48:48 · answer #4 · answered by Lord of the Apocalypse 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU ,MUST !! BE PRETTY YOUNG .? BECAUSE MOST GUYS JUST WANT TO HAVE SEX , MORE THEN LIKELY , HE'S ALSO A VIRGIN AND WANTS TO EXPERIENCE SEX WITH A FRIEND NOT JUST ANYONE. THOUGH , GOOD RELATIONS START OUT AS GOOD FRIENDS YOU NEVER KNOW?? BUT THE QUESTION IS " DO YOU WANT YOUR FIRST EXPERIENCE IN SEX , WITH SOMEONE HOWS GOING TO HIT AND RUN?? OR DO YOU WANT IT TO LAST , I'M A GUY AND MOST GUYS DO NOT TALK INTIMATELY WITH A GIRL THEIR ASHAMED TOO. YOU !! NEED TO MAKE THE FIRST MOVE , BUT WHEN YOU TELL HIM HOW YOU FEEL , HE JUST MIGHT RUN AND HIDE FROM YOU FOR A LONG TIME . AVOIDING YOU ANY WAY HE CAN , SO IT'S ALL UP TO YOU .
2006-09-24 10:55:24 · answer #5 · answered by I'M JUST TRYING TO HELP YOU 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like he is out on a booty call. If he spent other time with you besides just make out time then he might get some feelings for you but it sounds to me like the only feelings he have for now are in his pants. Try this just kiss and go no farther and and say I want to get to know you better as a person 1st
2006-09-24 10:50:15 · answer #6 · answered by Redmac1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
st because a guy has sex with you doesn't mean hes attached to you. Sometimes that scares them to be committed. If I were in your shoes I would be to scared to ask him personally. Try to feel him out then if he starts making subtle suggestions that he wants to be committed go for it. If not do what your heart says.
2006-09-24 10:48:48 · answer #7 · answered by Monkeyboots92 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'VE BEEN THROUGH SOMETHING SIMILAR. BACK IN HIGH SCHOOL I USE TO FOOL AROUND WITH A GUY FRIEND. WE WOULD JUST HANG OUT AND MAKE OUT, AND I ALWAYS THOUGHT A RELATIONSHIP WOULD FORM. IT NEVER HAPPENED. NOW I'M WITH A WONDERFUL GUY AND THE OTHER GUY NOW SAYS THAT HE REGRETS NOT BEING WITH ME AND HE'S NOT HAPPY WITH WHO HE'S WITH NOW. SO I GUESS IF YOU WANT TO BE WITH HIM, GET HIM JEALOUS. IT ALWAYS SEEMS TO WORK. BUT BE CAREFUL, HE COULD JUST BE USING YOU, IF THATS THE CASE, THEN HE'S NOT WORTHY OF YOUR TIME AND HEART.
2006-09-24 10:55:54 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave him!, I know that's going to hurt, but you need to find someone who will give you what you want , He will come around eventually, but then you might be settled down with someone whom you enjoy better! So don't give up
2006-09-24 10:52:17 · answer #9 · answered by wheelchair Mama 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like you need to take a break from the physical stuff to find out if he's really interested in you or just using you for your body.. talk to him about the relationship and where he sees it going..
2006-09-24 10:46:12 · answer #10 · answered by Byakuya 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋