I like rap music and my mom hates it so its banned from the house. I hate country but she loves it so we have that in our house. If i like hockey she hates it and makes me feel bad because i like it. She does this with almost everything i like. What should i do?
2006-09-24 08:50:36 · 12 answers · asked by Yvone 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
As long as you are living under her roof, you have to abide by her rules.... look forward to getting out on your own someday.
2006-09-24 08:52:15 · answer #1 · answered by tampico 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know your particular situation, but what i can say base on my ineptitude is this. Some parents still see the World when they were growing up and want to instill this belief into us. Family and cousins are a waste of time and some of them you are better off not knowing them.
In my parents days job security was some thing people barely worry about as there was less redundancy and what not. Right now to be able to face it in todays world you have to be multiskilled and as a result raising a family takes a back seat to being financially stable etc.
It depends on the type of Rap Music you listen to as some of them are really out of this world and can foster ideas in you to do things that can land you in jail or in the morgue on a cold slab. I don't know the type of rap you like and hope that it is not the bad ones.
I too like Hockey and can't see the logic in her making you feel bad. Are you from a single parent home were your mum have to be both mother and father ? if such is the case she can some times pass out some frustration for not having your father around to help around the house and carry his share of raising you.
I don't know your situation as I'm speculating to some of the root causes to some of the problems you mention.
2006-09-24 16:07:33 · answer #2 · answered by Premio 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Like the folks have said, conversation is in order. However, this goes beyond anyone's taste in music. It is about respect. Your mom still percieves you as the little girl who thought everything she shared with you was wonderful. She is at a loss as to when you developed your own tastes and started making decisions for yourself. She is trying to make the things that separate you guys go away. Let her know that you still care about having that special bond with her. Tell her you need to be able to make decisions about yourself without having to be afraid of sacrificing her respect. This is very scary for some moms. Reassure her that just because you like black and she likes white you love her just the same. Tell her that you need to start growing up but that you don't want her out of your life. Remind her that your homework is done, and that you got home on time Saturday. Show her how you handle yourself responsibly. Ask to be able to play your music and watch your sports in your room. Then find out what she's going to enjoy later on in the evening and ask if you can share that with her. She's afraid she'll never have anything in common with you again, there's such a myth about how teenage girls dump their parents. It doesn't have to be that way. Give her a big hug every night and kiss her good night. Value her for who she is and she will value who you are to become.
2006-09-24 16:22:37 · answer #3 · answered by Sunbaby 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow, this sounds like the way my daughter and I used to be! My brother (who happens to be a shrink) told me for one week do the things that my daughter likes and she do the things that I like, of course I thought this was a stupid Idea because i figured it's my house she should do what I tell her. I was wrong, I took my brother's advice, It worked, I started liking my daughters ideas, music and even the way she dressed and she like some of the things i liked. My daughter is my one and only best friend to this day, we share our ideas and differences, it makes life spicy. I know that sometime we mothers take our mothering to serious, we forget how to be friends and young at heart, just like our daughters forget that we are not just someone that feeds, clean and take care of them, but we are women first. Try to find something the both of you like no matter how small and focus on that one thing that you both have in common, believe me you may be surprised of how much the both of you share common interests.
2006-09-24 16:28:01 · answer #4 · answered by Magica! Star 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask her to try to meet in the middle and share a little of both. I am a mother and sometimes I have to remember how things were when I was young and my mother didn't understand me. Ask her if she felt that way when she was young. But try not argue it only puts you further apart. Good Luck!
I have read some answers and your MOTHER IS NOT SELFISH! She did put you on the earth and when you can take care if yourself it will be time to do what you want. Now its hers!
2006-09-24 15:54:47 · answer #5 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit down and talk to her.
Tell her that you'll keep your rap music down to an hour a day, of she can keep her music down to an hour a day. Tell her that it's kind of selfish to just do what she wants to, and not let you get anything in return.
I love rap, and hate country. I don't know you you handle it.
2006-09-24 15:53:16 · answer #6 · answered by Nicole 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should sit down and talk to her and tell her that you are respecting her wishes but she's not respecting your opinions. However, looking at it from her point of view, your interests are what a male would like, so maybe she wants you to be a girly girl, believe me, if you don't want to, don't. Just sit and talk to her and explain that you need to be treated with a bit more respect, as it's not a one way street.
2006-09-24 15:55:34 · answer #7 · answered by susanradford18 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her and ask her why she hates everything you like...If talking to her doesnt work, tell her you want the both of you to go to family therapy, that is not fair to you.
2006-09-24 15:52:54 · answer #8 · answered by PeachN 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sit down with her and tell you how she feels
shes probably so used to being the boss she probably doesnt realise how bad shes making you feel.
2006-09-24 15:53:06 · answer #9 · answered by Miss Sixty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should ask this question to your mom and find a solution together.
2006-09-24 15:53:23 · answer #10 · answered by fused25 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋