i have started going out with this girl who i know isnt a vergin but i am. the problem is that im not sure if im ready to lose mine yet what can i do to keep her and wait till im ready?
2006-09-24 09:21:03 · 22 answers · asked by Bobjackjim 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Wow Bobjack; how refreshing! A young man with values, morals AND a sense of self worth. You go boy!!! Now to answer your question, which is the same way I answer young girls who come to me with this same question...If you are not sure you are ready, honey, then you're not. Please don't give yourself away to someone who is not able to appreciate what it is you are giving up. The truth is Bobjack, you have nothing but time, and a whole lot of other things do becomming an adult, to have to worry about some girl just after your virginity. Don't rush it. Your virginity is something you can NEVER get back. Are you ready to marry this girl and be with only her for the rest of your life? I didn't think so. So why hurry? Virginity is something that really means something special, why waste it? I am actually very full heartedly proud of you young man! If you need to visit further, you can e-mail me through here! Loves and best of luck and love! Nana
2006-09-24 09:30:47 · answer #1 · answered by nanawnuts 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, has she asked or hinted that she wants to go to that level with you yet? If she has and you feel you are not ready, just tell her. If she cares for you she will respect your wishes. If she hasn't, don't worry about it yet. When she makes it clear that she wants to go to that level and if you still feel the same way as you do now, do what I stated earlier. If she feels concerned that you do not care enough for her to venture further in the relationship (which is possible) just explain in more detail why you are not prepared to take the leap, such as you have never experienced this before and you want to make your first time extra special and that you being nervous about it may ruin it not only for yourself but for her as well.
Good luck.
2006-09-24 09:27:03 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
losing your virginity should be YOUR decision. If she's not prssuring you about it don't worry. If YOU feel like your ready, then thats you. Be sure about it. Cause i know so many people who regret it. and tell her that your nor ready. She should respect that. and some girls think it's cute when guys keep theres(especially no a days, when everyones doing it)
2006-09-24 09:26:36 · answer #3 · answered by lakimbria2000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make sure you both sit down nd discuss this matter. Make it clear to her that you are not ready for that. If she doesn't want to stay with you after stating that, then she's not worth it. Good luck.
2006-09-24 09:24:54 · answer #4 · answered by Diabla 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Shiet, stop dating her because u don't know who she lost her virginity to! lose to someone that is a virgin cause u both will be loosing it at the same time.
2006-09-24 09:24:01 · answer #5 · answered by Jasmien D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she cant wait. Then you get you a nice young female who can sweetie. Arent you at least worth that much. I applaud you
2006-09-24 09:25:55 · answer #6 · answered by lilfunmama 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't until you are ready. If she can't respect that then she isn't good for you. So tell her how you feel and go from there.
2006-09-24 09:23:55 · answer #7 · answered by Vshak 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if she cares about you, just tell her the truth and that's a good thing that you don't wanna lose you virginity. Lose it when you get married, trust me.
2006-09-24 10:05:17 · answer #8 · answered by baby faced satan woman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her you're not ready and if she really cares about you, she'll wait. if she says she can't wait, dump her. don't feel forced into doing something that you're not completely comfy with.
2006-09-24 09:25:07 · answer #9 · answered by miss massie block <3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
jus talk to her about it
shes probably not evan thinking about it
and if she brings it up.. tell her that u really like her and know how s*x can be a big deal for her
n stuff like that
talk to herrr!!
2006-09-24 09:24:12 · answer #10 · answered by Nick723 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋