i am in love with this guy.we had being going out for about 1 year.we broke up for 3 months and i having seen him.so we got back together.he took me to his house.we started kissing and he wanted me to have sex with him.and i said no and he started begging and i said yes and we had sex for 2 minutes. and he got mad at me beacuse i didn't give it up to him.i didn't wanna have sex cause i don't wanna get pregant right now and i don't trusth condom which is 68 percent effive. i call him at his house at the next day and he didn't pick up. when he pick up i said i was sorry about the whole thing and he was like is ok that i got a lot of time to make it to him.which i was think he hadn't got over it.after that call he hadn't call me now for a week. right now iam thinking he got somebody else that he don't love him no more because of that.i love him too much.and i don't want him to leave him cause i would die.advice please
2006-09-24 09:34:34 · 18 answers · asked by v 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
if he loved you he would respect you when you said no. it sucks but thats the flat out truth
2006-09-24 09:36:29 · answer #1 · answered by Jordan Alexis 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You say you think he doesn't love you anymore and I say he didn't love you to begin with.
Girl, open your eyes. He wanted a booty call, he wanted the physical, not the emotional and loving stages in a relationship.
If he loved and respected you, he wouldn't have "BEGGED" for sex. Instead, he would've respected your decision that you were not ready and rather then begging, would've opted to do something else like watch a movie. It's true love when you're not forced or put in a position where you feel guilty to do something.
He is now not returning your call because he probably found a loose woman out there somewhere that has given it up to him and that's what he wants.
You may love him but the feeling isn't mutual. You need to move on otherwise you will be hurt because he is using you for sex and that is the only thing on his mind.
2006-09-24 16:39:03 · answer #2 · answered by ♪Msz. Nena♫ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you had sex for 2 minutes you had sex. You shouldve walked away after he started begging you to have sex thats a bad sign. He's a loser if he's mad at you for making your decision about what your going to do with your body and you dont need him. Find someone who can respect and treat you better he's not the only one out there, I know its hard but you gotta move on.Just the thought of what he says to you pisses me off.
2006-09-24 16:40:27 · answer #3 · answered by pheli07 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My main question is do you love yourself? because before you can love anyone you need to really love yourself, and It surely sounds like you don't...
About the condom... even if you dont trust them, use them, they are not only about your worries of getting pregnant... what about STD's (sifilis, ghonorrea, herpes, AIDS... those diseases are still common this days, specially with people thinking like you...) your safety, your health and your future depends on it...
Honey there is nothing you can ever do to make this "man" love you truthfully, and if you just give in because he begs, he knows how to get what HE wants... and the hard truth is he just wants to use you and nothing more, this guy does not love you... You dont mention what kind of personal relationship you developed with him, does he take you out to nice places, do you go on "normal" dates, like to the movies, to events, to a friends gathering... has he introduced you to his family, or to his friends? You kind of know from those things if you are or not in a serious relationship, and all that has to be settled in the meanwhile and before you decide if you love him or not... lust is not love honey... believe me...
2006-09-24 18:13:36 · answer #4 · answered by goodgirl2c 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He doesn't love you. I think he perhaps didn't have much luck while you were apart & he is just wanting some for old times sake sex. You're better off without him & I think you should definitely be looking elsewhere
2006-09-24 16:42:54 · answer #5 · answered by Ken M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If sex is love???
How you can think not about if there is not even room for friendship, communication or just any responsibility.
Sex you can have with every one who want but love is not only about it - think how you value yourself and what you are getting from life.
2006-09-24 16:42:30 · answer #6 · answered by Toto 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmm. if another girl was asking this question what would you tell her? How would you answer?
you'd probably say honey he only wants sex from you and nothing else.
I think forget him, dont look back and start having fun elsewhere.
stef
2006-09-24 16:39:23 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you both could of went right down to Chuckee Cheese and ordered a Pizza that would of lasted one hour and had a better time.
2006-09-24 16:36:24 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He does not love you, and based on his behavior, does not merit your continued affection. My advice is to move on. Do not call or contact him in any way, and get busy with your girlfriends or something else to distract yourself.
Best Wishes.
2006-09-24 16:38:22 · answer #9 · answered by Dianne A 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U need to kick his asssssssssssssssssssssssss to the curb,if he loved you,,,he would wait no matter what,,,,,,,,,,I know I just was told that my guy wants to just be friends after 6 months dating,,,,,,,,,,,,,There is a man out there for all of us gals,,,,,,,,,,,,,dont be looking you will know when he walks up to you,,Theresa
2006-09-24 16:54:34 · answer #10 · answered by blueeyes9456 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first off all how old are you? you have your whole life ahead of you. i know your feelings are hurt right now but trust me you'll get over it. if he is made at you for not havenig sex with him them just leave him alone. he's really not worth it!..jenn
2006-09-24 17:07:50 · answer #11 · answered by ct nurse 06 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋