I got married 4 months ago, i felt i wasn't even envolved in the planning of the marrige at all, my wife now did all the planning and even picked out her own ring and my band on her own. I didn't even propose to her.
What my question is, is it possible to marry again, i really want to propose and do this on my own, pick out another ring a propose in the special way. Or am i out of luck?
2006-09-24 08:13:51 · 19 answers · asked by Mark M 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
No not even close to marriage.
2006-09-24 08:15:16 · answer #1 · answered by xoxo§kailey§ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure, when you divorce your first wife you can get married again. Why do you feel like you weren't even involved in the planning? I know most women TRY to get their men involved in it, and most men show massive disinterest at the beginning, they don't care about the colors, or centerpieces, or the color of the linen, or any of the things that the bride finds crucial, and so the brides go ahead and make the decisions on their own, rather than consulting with their hubby to be over decisions that she thinks he doesn't give a flip about. About the only thing my husband (of 18+ years) showed any interest in during our wedding planning was the food, he honestly didn't care about the rest of it. If that was your attitude during wedding planning, then you only have yourself to blame for not being involved. But then your wife may have been a total "Bridezilla" (it happens) and completely left you out of it. It was wrong if that happened, but I'd get over it if I were you. What's done is done type stuff, you know?
Now, if you'd like to "do it again" with your current wife, then you're talking about a vow renewal. While it's probably a little soon for that, and you certainly won't get many people to come, since they just came for your wedding. You can certainly get your bride a new ring--maybe for her right hand--and tell her how much she means to you, and how grateful you are she's in your life. I've never known a woman who didn't get totally bowled over when her man does something like that, totally unexpected and out of the blue.
2006-09-24 08:32:20 · answer #2 · answered by basketcase88 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, once you're married, your married.
But there are numerous ways to what you want.
Start at the beginning and work your way through the process like any wedding being planned. The only thing the opfficiant will 'announce' you are husband & wife rather than 'pronounce' since that has already been done.
Where are you located? To find an officiate on your search engine type in your city, state & wedding officiant. You will have some to chose from that will be able to do what you need.
Ps. I'm in Ohio
2006-09-24 08:27:25 · answer #3 · answered by weddrev 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The reason your wife did all the planning is because she probably didn't think you were interested in helping. Why didn't you say something when she was planning? She would have loved for you to help do something, but you didn't stand up and say anything. Yes, you can have another wedding. Why don't you surprise her for your first wedding anniversary, get her a new ring, propose etc. etc.
Best of Luck!
2006-09-24 08:48:49 · answer #4 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would be in poor taste to have a second wedding ceremony.
Why didn't you speak up about all these things at the appropriate time?
No real "proposal scenario" is necessary to become engaged. During whichever discussion you each agreed to marry each other, you became engaged.
Move on and speak up about things in the future that you want to help decide and have input on.
If you want to have some say in your upcoming anniversary parties, that may be an outlet for you two trying to celebrate "your way" a little bit in future.
2006-09-24 11:21:22 · answer #5 · answered by Etiquette Gal 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you can do it again but you might want to do it on a small scale such as just the two of you running off to the Caribbean and gtting married on the beach. I don't think that a big reception/church weeding is appropriate now.
There is a concern here. It sounds like you were just along for the ride. How did you decide to get married? One day did she just say show up on this date to get married.
If you really want to do it again I suggest that you get some help with your relationship first. your relationship does not sound healthy.
2006-09-24 08:25:15 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow this is pretty heavy. My first concern was that from the beginning she has been in charge. I am sorry to say that when yuo attempt to change that you will propably doom your relationship anyways. But to answer your question I have found that love is so much sweeter the 2nd time. I might suggest that you step up be assertive and let the chips fall/ However why did you let this go this far? Why did you go thru with the vows if that was not what you wanted? I don't quite get that part.This kinda suggests to me that you will stay in the marriage and be miserable.
2006-09-24 08:19:57 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
to second marriage,
This sort of thing is quite possible. Many romantics do this in varying forms. Some go to a place of worship and repeat their vows to each other. Occasionally couples find a justice of the peace in say Las Vegas. This person will go through the ritual and even give you another marriage certificate. This other certificate of course would not be legal; however it is a loving gesture.
It appears to me that you really love this woman. Thus, having another marriage ceremony to whatever degree would be very romantic.
I do hope she loves you as much as it appears that you love her.
2006-09-24 08:26:51 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are some people who renew their vows every year or every few months. You can get married as often as you want as long as the other person is in agreement. Although you should have said something BEFORE you walked down the isle.
2006-09-24 09:24:19 · answer #9 · answered by lady01love 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps you could plan a vow renewal surprise for your anniversary.Plan a nice dinner if you like and get down on one knee with a new ring, the whole works.and wisk her off to get married again.It sounds like yu feel cheated. give her a surprize she'll never forget.good luck.
2006-09-24 08:21:24 · answer #10 · answered by nancy e 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you want to stay married, I would suck it up and move on...If you want to be divorced by the 6th month, then move on with your idea....A wedding isn't about the guy, its all about the woman having her special day. Yes it is equally important to the groom, but we do not participate in the planning.Some guys are, but play a small part....Let it go and enjoy your new bride...Good luck
2006-09-24 08:46:52 · answer #11 · answered by Frank D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋