im 15 and i am depressed...they wont listen to me or what i have to say and they are fighting cuz my dad had an affair on my mom and she stayed with him...she wont divorice him unless she wants to and she wont listen to me and my feelings...oh and she keeps bringing the fights up making everything worse...how can i stop them or try to ignore it?? i ran away once and they stilll didnt like talk to me about y i left...i dont know how to handle this!
2006-09-24 09:31:55 · 14 answers · asked by cutie7191 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
i wasnt seeking for attention..i ran away cuz i couldnt take it..
2006-09-24 09:36:23 · update #1
Dear depressed-
I know that you are having a hard time right now and I sympathize with your situation. When I was a kid, my parents went through the same thing. I know how it feels to deal with the non-stop fighting and either parent "bringing" you into the situation. However, running away wasn't the answer and I think that we both know it. The fact that they didn't talk to you about it should show you that they know why you did it. Perhaps you have a family member that can intervene on your behalf. If not, I strongly suggest that you talk to your school counselor. They will be able to help you. If you aren't comfortable with the counselor, perhaps a favorite teacher could be of assistance. Even though you are 15, you do have options. You do not have to live through their drama.
2006-09-24 09:41:57 · answer #1 · answered by blackwidow 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well don't run away or act younger than they are try to approach them in a very grown up way and let them know that you are apart of the family and you are tired of the fussing they need to either drop the argueing or do something about it, tell then to take a break from each other or to let you go some where for a break from them! Don't try to get in the battle field but let them know how you feel! Your mother needs to make a choice not you! I hope your dad is sorry, but some times sorry just ain't enough!
2006-09-24 09:40:54 · answer #2 · answered by Jro 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
we should have left him long ago and so should i have
he will leave one day
i am the same as your mother i kept bringing up the past cause its hurt us-understand her
my husband went away last november hasnt come back met up with an old friend and if he wants a divorce he can pay for it
let your mum know that when 1 door closes the other door opens
tell her to chuck him out
she should have packed his crap when this happened and put them outside the door
once bitten twice shy
they dont get better they get worse
and while hes still there its going to happen again - cause your mother has more or less forgiven and wont forget and hes now on easy street cause he knows he will get away with it again cause hes still there
do you love your mum
tell her to chuck him out
that shes thought things over and its not going to happen again-
people dont change
and i'll bet that not the first affair the fact that he got caught out and your mum hasnt learnt of other things he does
if he loved her he wouldnt have cheated her in the first place
one wonders why people marry
there are more fish in the sea that'll ever come out of it
and the only person that will understand your mum will be people who were hurt like her and i am one of them!
2006-09-24 09:47:09 · answer #3 · answered by domazina 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if both your parents are not listening to you I would suggest maybe talking with a school couselor or maybe even call a run away crisis line. Do what ever it takes to pull yourself out of this depression. Most of all stay in school that is the best thing you can do for yourself right at this moment...
2006-09-24 09:36:52 · answer #4 · answered by Jay G 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you are already in the middle of it all so why not sit down with them and hash it all out. Tell your mother she sounds like a broken record and will feel like one too if she continues to fight with him about his affair. He can't take back the affair and if she won't leave him they need to rebuild their marriage with a lot of trust and forgiveness. He needs to commit to rebuilding with her, promise his fidelity and honesty. If she continues to harp on his infidelity then he is going to go back out and cheat again. Tell them to fix it, go to a councilor, fight in whispers do anything but trouble you with their problems.
2006-09-24 09:41:33 · answer #5 · answered by BLANK 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to see a school counselor for help..
you can't control their relationship,
but you can control your reaction to it..
do not ruin your life and health because of their mistakes
do the mature person in all this and keep your head high and take care of yourself
keep telling them in a calm way that that is no way to live and it is creating an unhealthy environment for all of you..
2006-09-24 09:36:36 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's hard to ignore it but you just got to know it is not your fault, they are being stupid at this point, if they won't listen to you then write them both letters an tell them both how you feel about them individually.
2006-09-24 09:41:11 · answer #7 · answered by mylipshot 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have some good advice on here but one thing you might try is to record them when they are having a fight. Then sit them down individually and play it back to them. Sometimes people don't realize how badly they are behaving until they see it for themselves. Good luck.
2006-09-24 09:39:29 · answer #8 · answered by superrrmodel 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
spend the night at a friends for a few days.
it'll get your mind off it...and if not that...she'll help you get through it. if not a friend..try an aunt or someone else close. you don't have to get reasons...just a break. everyone deserves one once-in-a-while. goodl uck♥
2006-09-24 09:35:29 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
my parent are always fighing, so i can relate.What works for me is turning up the music and writing/keeping a journal about what happens.
2006-09-24 09:45:01 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋