my son is unhappy about his curfu time of 9 o'clock,?

Question

he would like to be out later but i don't want him wondering the streets any later he is 13. how do you feel about this?

Answer 1

You're his parent. You've a right, indeed a responsibility, to know where he is at night. 9.00 is fine for a 13 year old. And it's curfew.

Answer 2

Personally,with my children I made curfew part of their reward system for doing homework and household chores expected of them when they were teens. First 30 mins to relax after coming home from school,then appropriate chores,cleaning or tyding thier room etc, for which they recieved so much money a week on allowance. for completing.Then dinner help clean up and homework. If their homework was done properly and on time I extended the curfew by 30 mins,to an hour as a reward, Teaches them a lot of things,and really 9:30 is appropriate for a 13 yrs or even 10 now days. He must have some freedom to grow socially. Good luck Curious 2006

Answer 3

I think 9 o'clock at 13 is very fair considering the way life has changed. Just tell him it's cos you love and care about him, and the streets are not safe after this time. My curfew was 10pm when I was 18!!!

Answer 4

I agree with everyone else--9 o'clock is *plenty* late for a 13 year old. Maybe make a deal with him that with each birthday, you'll extend his curfew a little (it could be as little as 15 minutes, if you want--whatever you're comfortable with). That will let him know that he won't have to come in at 9 forever, but for now, that is what you have decided is appropriate for his age.

Answer 5

You are the parent and you make the rules so if you say that there is going to be a curfew then he is going to have to like it or lump it. I wouldn't want my thirteen year old wandering the streets until all hours of the night getting into all sorts of trouble. You have to impress on him that you are only doing this for his benefit but also make sure that this is not up for negotiation and he has no say in the matter.

Answer 6

My daughter is 12 and she has to be in for 9.30 pm , she isn`t wandering the streets tho shes at a friends up the road but i am feeling this is too late and can`t wait til the clocks change next month so i can get her in at 8.30 as its going to be dark even earlier , around 5ish !

Answer 7

I think the fact that you let him go out and run the streets alone at 13 is amazing. He's still young and he should be supervised and you should know where he is at at all times. I think a 9pm curfew is more than sufficient. If it was my kid, I'd require him home by dinner and I certainly wouldn't have him out doing whatever he wanted.

Answer 8

He will get over it. At age 13 he does not need to be wondering the streets. You are right about that.

Answer 9

I know there is probably pressure frm his friends,but i think you are trying to do the best by your son.When i was 14 i had to be home by 9pm and in bed for 10pm.At the time i hated it but now i look back i realise that htese rules were there to help and protect me.I learned respect and discipline

Answer 10

I think you are being reasonable. Don't let him stay out any later. It will lead to trouble!!!! By 9pm there is nothing for a 13 year old to do so he will only get into trouble.