Time to move on and how?

Question

I am still CRAZY about my ex wife. We have been divorced for 8 years but have been on and off a lot since then. Over the past year, she has been to drug and alcohol counseling is is doing GREAT with it. I have demonstrated that I am very supportive of her and we have spent a lot of time together now. It stirred up old feelings in me for her and I let her know that. We have had sex several times BUT she has a boyfriend in prison ( in a year now and has 3 or 4 more years to do ). She let me know she is still "into" him and he got a prison tattoo with her name REALLY large on his back now. She hasn't completely shut me down and I continue to be supportive but the sex stopped when I told her how I felt. I would love to make it work with her but I really feel I need more in a relationship. Should I continue to be patient or ask her really cute friend out ?

Answer 1

Let's be realistic. What you should do is spend a lot less time with your ex until she stops having a relationship with that other guy. See other people.

What you could do is continue your relationship with her and date people on the side- just don't have sex with them. One sexual partner at a time just to keep life a little less complicated.

By dating other people you won't feel as bad if she ultimately chooses the other man or if she continues seeing both of you indefinitely, which could very well happen btw...

Be aware also that you are communicating to her that you are okay with her non-comittal attitude by having relations with her while she's connected to another man. Is that the impression you want her to have of you at this point in your life?