Probably misinterpreted by everyone,
I'm a heterosexual atheist who is pro-gay rights. I don't think people or born straight or gay, I think they just become one the other or both at some point(s) in their life.
Your thoughts please.
2006-09-24 07:22:27 · 40 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Well, I don't think it's genetics (unless they can figure out how to make a same sex couple procreate). However, I do think that people are predisposed one way or the other, and there isn't really a choice involved. Free will.... HA!
2006-09-24 07:26:24 · answer #1 · answered by Duncarin 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Nope and you're wonderful science and Darwinism and Geneitics IS confirming this. Brain syapses are the reason for sexuality.
This is not to say there is no such thing as free will. I'm sure some guy or girl who can't score with the opposite sex but finds it's easy to get off in the world of homosexuality will tell it's a wonderful choice just so they can get off.
Homosexuals I've talked with ALL knew by age 5 what they were. They didn't realize the implications until they were more like 8, but they knew they had a very strong affinity for their own sex and found it pleasing to be around them.
Most heterosexuals I know liked girls from the start and we always talk about playing Doctor or you show me yours and I'll show you mine.
There's no fun in seeing a guys. All you gotta do is look down at your own in the potty room! Now, seeing a girls parts. That's something you don't normally get to do!
You gotta admit thats true.
There are two 6 year old kids there, one is same sex the other is opposite sex and your are HETROS, whose panties do you want to see come off. The same sex who has what you have or the opposite sex who has something vastly different!
This is a no brainer.
It is your synapses and chemicals makeup that fixates on the SEXUAL OBJECT and the affinity when you are under the age 10.
It is free will when you fight your "normal" direction and go for the opposite at an older age.
Girls who are definately straight sometimes go gay or bi simply because they are fed up with guys and want something nicer and safer. I mean girls don't make girls pregant.
Guys, it's veyr hard for me to understand why a guy isn't interested in boobies, cleavage or putting his hand up her dress.
I wonder how many straight guys would take it as well if gay guys were like straight guys in school and copped a feel when you weren't looking.
Hey Jim, imagine being in an elevator full of MEN and getting your buns squeezed.
I'm for gay rights too, but I really can't see THAT kind of mentality.
Remember that when you bend over Jim, some GUY is watching you and thinking what a cute tush you have.
Remember. Its FREE WILL
It's by CHOICE not design.
Yeh right.
HE CHOSES TO MAKE YOU HIS MALE SEXUAL OBJECT
Give that a long thought.
2006-09-24 07:56:02 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is a behavioral aspect to this as a genetic aspect to this. Let me elaborate but please read the entire answer before you form judgment.
1. Genetics: All scientifically robust studies indicate that you are born straight or gay.
2. Behavior: This is the act, where the choice part comes in. Can a `gay' man have sex with women if he choses to- yes. Can a straight man have gay sex- sure. That is where the ambiguity comes in because a lot of people can make the behavioral choice.
Many people get coerced into acting one way or the other. A lot of gay men, for example don't come out of the closet until they are married, have kids and then come to the realization that they are. Many gay people become straight because they are scared of the spiritual repurcussions. Some straight men have gay sex.
You are born gay, or straight. But you are also born with free will. That is why "you shall not lie with a man" is the sin according to the Bible- not "you shall not be gay". The practise is the "sin" not the genes. If you are a Christian, and gay- and if you believe homosexuality is a sin, the first step is accepting you are gay. Then, not acting upon those impulses.
However, there are a few people who believe God does not have a problem with homosexuality and religion has distorted it. In which case, they are happy being gay and acting out those impulses.
Either decision is valid provided you first accept yourself. God/Nature/Genes made you gay. But God/Nature/Evolution/whatever also gave you the choice - to act on it or not. Depending on what you believe God wants from you- your actions stem accordingly.
It is very counterproductive to fight what you are in the first place. It is better to work with what you have.
2006-09-24 07:46:27 · answer #3 · answered by imported_beer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Evidence shows that sexual orientation is determined by biological factors. People don't choose to be gay or straight. Religious fanatics insist that it's a choice. I've being gay as long as I remember. I just realized it recently. Since very early age I recall myself being physically attracted to boys. So how could i CHOOSE to be a homosexual, if at this age I didn't even know what sex, sexual orientation, and homosexuality are?! When I was a kid, I never knew anything about homosexuality, I've never seen two guys kissing each other. I didn't see anything of this sort on TV. Claims that people become gays by learning about it are absolutely false. My experience shows that it has something to do with our biology, but not a choice. People are born either straight or gay, or both. I feel sorry for those poor ignorant souls who still think that people chose to be that way.
2006-09-25 11:00:54 · answer #4 · answered by Dr. Adriano Nostromo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What exactly are "gay rights"? I know there are rights against discrimination against ALL people, so what does it mean to have "gay" rights? Is it the right to have a same sex relationship or does it go beyond that? If there are gay rights, shouldn't there be straight rights too? Most everything in life comes down to a choice, for better or worst. Good to bad consequences. I am a heterosexual Christian and I am pro-choice in the sense that no matter what we want to do in this life it will come down to a choice and it is always curious to see what choice people make.
2006-09-24 08:04:07 · answer #5 · answered by Anthony L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You were born straight and I think it's possible they (homos) are born gay. That being said I don't think that automatically makes it a good thing. Some people are born with a predisposition towards getting cancer. Just because you're born that way doesn't make it good. Doesn't automatically make it bad either.
Personally I think homosexuality is disgusting. BUT, I find a lot of things that people do disgusting. Like eating snails. That doesn't automatically mean I hate those people.
For the most part, I'm pretty much pro-gay rights too. Let the people live their lives in peace.
2006-09-24 07:34:59 · answer #6 · answered by Mr. Bojangles 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think anyone is. I think we are all either homophobes or what I like to call "normal"
For example, I'm not attracted to balls, but if I saw a set I liked, I would think to myself' "Hey, I'd like to suck on those!" but the situation has just never presented itself. I can't look at another man's hairy *** and find love, but I'm OK with others doing it. It doesn't hurt me. Not that I have noticed.
Perhaps I am indirectly being punished for it by a big sky daddy. I really don't share that view, but as soon as I die and find out I was wrong, I will apologize and chastise all gays. Until then they have my blessings. Besides, if all those guys were not to be gay there would have been a whole lot more sensitive nice guys in the dating pool when I met my wife and I wouldn't have had a chance.
2006-09-24 07:57:09 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
While I agree that some are born gay, it seems, at least in my vast repertiore of working with gay people, that quite frequently there is a history of dysfunctional family structure in many of their backgrounds, with emotional, physical, or sexual abuse, either directed at them or prominent in the family. That would also perhaps lend some possiblity to it being prominent in some families.
What is perplexing to me is why this has never been studied. Would it be too politically incorrect to ask? Surely the questions could be structured in a way to not tip the questionees to the hypothesis.
But also, I have known people who in retrospect were showing signs of being gay when they were but toddlers. I would be happier if there were a large study done, that could answer my questions and those of so many others.
2006-09-24 07:55:49 · answer #8 · answered by finaldx 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think there has been conclusive evidence that people are born gay. Yet I don't believe it is a "choice" in the sense that if is free from influence. All choices are informed by our previous choices, actions, and predispositions. The "born this way" or "choice" is something of a false dichotomy.
I am pro gay rights, without being pro gay marriage. In other words, gay couples should have all the rights and privileges married people do, by virtue of being America citizens. I believe if civil unions.
2006-09-24 07:30:26 · answer #9 · answered by BABY 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I am for gay rights as well, although I am straight. Gay people don't persecute me for liking women and I don't feel the need or the right to persecute them either. Sexuality is a matter of personal preference, and it doesn't hurt anyone else.
The legalistic scriptures of various religions have pitted almost the entire religious world against homosexuals when there are real sins that do infringe on the rights of others that we need to be worried about. In my opinion, a Bible thumper for example, who looks at a homosexual and makes condemning remarks has sinned against this person, while the person remains innocent of trying to harm or alienate others.
To answer your question, I think it is a matter or personal choice. I feel that many homosexuals choose that path because they have been hurt or have traumatic experiences which leave them incapable of accepting love from the opposite sex. I think sometimes because they have an urge to engage in same sex physical relationships, they feel they can only fall in love with the same sex as well.
That's my best guess, but I don't believe we are born that way. I think it's a choice.
2006-09-24 07:27:58 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
I think they are born that way, I know gay christians who have tried as hard as they can to change who they are, hated themselves for it, but couldn't. I know what you mean by the misunderstanding, people seem to think that if you stick up for a certain group you must be a part of that group. I too am a straight person who is pro-gay rights.
2006-09-24 07:30:59 · answer #11 · answered by Shinkirou Hasukage 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋