I have sied up to loads of dating sigtes and also been going out in my local town. I am not having any luck when lads contacting me its either for one thing or they just want to be friends what can i do to bag myself that mr perfect the one who wont treat me like cr**p like my last partner did can anyone give me some tips.
2006-09-24 10:05:13 · 31 answers · asked by J F 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
when you find out ... let me know
cheers
2006-09-24 10:29:04 · answer #1 · answered by bit of fluff 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Two important things.
1. Accept that Mr. Perfect only exists in fantasy.
2. The dating websites only benefit two groups- the "players", and the ones getting paid to run the site.
"Dating" websites attract damaged goods of many varied sorts. Avoid them. Save your money.
Develop interests of your own where you meet like minded people. Dancing lessons, political and social service groups,and churches are primary sources for quality matches. The key is to be involved in things that are exciting to you. Other like minded folk will be there too.
Decide exactly what kind of person you are looking for. Knowing what you want, helps avoid wasting time with "undesirables" --leave them on the shelf for the next person. There are some good psychological tests that have good predictive information that can be of help in gaining self knowledge and compatibility info.
2006-09-24 10:16:45 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's been my observance that if you just go about doing the things you like to do, then that's where you meet the most compatible people. For example, if you like to ski, then join a ski club. In other words, do the social things you like to do in an environment where it's about having fun, not necessarily dating networks. It seems that a lot of people on dating networks tend to try to force a relationship to work as opposed to having it naturally happen as would be the case in a more open social setting.
2006-09-24 10:31:01 · answer #3 · answered by tonyend2001 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
first, check your spelling, so your writing doesn't make you seem un-intelligent.
second, you "bag" groceries and your laundry, but not a person you want to have a real relationship with.
third, there is no such thing as the "perfect" guy. you hope that you find the person who's best for you. remember, you are not perfect, just like the rest of this world.
2006-09-24 10:11:50 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nobody is perfect, maybe thats why he's not appearing...! everyone is flawed to some extent.
what are your interests? use your interests to find men with shared interests, eg you could take up something like martial arts which is full of men, but also many women take lessons, so you won't feel alone and you are learning something very useful too.
dating in pubs/clubs is just a meat market for teens.
2006-09-24 11:11:17 · answer #5 · answered by andylefty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no such person as THE perfect one, just men and women that are better than others. All you need to do is stop. Take your time and look around you and see what you are looking for. It may take some time for the closest person that you are looking for to come along but he will, believe me.
2006-09-24 10:40:09 · answer #6 · answered by dnlrawson 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hate to burst your bubble but thier is no such thing as perfect but thier is hope of finding someone make a list of qualties you would like your partner to have what you would like to have in common and things you absolutly can't stand you want to meet someone with a similar goal some of the same intrests so decide what you like what you like to do go to those places seek out those people most of all keep going out and meeting people remember everyone has flaw's the question is can you live with them
2006-09-24 10:16:02 · answer #7 · answered by priscilla t 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The key is to be happy with your own life and give up looking for love around every corner. Go for someone that you don't like on first impressions, preferably a really sensible and 'bookish' type man. Trust me, you will never even want to go back to these 'pretty boy' and or 'bad boy 'types!!!! It worked for me!!! I was just happy, minding my own business as a single mum when my friends sent me on a date with a guy I used to work with!! I kept putting them off when They suggested I go out with him (because I hadn't liked him at all when I first met him at work.)
Eventually they wore me down. This guy and I went out on a date, really clicked, we had lots in common, he lived 2 miles down the road from me, got on really well with my daughter. We have been married for 2 years now!!!
2006-09-24 10:22:40 · answer #8 · answered by Andielep 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what is the perfect guy, we all look for the perfect partner, but when we actually find them do we realise it or do we find out when its to late, you may have had the perfect guy and lost him... life can be strange but dont know if its wise to just look for the perfect guy, live life and you will someday end up in the perfect relationship and it may not need it to be the perfect guy
good luck
2006-09-24 10:11:56 · answer #9 · answered by jimmytesco 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try lowering your standards just a tad! There are no "perfect" guys. But there are lots of really good guys, even a few great guys. Try one of those on for size. You might find that you could live happily ever after with one of them!
2006-09-24 10:11:28 · answer #10 · answered by Desiderata of Happiness 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should try being friends first. it sounds like your rushing things to quickly . slow down. if the guys you meet want to go out as Friends fine then go out with them . you never know they might have a mate who wants to be more than Friends. dont rush things . you will meet the right bloke eventually, however long it takes.
2006-09-24 11:14:01 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋