My older sister (let's call her Jenny) does not get along with our younger sister (who will be with my mom, let's call herAmy) and my mom doesn't have anyone else to ride with her during the trip. Amy is riding with my mom is not able to drive but Jenny(who is the MOH) does drive but won't ride with them because she doesn't like our younger sister Amy. The wedding is 9/30/06 and they are supposed to leave from their city on 9/27). She (Jenny) does not want to co-operate, but I refuse to deal with her attitude the day of my wedding. What should I do?
2006-09-24 07:26:26 · 15 answers · asked by plegal_101 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
My older sister (let's call her Jenny) does not get along with our younger sister (who will be with my mom, let's call herAmy) and my mom doesn't have anyone else to ride with her during the trip. Amy is riding with my mom is not able to drive but Jenny(who is the MOH) does drive but won't ride with them because she doesn't like our younger sister Amy. The wedding is 9/30/06 and they are supposed to leave from their city on 9/27). She (Jenny) does not want to co-operate, but I refuse to deal with her attitude the day of my wedding. What should I do? I should add that my mother is almost 60 and really shouldn't be driving alone. The issue is not trying to make my sisters get along, it's my mom driving alone. I am worried about her safety during a 10+ hour drive and my sister (Jenny) does not seem to care. She's just worried about who she gets along with versus mom getting to the wedding in one piece.
2006-09-24 09:02:33 · update #1
No, she needs to respect your mother and your wishes. If her mom asks her to drive for 10 hours remind her that mom carried her for 9 months!!!
2006-09-24 07:28:14 · answer #1 · answered by synkronyzer 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
No, you should NOT take your sister out of the wedding party at this point, no matter how infantile she's acting (and she is, by the way). That will seriously do permanent, irreparable harm to your relationship with her. Ask your mother the best course here, mom's know their daughters pretty well after all, and she might be the best person to come up with a solution. You might have to arrange other transportation for your mother and youngest sister, and have Jenny take care of getting herself there. Honestly, even if Jenny hates Amy's guts, she should suck it up for 10 hours for her mother and drive, but people can be petty at times. You're also right in refusing to deal with Jenny's attitude the day of the wedding, maybe in a very nice, non-Bridezilla way, explain to Jenny how her behavior is putting a cloud over what should be a very happy occasion, and ask her to please behave herself the day of the wedding. If need be, tell the bartender and waiters to cut off her alcohol at the reception after a certain point. Good luck, I hope this has given you some ideas.
2006-09-24 08:01:34 · answer #2 · answered by basketcase88 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Get bus tickets, or train tickets, for your mom and Amy. Jenny can drive on her own. You can't force them to behave, so just go around the idiotic behavior. Sorry to hear it - but everybody has SOME family drama to deal with, hopefully this will be it.
2006-09-24 07:30:19 · answer #3 · answered by physicsmom04 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
That is down right rude of your sister, Jenny. It's your day and she should suck it up for a couple hours and get over herself to be with you on YOUR day. She is extremely selfish! That just makes me mad to even think about it. Anyways, if she doesn't some then chop it up as her loss. Dont let it ruin your day. You should plan ahead though, in case she doesn't come. Make sure the guy she is walking with knows he may have to walk alone. If I were you I would probably tell her off. But that's just me. Some people and their nerve!
Don't let her immaturity ruin your day!
Good Luck!!
2006-09-25 05:48:56 · answer #4 · answered by kristina 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The only one showing sense here is Jenny. She is absolutely right not to travel with them. If you force the three of them to travel together, they with all be miserable and your wedding day happiness will suffer. If this is someone's idea to force a reconciliation, it is ill-advised and will backfire. If your mother can't do the driving alone and won't make other arrangements herself, you have them made for her.
2006-09-24 08:03:43 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is rude for a bride to de-mote a bridesmaid, unless she does something truly severe, like burn your house down or skin your pet. This is just pain in the *** logistics stuff!
Can't any other family members help with the driving issues? Can your mom and sister travel by train or bus? There's got to be a solution.
2006-09-24 11:33:21 · answer #6 · answered by Etiquette Gal 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your Sister is going with your Mother, and (moh) sis is going separately. Whats the issue here? If the girls don't get along, they don't get along. It sounds like they have made their travel plans. Do not take her out of the wedding. You will be creating more family hardships.
2006-09-24 08:31:53 · answer #7 · answered by MM 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Help you mom and younger sister make arrangements to come and let older sister fend for herself. Don't change the wedding party at all. It is not your mess. Don't feel obligated to get involved.
2006-09-24 07:35:32 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
happy wedding to u! YAY! Well she is your sister! I know they are mean and nice and annyoing! I have 2 that are older and i am the youngest! I think u shouldn't take her out you are the same blood! Just becasue of 1 thing don't come on! Just talk to her and solve it! ONCE again HAPPY WEDDING!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! YAY!
2006-09-24 07:30:17 · answer #9 · answered by svnaviaidv 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would ask her to stay home. She needs to think of her mom driving the whole distance herself and hold back her problem and do it for the family. If she can't behave she souldnt come.
I wish I kept my best friend out.
2006-09-24 07:31:43 · answer #10 · answered by kerry9477 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋