She is of my same age. Our religion is same but cast is different. I am in good position also. My parents know about this relation and they are agreed. Her parents didn't know and now she wants to tell her parents. I am afraid whether they will agree or not. I cannot think of losing her.
2006-09-24 09:06:08 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
if it is true lovethen the parents don't matter do they?
2006-09-24 09:08:22 · answer #1 · answered by oneadam12 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on how important her parents think that caste is. Is it possible for your parents to ask to meet her parents? The best thing you can do is eliminate the deceptions, present yourself fully and show that you are well-educated, and financially responsible and will take good care of her.
You have not stated how much of a difference there is between your castes, not who is the higher caste. I am guessing that there is only one level difference and that you are the lower caste from your question.
Convince your family to them that you and your family will not accept any dowry. And promise no-bride burning, OK dude?
2006-09-24 17:44:47 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure what you mean by your cast is different, are you saying she's of a different social status than you are? I'm sure if you're a good person, you guys are old enough and mature enough to financially and emotionally take care of yourselves and a family, her parents probably won't have any problems. You probably should meet her parents anyway, since if you guys get married you'll be part of the family. And, if she really loves you, what her parents say shouldn't matter. I know I would've married my husband without my parents support, it would've been the right decision for me. Best of luck to you.
2006-09-24 17:05:34 · answer #3 · answered by basketcase88 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Caste does not matter unless you live in India... and even there, it does not matter if you are a Christian. Be bold... be respectful and be responsible. If you love her, and she loves you, it will work out even if parents do not agree. It helps though if you have the respect of the parents. Show her parents you are a good catch by working hard, providing for your and her needs, eliminating debts, and respecting her family.
2006-09-24 16:12:05 · answer #4 · answered by rejoiceinthelord 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You mention Cast so i;m assuming you are of East Indian Decent ? What ever the case may be. Do your best as that is what you can do. If she is there for you things will work out. It is useless to worry yourself too much over a woman despite how much you are in love with her.
Take care of your self as women come and go
2006-09-24 16:14:46 · answer #5 · answered by Premio 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can only be yourself and present yourself appropriately to her parents, hoping they'll like you. Don't try to be something you aren't as they will easily see through it. The best thing you can do once you get to know them is to reinforce the high level of respect you have for your girlfriend and her relationship with them. Let them know that they'll be gaining a son-in-law who wants to be part of the family and that you don't want to take her away from them. It's also important to demonstrate that you will be a good husband and father, always putting them first.
2006-09-24 16:12:04 · answer #6 · answered by janisko 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She should tell her parents. If they find out from someone else, they may be angry and believe she sneaking behind their backs for a bad reason and you might lose her as a result. The best thing you can do is go meet her parents and be respectful to them, tell them and show them who you are, and show them that you respect and care for her.
2006-09-24 16:17:40 · answer #7 · answered by Christa 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell this to her parents if they agree then get married if they dosent take her to a temple and get married in front of ur parents this will be a good decision.
2006-09-25 05:21:29 · answer #8 · answered by valu 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its best that if she loves 2 too and wants to spend her life with you then, let het first tell her parents about you after ask them to meet you once before they make their decision. Let her tell them that she really loves you a lot too and once they meet you, they will be convinced.THe best approach is be yourself.once they see that you are a nice guy and you love their Daughter.There is nothing wrong in opening your heart in front of them.all the best.
2006-09-24 16:19:27 · answer #9 · answered by in ur face 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ummm its quite dificult.... according to what ive seen now intercast marriages are always on the rocks due to family pressure... dont take a serious step without any family members approval... I knw im no one to say this but be careful of any step u take.. time and tide waits for no one... NEVER do something which will make u think i wish i hadnt done this be4...
good luck and GOD BLESS =)
2006-09-24 20:04:41 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just act yourself don't pretend to be a different person in front of her parents. I bet everyone says that but it's true. If she really loves you she won't let her parents choose her path. Just act yourself that's all there is to it.
2006-09-24 16:18:30 · answer #11 · answered by me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋