thing you'll ever do in your life and the person you're with is a all around genuine good person?
2006-09-24 09:00:38 · 32 answers · asked by lilfunmama 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
if you are in love with the other, than yes, but you need to know the person really well, and i'm not sure you know eachother that well.
good luck.
ps. hopefully you'll follow your heart, and dont listen to these hypocritical answers people put on here.
2006-09-24 09:04:45 · answer #1 · answered by a 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, you should spend some more time together. There is no possible way you can know everything about one person in such a short amount of time.
I hate to dampen things but it's just not a good idea. This person could be a con man out for your money or something worse.
Besides, what's the rush to get married? Honestly, when you think about it, being married is simply a formal way of stating that you're commiting to someone. It doesn't (and shouldn't) change the way you feel about someone, and if it does, then that's not a great relationship to be in anyway.
You should give yourself more time to feel things out, talk it over with your family and have a very serious talk about what you two see in the future, what your goals are and if you can actually accomplish them being together.
If you really truly love each other, that wonderful. And no one can tell you how to live your life. Just give it some more thought and a little more time before you jump headlong into a decision that will have such a big impact on your future.
Best of luck!
2006-09-24 09:08:32 · answer #2 · answered by Stina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. No. and No.
Get some serious counseling. This kind of euphoria is a temporary effect of sexual attraction and causes one to be out of touch with reality. It passes.
Get some perspective on your own life and what is of value in it. "the best thing you'll ever do" is never a hasty life choice like this.
If it is really a good thing, it will wait. Take time to develop your life and get to know the person over time and in many circumstances, it will give you a chance to know the real person.
I recommend no less than two years of being together before making a commitment to an engagement, then, one year to plan the wedding during the (minimum) one year engagement.
Make a 100 year life chart. Make it BIG full length floor to ceiling on your wall. Put all your desired life events on the chart. Be sure to include all the education and vocational training that you want to become the kind of self aware and self sufficient person that you want to be. See that there is time to do and be and plan all the things that you want to include in your life.
NO rush is needed when making what should be a lifetime commitment.
2006-09-24 09:13:34 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG NO!! You should really give it time so you can TRUELY get to know each other. Live together at some point. Make sure you can function together, all things you can't know after only 4 weeks. Marriage is a major thing! Too many people jump into marriage and after as short as a few months are getting divorced. Things may seem so perfect now, but give it at least a year (I would say longer) and see if that spark is still there.
2006-09-24 09:06:46 · answer #4 · answered by angelofdarkness_1982 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Four weeks is not enought time even to get to know a dog.
Those are the beautiful times where everthing is the way you want and he show all the best....LATER is when you will find out the real person,...but dont worry we have a solution call divorce.
Just make sure you have everthing in place and if you own anything make sure you have everthing in writing and with a lawyer, so you dont have to split anything 50/50
You know what I am talking about. :)
2006-09-24 09:06:44 · answer #5 · answered by Soyam I 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you've only known the person for four weeks, how in the world can you judge if they are a good person. I wonder. Is it love or lust?
It is just out of the question to marry someone you have known for four weeks, unless you consider marriage a recreational activity.
2006-09-24 09:05:33 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely not. You have no idea really who this person is. It takes at least a year to really get to know someone. I married a man who was really great and found out he his bipolar. We have been able to work through this but it has been hard and not an easy road. We had know each other 6 months. Take your time sweetie.
2006-09-24 09:05:46 · answer #7 · answered by Didi S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's better to wait. You might feel that everything is perfect - but that's not reality. You don't know someone after seeing him for only 4 weeks. You have to give it time. You might find out after awhile - that your glad you waited - esp. if you find that you really don't like him that much once you get to know him. Remember haste makes waste.
2006-09-24 09:04:47 · answer #8 · answered by yellow 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he wants you now he should want you later as well. Be careful, same thing happened to me and he turned out to be a criminal and stole everything I owned after 2 month marriage. I speak from experience. NO NO NO NO. You will regret it later, I promise. There is no reason why you shouldn't wait.
2006-09-24 09:03:56 · answer #9 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO, NO, NO, NO, NO, HELL NO!!!! You haven't had enough time to know this person. You don't know what you are getting into. You sound as if you believe you have no hope of getting married to prince charming and are thus settling for Joe blow. Talk to a therapist. You sound in need of guidance.
2006-09-24 09:05:28 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋