About 3 months ago I started college and met a great guy in my first class. It took us till a week ago to finally hang out beyond school. We went out, had a great time, and have spent time together since then. When we're alone we hold hands, kiss, and it's great. We have both admitted we like each other, but I'm still not sure where things are going. I don't date much becuase I have been in a lot of bad relationships, and he recently finalized a divorce and is still trying to get custody of his kid. I've never been in a relationship/friendship/whatever you'd call it like this. I'm not used to guys who actually take things slow. If anyone has any advice as far as what I should and shouldn't do and how to "tough it out" until it's official. Please just give me your advice and input. Feel free to email me or IM me too. Thanks!
2006-09-24 09:03:46 · 7 answers · asked by angelofdarkness_1982 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Just a bit more to explain, he's been divorced since last year, she lives in North Dakota, him in Pennsylvania, he's dated before me. Just so ya'll understand he's not JUST divorced. Just wanted to clear that up.
2006-09-24 09:10:25 · update #1
Maybe take it slow until his custody battle is over. Also, think about the fact that you could be a rebound for him.
2006-09-24 09:08:07 · answer #1 · answered by BluhBluh 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take things slow; it sounds like he's a great guy and you should stick around to see where thngs might lead you. The custody battle might have a toll on you sooner or later as ex-wives can be a bit vindictive. If you really like this guy, don't give up on him b/c the going might be tough. If things really get out of hand, talk to him before making any decisions thatyou both might regret. GOOD LUCK!
2006-09-24 09:12:19 · answer #2 · answered by M.Y 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Both of you are sentimentally traumatized after romances that finished bad , so first you have be sure you aren't emotionally crutch for each other and both of you are really liking each other and can have a foundation to starting building a solid relationship , and even more , if we could some day share your lives , otherwise you'll be both get hurt again , usually a relationship that starts without confidence don't last.
2006-09-24 09:17:56 · answer #3 · answered by Paul Alexandru Cazacliu 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just keep doing what you are currently doing. Support the custody thing and things like that. If you both feel it's right to take it to the next level, then go on.
2006-09-24 09:10:31 · answer #4 · answered by Vshak 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the divorce and custody thing isn't so great. if you're only in college and he's already been married, and divorced, that's not a good sign. that shows he's not good with commitment. maybe that's why he's taking it slow. he's not sure what he wants. i would forget about him, and find someone else.
2006-09-24 09:11:31 · answer #5 · answered by miss massie block <3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be happy he is taking things slow and not just trying to get into your pants. He just divorced and appears to be treating you like a lady. Presently he does not want to rush into things and complicate them. All he needs is a bit of time as he does not want to rush things with you adn end up in his present situation all over again.
2006-09-24 09:07:38 · answer #6 · answered by Mike 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let nature take it's course. But,sounds like this is going to go on a 6 month dating thing.
2006-09-24 09:05:50 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋