what colours should mother and mother in law wear when the bride is wearing claret and white and what colour should the brdegroom wear/ i THOUGHT a silver grey would be appropriate with a claret cravat .
2006-09-24 10:15:23 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
black is traditionally worn for mourners at funerals and white is the traditional color only worn by the bride.
2006-09-24 10:18:15 · answer #1 · answered by ♥ 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Trying to steal attention away from the bride, with the white, and the wedding is NOT a funeral for the black.
I think the bridegroom would look stunning in a black tux with a claret cravat. I don't see how silver grey is going to look good against the bride's claret and white.
Maybe it should be you wearing the silver grey, and the other mum a gold.
2006-09-24 17:26:11 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is "etiquette", it is just poor etiquette. Among American Christians and the dominant culture in the USA- black is the culturally symbolic color for death. Other cultures and religious groups have different colors and meanings. It might symbolize mourning. If a mother chose to wear this to a wedding, she should be expecting a huge emotional response that may even be irreparable. White dresses are reserved for only the bride in the wedding party. The focus is supposed to be only on her. Her white dress symbolizes variously - virginity, purity, new fresh start. None of these apply more to the mother than to the bride. Leave the white to the bride.
Some very fashion forward brides have chosen black for their gowns, leave this sort of fashion statement to the bride.
Depending on the season and the women's coloring the mother and MIL most often wear conservative tea length dresses in mid-range tones maybe pastels in the summer and perhaps as dark as jewel tones in winter. Most bridal shops will have a selection of "Mother of the Bride" dresses that could be good guidance for both women.
The grooms attire is less about color than it is about style. ( Most of the colorful men's formal attire is reserved for high school proms, or personally owned holiday attire, not for weddings. If the wedding and the brides gown are traditional, then his tuxedo should also be traditional. The Tux rental, or quality suit/tuxedo salesperson should be able to give good guidance. If the Bride opts for something more fashion forward or casual, his attire should coordinate with her.
If the bride is choosing claret and white, that would indicate a winter wedding (commonly near but not on Christmas), and likely the Mother of the Bride and Mother of the Groom could choose darker more like jewel toned very conservative dresses.
2006-09-24 17:32:08 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Technically no one should be telling the mother of the bride what to wear, or the mother of the groom for that matter. Grown ladies know how to dress themselves, and it's rude to tell your elders what to wear. Let them choose their own outfits. The mothers do not have to match each other, nor do they have to match the bridal party.
Traditionally, people do not wear white to weddings because it as seen as upstaging the bride. I was also brought up to never wear black to a wedding, as that signifies mourning and it's inappropriate for a wedding. (However that might just be a Catholic thing.) I have also read in etiquette books that women attending a wedding traditionally also avoid red dresses, because it was considered a prostitute color.
In many areas of the country this "no black, no white, no red" guideline has been seriously relaxed or even done away with, but I still advise people to play it safe and try to heed it.
The groom wears whatever level of formalwear is appropriate for the occasion (formal/semiformal/casual), and the bride can arrage for the accent colors of the groom's formalwear to complement the bridesmaid's colors if she wants.
2006-09-24 18:11:49 · answer #4 · answered by Etiquette Gal 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
She should not wear black because it is the color for mourning and she should not wear white because that is reserved for the bride only. Any pastel like rose or pink will look nice. Silver grey should be very nice for the groom. The mother could also wear grey.
2006-09-24 17:24:52 · answer #5 · answered by notyou311 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The mothers should not wear black nor white. They do not have to match the wedding party, but sometimes the moms co-ordinate themselves. Let the groom choose his own clothes. Why is the bride not wearing white?
2006-09-24 22:05:24 · answer #6 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Black is generally shunned at weddings, since it's for funerals, and white is strictly for the bride. If the MOB wears white, it will look like she's trying to overshadow the bride. HOWEVER, some brides want a black and white wedding, and my sis in law had women in white, men in black. (It was weird though). I would ask your daughter what she would like you to wear, and possibly even ask her if she'd like to go shopping with you. You need to pick your dress out first, then communicate that with the MOG. Another nice thing to do would be to shop with MOG at the same time. When in doubt, ask the bride. Good luck!
2006-09-24 17:23:02 · answer #7 · answered by basketcase88 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Speaking as the mother-in-law to be...I will not wear white but I see nothing wrong with a black dress. Have any of you been to a funeral lately? Black is not the color worn by everyone. Funerals and weddings have become more liberated and as long as you do NOT wear what the bride is wearing...I believe no one will say one word about what YOU are wearing. I like black and it is a slimming and elegant color. You can accessorize it with ANY color and it will be rich looking. Think about the "black tie" events...A LOT of black being worn there and it's not a SAD event, such as a funeral. It's a very refined and sophisticated color. To each their own.
2006-09-24 19:39:04 · answer #8 · answered by All 4 JR 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The color should complement the wedding party but not match the bridemaids. Black is a no-no becaus you normally wear that to a funereal, and white is a no-no because the bride should be the only one in white, so she stands out.
2006-09-24 17:18:42 · answer #9 · answered by samanny 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The mother should wear something to compliment the bride but not overshadow her.
The groom should wear something that is with the theme of the bride and match her mood.
Colours should suit the colour of the complexion, hair and eyes.
2006-09-24 17:18:27 · answer #10 · answered by tucksie 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well black represents death and the bride wears white so she cant wear either, they should go for something to reflect the season with a touch of the bride and grooms theme colour
2006-09-25 04:33:36 · answer #11 · answered by die_tryin2006 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋