does my fiance love me she constantly thinks im a joke laughing at me saying im a big wimp because she out drinks me,am i in for a life of hell please help
2006-09-24 09:44:14 · 18 answers · asked by jonas 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
maybe you should ask someone in aa
2006-09-24 09:46:12 · answer #1 · answered by leslie c 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you are a wimp? Did you ever ask that question of yourself. Your woman doesn't respect you and whatever she is doing now will only get worst when you are married. She doesn't exhibit the qualities of someone who is wifey material. Your wife is supposed to support you not make you feel inadequate. Break off the engagement and she will wake up - trust me. Stop being a wimp - you don't have to out drink her but you don't have to take her crap either. The next time she pulls that crap, politely tell her that you are tired of her stupid-nous and that perhaps she should consider another man for her future husband and then walk away and don't call her. I guarantee she will change her tune: if she doesn't - you would have saved yourself years of an agonizing marriage. This girl either has low self esteem so she needs to bully someone or she is just not emotionally mature. Either way you don't want her as a wife. And don't be a wimp - you can respectfully and cordially tell a girl to fly a kite - a woman won't respect you otherwise.
2006-09-24 09:53:43 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need ask her why she keeps calling you that, sounds like she has a complex about something about herself and is slagging you off to make herself feel better. I tease my partner sometimes, it depends her tone of voice, how she says it and how often she says it. If its upsetting you tell her so, otherwise how will she know. If she then goes on to call you a wimp for being upset about it you may be need to reconsider whether you want to be in a relationship with someone who puts you down so much.
Life can be crap as it is, your partner should be there to boost your ego and cheer you up when things are crap not stick the boot in. If you feel like this now do something about it otherwise you will be trapped in a marriage that could make you unhappy and you'll just end up resenting each other.
It may just be her way, may be she ribs you as she is secretly embarressed about the amount she drinks. Again if it upsets you do something now before its to late.
2006-09-24 09:59:20 · answer #3 · answered by CHIMP 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Often a person will do this because they really like them but find it hard to tell them how they really feel. Tell her how you feel about the way she is treating you and that you would appreciate her stopping it. If she really care for you, she will understand and if not you just might be in for a life of hell and you just might start thinking about ending it how before it's too late.
2006-09-24 09:49:57 · answer #4 · answered by Dale 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont know what to tell you...but when a partner, specially a female thinks that she is better than you in whatever and kind of jokes about it all the time and treats u with disrespect even for a small thing that is not a good sign...i didnt saw that thing and got married and my life has been a living hell...so good luck...M
2006-09-24 09:52:49 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
DUMP HER! if she does that to you all the time then she don't love you. find some who is going to respect you and not take the piss. as she is laughing at you behind your back. sorry if this hurts im just saying how i really think it is. good luck but plzs get rid of her you can do much better as she sounds like a *****.
2006-09-24 10:38:55 · answer #6 · answered by twinmum1979 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure she loves you... but you have to talk to her, and explain how you feel about her ribbing you all the time. Make her understand that to her it's all a big joke, but to you, it's definitely not, and it's gone on too long, and it's hurting your feelings.
2006-09-24 09:48:04 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you in for a life of hell? This is your life, if you don't like an aspect of it, change it. Why not take the rib out of her and see how she likes it?
2006-09-24 09:46:39 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
We rib you so you will change,we always want you to change,when you finally do change into what we want, we dont like you and want you to change back.
Take no notice of her or do the same back
2006-09-24 09:51:40 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
she loves you!
if she didnt, would she be your fiance??
women tend to be kinda pushy and competitive some times.....just try not to let it bother u!
but if it gets to a point where u are seriously questioning your love for her, then talk to her about it!
good luck!
2006-09-24 09:47:32 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a junior high immature romance. Looks like this is how you are planning to spend your life. I would rethink this.
2006-09-24 09:46:01 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋