Abusive guy.......?

Question

i like this guy alot. Im 17 & hes 16. Im afraid he might be abusive. He slaps me across the face whenever i mouth off to him but he says hes "
only joking" & i have 6 bruises on my leg from when he punched me the other day. he said he was only doing it to mess around but i was all teary eyed when he got done w/ me. He also twisted my arm around n stuff n now i have bruises on my arm and wrists. He slapped me so i slapped him back n he grabbed onto my arm n twisted it around n said if i hit him again he'd punch my leg er w/e until i cried..is he abusive?

Answer 1

Yes, Yes, Yes!!! He's definitely abusive! There's no grey area with that behavior!
People don't do that "to mess around" or they are "only joking". He does it to hurt you because he wants to control you, and doesn't respect you. You need to leave this guy as soon as possible. Please? Trust me, I stayed in an abusive relationship for nearly 4 years, and wound up hiding from him because he had a gun and threatened my life. It doesn't get better, and he won't change. You need to think about your own safety, leave him, and find a guy that will treat you right (and they are out there).
Hope this helps!

Answer 2

I was in a relationship like that when I was your age. I was 16, he was 17, and he left bruises on my arm from pinching me and holding my arm too tight when he was mad at me.

We shouldn't label anybody as an "abusive guy," but we should acknowledge here that he is treating you badly.

By the way, I pressed charges on that guy who bruised me and he had to go to court and speak before a judge. By doing this I communicated to him that I was not going to allow him to treat me in this way and there is a good chance he hesitated the next he thought about hitting a girl. I found another boyfriend about a month later who didn't hit me.

It's not good to hit him back either because you are setting the example that hitting is okay in your relationship, plus he could press charges against you for hitting him. Wouldn't that be messed up?

Lots of people will give you the advice to find another boyfreind, but I'm just going to make you aware of some of the consequences of staying with a guy who hits you.

Be aware that by staying with him you are increasing the liklihood of having another boyfriend in the future who also hits you. This kind of relationship for many girls and women turns into a bad habit.

He might also unintentionally damage your face by hitting you. He could accidently break open the skin on your face, giving you a laceration that could leave a scar. Accidently hitting you too hard could also cause nerve damage to the point where you can't hold your eye open or your mouth in the right position. That kind of damage doesn't go away and can't be completely fixed by plastic surgery. You'll have to live with it if he messes up your face.

Answer 3

He is definitely an abusive person. I've seen too many people I care about (especially women) stay with abusive men because they think they love them. You can't love someone who hurts you physically or emotionally. Even is he says he's "only joking" he's still hurting you. His abusive tendencies could escalate, and these little punches could turn into beatings. I would get away from this jerk while you can. You're far too young to put up with his crap.

Answer 4

Yes, he's abusive. Sounds like he gets off on hitting girls. Some type of power trip thing. Do yourself a favor and dump him. You don't need that kind of crap. Of course you can give him a hard kick in the balls and tell him you're "just kidding" and see how he likes it just to prove a point, but make sure there's a few guys around who will kick his *** if he tries to retaliate against you.

Answer 5

if he becomes more and more sadistic each day you should dump him and never go near him. I've heard a lot of cases like this. Most of the time they end the relationship but sometimes the guy goes too far and kills the girl(you should becareful).

Answer 6

Is he abusive? YES!!! You need to get away from him pronto. There is nothing you can do to improve the situation. It will take professional help for him.

Answer 7

HE IS AN ABUSIVE GUY! Tell your parents and get away from him! Speaking from experience, and I am old enuff to be your mother, THEY never ever change and YOU CAN NOT FIX HIM!!!!!! Stop seeing him before he really hurts you! Trust yourself and talk to your parents!!!! If not your parents someone you can TRUST to help you get away from him!!!!

Answer 8

Are you crazy or what??? You need to get far far away from this guy. And you ask is he abusive??? The real question is are you crazy?? I say yes to both.

Answer 9

listen girl,
you are so young (so I forgive your ignorance),
and you have a life in front of you,
please don`t let him terrorize and slap you around.
You are a person and he have to respect you,
not to kill you someday.
Leave the @sshole!!!
I wish you all the best

Answer 10

he is abusive and the best thing for you to do is stay away from him and you need to tell someone about it because no one deserves to be hit.