I met my girl friend 4 months ago and we always had fun and never argued. But recently we got back from Paris and she just changed and she said that she dont know why she feels the way she does. & years ago she lost her baby of 6 months and it took her a long time to except what has happened and it has made her very close to her 7 and 10 year old daughters. She never been away from her children before, so leading up to go away for the week end she was depress about going but still happy to go because she has never been to paris. When we got back she was happy to see them and things between us just drifted away. She said she needs some space to think about everything and where the family and me fits in & slow things do. I told her that, all I want at this moment in time is just to have a girl firend and not think about what the futrue holds, its about having fun and just having a girl friend. I have always supported her which she is not use to because in her past people just didnt care.
2006-09-24 09:13:32 · 9 answers · asked by Rick U 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you have to understand that she needs time to figure out how to share her time between her daughters and you . . and to her, I'm sure a relationship is more than just having a boyfriend . . she has to think about the future because of her daughters, and she has to make sure she is doing the right thing for them as well as for herself . . don't pressure her, but just make sure she knows how you feel . . . because there are children involved, please make sure that this is something you are willing to commit to . . not just a fling . . .
2006-09-24 09:19:48 · answer #1 · answered by ♥LoisLane♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only thing to do is respect what she is telling about wanting space. Leave it alone and see what happens. You have no idea what she is suffering through.......again, respect her privacy. You could, however, send he a nice card and tell her how much you enjoyed the time in Paris, that she is in your thoughts and if she wants to talk.......you will be there for her. That is it!!! Wait and see!!! The next move will be hers.
2006-09-24 16:20:02 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've let her know how you feel, now back off and let her decide how she feels...don't pressure her...it may be that the time for y'all together is over (and you need to accept that)...
You cannot force someone to want to be with you...and if she's decided you are not the right one for her right now, then that's her right to do so...
Keep being her friend though...just because y'all may not be in a romantic relationship anymore doesn't mean you cannot have a valuable place in one another's lives...
2006-09-24 16:16:55 · answer #3 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
things are different for her because of her two children, u only have yourself to worry about so u can just concentrate on having fun & not thinking about the future, but she can't do that, so u need to give her time & try to understand that she has other people in her life to consider in this relationship
2006-09-24 16:24:24 · answer #4 · answered by JeenaBlahBlahBlah 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can't take her away from her kids.. thats the most important thing in the world to a girl. All i can say is be there for he and show her how much you car about her AND her kids. its apparent she's been hurt and doesn't wanna be hurt again. and maybe she's in denial that she may actually like you alot so she's clinging onto the things that she knows she has forever..
I wish you the best of luck
2006-09-24 16:19:41 · answer #5 · answered by lilkitty4eva 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is possible she was hoping to get a proposal from you in paris and since you didn't, she thinks you are not serious enough to want to marry her. a lot of women do not want to be girlfriend forever, since she has children, she probably needs more commitments from you. just my impression.
2006-09-24 16:21:46 · answer #6 · answered by jay 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do something romantic, like a candlelight dinner or sing at her window. show her you care about her and are willing to support her and her kids. but wait a little bit first. give her time to think so she knows you value her personal space.
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2014-08-18 16:40:27 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You'll always have Paris....
2006-09-24 16:16:23 · answer #9 · answered by spedtrap 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋