Well.. I have this boyfriend.. We mostly have sex mostly every night.. I love him and I think he's cute and he always tell me he love me... But it just seem kinda weird.. When I want to stop having sex, he just "persuade" me to do it anyway.. Is this love or lust?
2006-09-24 08:14:51 · 14 answers · asked by ♥Chamillitary Amberleé♥ 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
When I separate the person from who they are, i.e. a body part, that person has an incredible bottom, or they are hot, I am separating the person from who they are to how they appear/look. I am also idealizing who they are based on the objectification of their body, i.e., because that person is hot, I would like to get to know them, or somehow they are appealing emotionally mentally because they are hot. As I am objectifying, lust shows itself in fantasy. What would I like, what would I like to do with and to them. So I would say when the idealized picture of this person is replaced with reality, IE., who they really are. You can accept and be willing to see past faults, issues, problems because Love carries no jealousy, love doesn't judge, love don't do anything for self gratitude, love gives unconditionally, love is trust, love is respect, love is truth!
2006-09-28 20:29:50 · answer #1 · answered by Wolfie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Based on how you said it, it appears it doesn't really seem like love to you. To me it sounds as if you feel used. So, it is irrelevant what anyone else names it. What do YOU think it is? If you want more than him coming over then hitting the sheets. Then YOU will have to make the change and be willing to take the risk. If he don't respect you or value your company outside the bed room. Maybe you will have your answer. But, it that be the case, what are you really willing to do about it? Are you willing to loose what you have if you can not improve it? Or do you just settle on feeling like a human j*** o** rag than to go it alone? That is what YOU, and only YOU have to make your mind up on. Just because it may feel like love on your end, doesn't mean it is not lust on his end. Hint, guys will say those 3 magic word all day long if it gets them the booty call.
2006-09-30 00:19:52 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you put the cart in front of the horse. If you had waited to have sex until you knew if you were in love, the question would not have be asked.
Tell him you think you might be pregnant ,,,,,,
,,if his respose is positive (great lets get married) he is in love.,,
,,,if his response is negative ( oh sh*t what are we gonna do),,
he is not looking for commitment., then it is lust.
2006-09-24 15:44:11 · answer #3 · answered by rikenelson 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Big Lust.
2006-09-24 15:27:18 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
lust. he just wants you for the sex. if there were more things than that he would respect your descision on not wanting to have sex all the time.
2006-09-24 15:20:58 · answer #5 · answered by ♥Brown Eyed Girl ♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i just wanted 2 points and 2 at my 2 cents thats lust....
2006-09-24 15:20:34 · answer #6 · answered by Cassa B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a little love, mostly lust.
2006-09-24 15:17:07 · answer #7 · answered by m_rae0232 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the easy way to find out is to simply tell him that you have a medical condition and it may be a year before you can have sex again. Then stick to saying "no". Bet he isn't your bf very long.
2006-09-24 15:19:14 · answer #8 · answered by nidan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lust
2006-09-24 15:24:36 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it depends, do u have a relationship other than just sex?? test him, if u guys hang out one night and u make it clear that u dont want to have sex see if he'll accept that or not. and if he threatens to break up with u then dump that asshole.
2006-09-24 15:17:58 · answer #10 · answered by i love rain92790 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋