My boyfriend has a bad temper, how do i break up with him?

Question

I've tried to break up with him a few times, one time we were at a restaurant and i tried to end the relationship and i told maybe we should just be friends and he got mad and tried to pull my hair from across the table and i was like ok ok i wont break up with you cause i didnt know what to do or say cause he was like going crazy right there at the table in front of everyone at the restaurant just because i wanted to end the relationship but i dont know what should i do should i break up with him over the phone so he cant go crazy or something else

Answer 1

Break up with him in a very public place, with a friend standing by to call the police. Tell him it's over, and if/when he tries to attack you, have your friend summon the police to arrest him for assault. Get a restraining order, and find someone who is worth your time.

Answer 2

You should first be sure yourself that you want to break up with him and for what reason. Because yourself are confused otherwise you wouldn't have wanted him as a friend either. When you are clear about you feelings , the courage comes automatically.
Be brave, confidant and pick a really public place to tell him simply yet verrrrry sweely that because of his temper and behaviour, you don't feel safe and happy with him. And that you two should take some time off to think if you really want to be together. He may eventually get bored, leave or find someone else (keep praying)
The important point is to be able to put him off without causing his temper to erupt. Such boys at this age aren't scared of police or such. So what you want is to be safe later on in life too, that too when the police is not nearby.
And please please please..... next time use a little common sense BEFORE you commit youself to someone finally. Its easy to start a relationshp but hard to finish it.....and really hard to forget someone either, no matter what. So be safe than sorry.

Answer 3

This is not an easy situation. You may be dealing with a man who is dangerous, unpredictable or obsessive. According to what we can gather from your report, he won't accept your breaking up with him with a smile. That will feel like a defeat for him, and he may not leave you in peace.

I think the best solution would be for you to move away from your city without telling anything - just disappear - but I know this is not an easy thing to do, because of your job, school, family, etc.

Probably you will need the advice from a lawyer or some other professional on how to do the breaking up without suffering from the consequences. Anyway, he must be told that you want to break up because you have changed your mind about your future and now you want to concentrate on your career or studies. Never say you don't love him any more or that you have found someone new. Just say or have someone tell him that now you want to have time for yourself. Say this is not an easy decision for you, but you must have your way now.

Don't say you don't want to see him again, but don't give him any hopes, either. Ask him if he wants you to return the gifts he gave you, but keep them otherwise. It is important for him to understand that you need to be alone now healthwise, even if the real motive lies elsewhere, that is, you want to get rid of him.

Answer 4

Got parents? Got friends? A show of strength is what you need. Tell Dad to talk first, and say, Mary tried to tell you several times she didn't want you anymore, and once you tried to pull her hair and made a scene. Now, I am telling you, get out of her life, now, and do not try anything, you are being watched, and we have already told the police. Have the friends chime in with yeah, and nod agreement. Find a really public place, even in front of, or in the police station. and do tell the police, file a peace bond before you confront him.
And if you even see him close to your living space, or at school, or at work, call the police.
Good luck, and do be careful.
If you live with him, get out when he is at work, have lots of friends or the parents help move you, just in case. If you still live with the parents, good, stay there.

Answer 5

The first thing I would do is file an information report with the police department so that this domestic violence is on record. They will not contact him or try to press charges on him, but you have more documentation of his behavior if he tries anything else.

Next, I would call him and explain that it is over in a very firm but kind way. If he starts to get violent, explain to him that you have legally documented the hair pulling and anything else and that police are aware of his behavior. If he leaves you alone, you will take no further action.

Either way, it's very important to get some legal documentation of what he's doing in case it becomes a bigger issue, regardless of how you handle it.

Answer 6

Get your dad or brother or the biggest friend you have. Go over to his house and tell him your breaking up with him and if he wants to take it out on something you have someone with you that would be a willing participant. Don't stay with him. He needs help. He may really hurt you or worse. Don't break up with him alone or over the phone he may come by your place and still try and hurt you. You may need to get a protective order. No woman should have to go through that.

Answer 7

the priority isn't him...yet in addition you. while he gets offended or enraged, you're able to ask your self this...are you helping him cool off or are you helping him be worst.. diverse the circumstances you will could purely bite the dirt and purely carry him...truthfully thats probally all he needs. He feels incompitant given which you're actually not commencing as much as him so he shows you his macho-i'm-a-guy-hear-me-roar side. it incredibly is likewise why diverse men get into fights over women by way of fact a woman regularly would not side with a guy while hes offended thinking he purely desires area...yet in spite of the indisputable fact that that would desire to be the case and in case you convenience him he would desire to push you away...purely nonetheless be there and not make a large deal approximately it. particular its gonna placed some rigidity on you given which you sense such as you probably did no longer do something incorrect and he could have the mind-blowing to try this yet its called compromising...in case you dont he will purely build it up interior...yet i'm particular he compromises once you're mad..do the comparable for him.

Answer 8

How old are you, if you are a minor then you need to involve your parents...either way you are in way over your head...can you say restraining order? Honey he isn't even mad yet he is a spoiled insecure child behaving man. He is manipulating you. he can control his temper if and when he chooses. Does he freak out on everyone, if someone of authority is addressing him can he keep it in check? If so then he CAN control his temper...he does not with u because he does not have to it works for him. He is dangerous and you need to get help honey don't wait...trust me!

Answer 9

Tell a friend to call him over the phone, or you could write a letter telling him how you feel, if he calls you angry or something, just stay calm and try to get him out of his frenzy, recomend anger manegment classes for him if he wants to keep his next girlfriend.

Answer 10

in front of ppl and not next to weapons or sharp objects. wear a helmet just in case. if even that's too risky, take him to the zoo and trick him to get inside one of the cages, once he's in the cage lock him up and then break up with him. start running. hope this works okay? good luck.