my mother died a about 7months ago I was there when she died she had been real sick for months and on life support the doctors told me she wasn't ever gonna get better she was in a lot of pain I mean a lot her body was shutting down and her body was filln' up with fluid and blood the doctors told me I needed to make that choice to keep her on or take her off I took her off she died 13 minutes later. I held her hand though it all. I know she is gone how come it don't feel like it? When will this go away??
2006-09-24 09:55:09 · 7 answers · asked by daleygirl23 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You need to remember the good things about your mother, and just how much she loved you. The pain will always be there but use it to grow stronger and make the decisions you know your mother would want you to make. She is still a part of you and always will be. I had to make the same decision once myself too and I still remember it to this day. But you have to think they are in a better place, and watching over you. It is all a mindset, if you keep torturing yourself your going to drive yourself nuts, if you choose to remember the good times, the good things about your mom, the pain will get better. I wish I had a good answer for this
2006-09-24 10:02:16 · answer #1 · answered by wilderhares 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry for your loss, losing a parent is a very difficult thing, and something I haven't been though yet. I don't think it will ever completely go away, you'll always remember her, and always feel her presense with you, she is after all, your mom. If you're really struggling with her loss, you might want to consider grief counseling. It will take time, and it's only been 7 months for you. God bless you.
2006-09-24 10:00:37 · answer #2 · answered by basketcase88 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone grieves in their own way and their is no right or wrong. As a nurse, I have seen people exactly what you have described and I have also been a Hospice nurse.......you made the right decision. You might want to go to the book store and get some books to read on the grieveing process.
2006-09-24 09:59:50 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it wont ever go away. my dad died ten years ago, after i persuaded him to have the triple heart bypass that was suposed to save his life. and do i feel guilty..you bet i do.
i know its not my fault, or yours. you did what needed to be done, and we all feel some degree of guilt. its human nature, to require a culprit, someone to blame...
well, you acted honourably. which is more than i can say for a lot of folks in your position, who dump their olds and run away..
hold your head up. you did nothing wrong, and you made the decision.. its an aussie attitude which i admire; its my dog, why would i want anyone else to put him out of his misery and suffering?
2006-09-24 10:02:50 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes it takes awhile for reality to set in. Give yourself time and consider grief therapy. You did the right thing.
2006-09-24 09:58:54 · answer #5 · answered by notyou311 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont fell bad it just knowing someone is a wo nderfull thing.and sometime you will be withher again
2006-09-24 10:02:26 · answer #6 · answered by blackbutton100 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU MAY BE IN SHOCK.
I AM SORRY TO HEAR ABOUT YOUR MOTHER PASSING, SHE IS KNOW LONGER IS SUFFERING. GOOD LUCK TO YOU AND YOURS.
2006-09-24 10:06:20 · answer #7 · answered by nwnativeprincess 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋