I have been dating my boyfriend for a year and a half. I have been really jealous the whole time we have dated even though he gives me no reason to be. I know thats weird, but he doesn't have any friends that are girls and he never talks to girls b/c he just doesn't want to. We broke up last tuesday because I ask too many questions about if he is going to be friends with girls. That is what I'm worried about, not whether or not he'll cheat on me b/c I know he won't. I'm worried that he'll be friends with girls. He called me the next sunday to see how I was. Then he talked to me at school on monday. tuesday and wednesday he ignored me. Then thursday he was absent b/c he tore his ACL. But he called me that night and said he wanted to give me another chance. He has given me probably 30 chances to stop being jealous but this time I really stopped. So we were back together on friday and saturday but he broke up with me last night because I asked him if something was wrong.
2006-09-24 07:33:31 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
That is seriously the reason. He told me when we got back together that I could ask questions as long as they weren't jealousy ones. So he told me he just wasn't happy with me because I ask a lot of questions and I asked him how he can expect me to never ask a question. He told me I was so pretty, fun, and loyal but he just isn't happy with me. I told him that he is never going to find anyone as good as me and he said "I know." Then I left w/o crying and every other time we broke up I did cry. Today he called me twice but I didn't answer. What should I do? Do you think he'll change or do you think he is controlling and thats why he doesn't want me to ask questions? He also acts like he doesn't care about anything I have to say. I tried to show him a video on my cell of my 2 year old cousin dancing and he said "I don't care" And he was dead serios. Is he just a huge jerk and should I forget about him and move on?What should I do?
2006-09-24 07:39:43 · update #1
Why would he break up with me for asking a simple question when I haven't been jealous since we've been back together?
2006-09-24 07:42:29 · update #2
it sounds like you have serious trust issues that you need to work out or you will never be able to keep him around or any other man for that matter. Trust is one of the key elements in any relationship.
good luck
2006-09-24 07:38:54 · answer #1 · answered by ~hopeless love~ 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Whoa now first of. THis must be the best question ever cause it has so much detail. Yup it helps a lot knowing all this.
From what i have seemed to understand from your commentary of the nature of ur bf is to be really shy personality. And the reason of you being jealous is not weird at all. What i assume is that you really care a lot. Normally that's how jealousy is intimidated. But no fear. I think what your bf has is a past depression with a relationship. Seriously beleive me it causes a lot of trust issues. Now you can be happy about one thing he really really like you. GO GIRL. but yeah i think he really likes you a lot. Otherwise the first chance he would have gotten to get rid of you he most probably would have taken it.
Now basically what yuo must not do is force him to mingle with girls. Give the guy some space. But don't block him out completely. That most probably will devastate the poor guy. What you must do is actually have gain lil amount of trust with one of your best friends. All three go out together and make him become as casual as possible.
this would normally require you to have a real good tolerant friend.
And please asking questions to guys all the time will get on their nerves. Since i am guy i know how really irritatiing it gets. But some of us only know that girls care. Other think girls have no other job.
One more thing he trusts you a lot and i think it be better you don't break it up. So i hope everything works out hola. ;-)
2006-09-24 14:49:33 · answer #2 · answered by nick360 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is a game going on here; as in a play or a novel two people who are close cannot both be the protagonists. That is what I read in carefully, though your query. I am sorry the relationship is sick and you need to let it die. If you and he keep this behavior up you will both be living a lie. This is so high school typical.
You do not need a boyfriend to be happy. AND you do not need him because he is maniplating you like a puppet on string. Dump all contact with this guy, I bet he has hit you and not just twice and threatened to hurt you.
You are not as jealous as you are afraid of him. This is dating violence and I am telling you, as I would my own daughter never be alone with him and stop showing any interest AT all.
You asked but I chose to answer with truth and caring in another way because, I have exprience with Domestic Violence. This is a pattern, and you need to break the pattern. I care about you and if you keep this up you might end up dead. Please heed my words.
2006-09-24 16:15:22 · answer #3 · answered by thesilkavenger 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your boyfriend is not the one that needs to be figured out, it's you! Your boyfriend is perfectly normal, he's probably tired of the questions and drama surrounding your jealousy. YOU ARE THE PROBLEM! Start realizing you cannot control other people and you cannot live your life worrying about what ifs. I suggest you get a handle on your insecurities or this won't be the first guy you chase away.
2006-09-24 14:41:33 · answer #4 · answered by tooyoung2bagrannybabe 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, some guys like their girl to be overly jealous. Personally, I find it disturbing. I'd prefer a female with a little more self-confidence in herself.
2006-09-24 14:36:15 · answer #5 · answered by Tones 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on and give yourself a chance. He does not care about you and does not want to leave you since you are nice and convenient b/c if he did care about you it would not have happened so many times.
2006-09-24 14:45:02 · answer #6 · answered by Balraj G 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well i dont kno wut to tell u. I'm suprised he had even given u a second chance, to not want your boyfriend to even be friends with other girls, is absolutely ridiculous! It sounds like u had a serious trust issue! u can say it's not about trust all u want, but it is! As for his reasonin' on breakin' up wit you, i dont know wut to tell u, cus im havin' a hard time understanding this whole situation!!! well all i can say is good luck to ya.
2006-09-24 14:43:51 · answer #7 · answered by Here2Help 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well do you want him back? If you do then you need to tell him that you won't ask him questions like that anymore. If you don't want him back, move on!!
2006-09-24 14:37:15 · answer #8 · answered by Stuck in the Middle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to work on your jealousy problem and insecurity or you'drive all guys away.Sorry.
2006-09-24 14:37:12 · answer #9 · answered by nancy e 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think you both need to grow up alot realationships shd not have to be about jelousy or ignorance if it is then it is not a realationship having
2006-09-24 14:37:22 · answer #10 · answered by milkmaider2000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋