studying and mental problem?

Question

I get too much stress from school, preparing for college, studying, and working hard. I become too negative of myself and these negative thoughts are preventing me from becoming smarter or becoming better than before. I compare too much with other people and keep thinking that theyare smarter or better than me.

Also, when I want to do something other than studying, I always ask myself, 'Am I doing the right thing?' I do not know what's right and wrong.

Answer 1

There is nothing that succeeds like success itself. This means that the way to be successful and minimize stress is to divide the overwhelming situation of learning and studying into small "bite-size" pieces where you can experience some success. Scheduling, organizing, rewarding, and avoiding comparisons are effective tools to attain success. Schedule learning or studying in 30 minute periods followed by a 5 minute break (a reward). Do the most difficult tasks (what you dislike most) when you are not tired or preferably first to get them over with. After 3 hours of study reward yourself with 30 minutes of exercise. This will increase the blood flow to your brain and help you keep awake for additional studying. Find a buddy that you can sometimes study with. Remember that you are preparing now for the rest of your life and the ultimate payoff is perhaps several years away. As you mature, you are able to put off immediate satisfaction for a successful career later on. Replace any negative thoughts with positive thoughts of previous times of small successes. To help prevent negative thoughts about yourself, do a good deed for someone every day and write them down daily in a diary along with 3 blessings that you received. These don't have to be big things;eg., saying hello to a neighbor, smiling when passing a stranger, helping with a task at home without being asked, complimenting someone at school, or praising someone for a job well done. Also remember that nutritious food and plenty of sleep make studying and learning much easier. Be kind to yourself and know that "doing your best" is all that is required of you.

Answer 2

It sounds like you are mentally tired. Maybe you need to just step away, take a "break" from studies, college and work. A brief rest period, would probably help you a lot. Depression, is also a problem here. Your brain, is not producing enough chemical balance, brought on by all that you are doing. Go see your Dr. and talk to him about this. If you don't want to involve a Dr at this point, then do yourself a favor and get the extra rest and see if that doesn't help. I have been to the point that I too, didn't know what was right or wrong. To make a decision, was a hard thing to do because I feared I wouldn't make the best choice. When a person starts to doubt what they know in their heart, means you have pushed yourself beyond the point of going, doing, and what you mentally are prepared to do. Let your brain and body catch back up to each other. We all have a breaking point. Don't push yourself any more. The damage can be irreversible. Your in a safety zone for now, but anymore and your headed for a break down, emotionally, physically and mentally. Take care of you!

Answer 3

please listen to smplyme and take care of yourself. It is so easy to get to the point of overwhelm and then it transfers to the I can't do anything right and then it becomes I am not right and can turn into a serious and potentially dangerous progression. Try to discuss this with your dr. if you feel like you can. You may suffer from ADD and there are many ways to help this but the longer you continue to exhaust yourself and then to feel like YOU are the problem, the worse it will become. Please know that you are not alone and that there are many ways for you to get help...without feeling like a failure or like you are less intelligent or less o.k. than your friends. So many of us have felt or still feel the same way.
I did when I was in college and I let my dreams go as a result. My daughter now feels just like you. She resisted help at first but now knows that this is ok and that she needs to receive help. Before she allowed help in, she was almost ready to hurt herself so I really know the pain you are feeling. Please, allow yourself to ask a professional for help. You do not have to suffer alone. You
are fine. Sometimes it is the smart ones who make everyhting so complicated and add to that their perfectionism and then, even getting out of bed can become hard. Give yourself a tiny break and please don't be hard on yourself. I promise you that you are in good company with your very real feelings. Take care.

Answer 4

I would say you are putting too much pressure on yourself. You obviously do the best you can, so relax a little bit. It will all turn out OKAY. I do the same thing, and you have to stop the quilt, otherwise you'll drive yourself whacko, and lose twice as much energy and time.
All is well and getting better....

Answer 5

My mother told me when I was little, there are a lot of dumb people in the world. And you know, as you go through life, you'll see there is. Good to be smart and study. But it is also good to have a social life.