My life is so good, why am I so bored?

Question

I have nearly everything I could want right now. Pets, a day job where I get to work from home, a freelance assignment writing, another writing project up for the new year. Tons of friends. I'm taking art classes, which I love. Everything is perfect, my finances are good, I'm not in debt.
And before anyone asks, my spirituality is a private thing to me, but yes, I believe in G-d.
However, I am bored and unhappy lately. All I want to do is stay in bed and read a book. I can barely even motivate myself to do the simplest household chores, but I don't think I'm depressed b/c I'll run around all day with friends and have a great time.
Help? How can I get out of this rut, when everything is so good in my life?

G-d isn't a mistake. It's a practice (usually Jewish) when you feel G-d is so great, it is too much for man to speak his/her name.

Answer 1

hmmm. i have thing same problem sometimes. It's wierd b/c sometimes things are absolutely fine and I'm on top of the world, esp. when I'm with my friends. I am an artist too, a graphic designer. I have recently fullfilled a lot of my previous life goals. I should be running around all the time with a perma grin. But sometimes, no matter what, I fall back into a what next mode. And then sometimes i get overwhelmed with what i want next.

I think the problem is that sometimes i don't know what to do next. since you are like me in that you are happy with where you are i think it's hard to see where you will be going next. But as a creative person you will always have a drive to find out your next move, you also always have a desire to "create" something great. I think for us this goes into every aspect of life, not just our chosen art form.

for me, i am bored unless i have a lot of new things going on, and once those things start to become to common, or i get comfortable with them, i get restless to mix things up and change them, even when things are working perfectly fine.

So I can't say for sure, but if your like me, then this boredom, comes from a restless need to always be stimulated in every aspect of life. To be honest, i haven't found a cure yet. i have a feeling this is something i too will struggle with my entire life. but it's part of what makes me me. If i didn't have this problem i might become too complacent and if we were all like that new ideas and new ways of living would never be born.

I say for now, get up and clean your house. There's nothing like a crispy slate to start you life on. Then, if you still feel like reading, pack yourself a lunch, and go to the beach, or the park with you book, or even barnes n noble. relax and enjoy the fact you can appreciate a good book. give yourself a break, it's okay to kick back for awhile and just let things be.

good luck!

Answer 2

It sounds like you are fine, but as you have pointed out there are a few things that could be some warning flags, and they could be nothing or they could be signs of a problem so I would not ignore them if I were you.

Wanting to stay in and read a book is not a bad thing, as long as it's just an occasional thing. If you start doing it all the time and isolate yourself from your friends, then I would say there might be a problem; especially, if you are showing other signs.

If you are also having difficulty motivating yourself to do the simplest household chores and you never had a problem before, it might also be a sign of a problem.

Depression is not a weakness or a character flaw. It is a medical condition that is thought to be caused by an imbalance of certain naturally occurring chemicals in the brain. That's one cause.

Another cause of depression is our life experiences. Sometimes, we just feel sad for a short period of time, but other times we get depresses and sometimes it last for a long time. They believe, our brains get short ciruited and it causes an imbalance. However, medication is not the only sollution in these cases, because it does not address the underlying cause. In this case the patient also needs therapy along with the medication.

I suffer from Major Depression and Anxiety with anger issues. I saw a Psychiatrist and therapist about 12+ years ago, and I thought I was cured. Everything was going great, or so I thought. Then, I lost my job about 4 years ago and I was eventually forced into bankruptcy.

Finally, things started to look up and I got an interview for a job, but then my health went to hell on me and my right leg almost doubled in size. I was so depressed and with the pain being so bad I ended up trying to kill myself.

As it turns out, the problem with my leg is severe DVT, and I never should have stopped seeing a Psychiatrist and therapist from years ago, I was just seeing the wrong ones for me. I have been suffering from depression a good part of my life, I just didn't know it, because I just thought it was normal; that's how long it goes back.

If you think you might have depression, the first step towards feeling better is discussing your symptoms with a qualified healthcare professional.

The symptoms that help a doctor make a diagnosis of depression include:
- feelings of sadness, irritability, or tension
- decreased interest or pleasure in usual activities or hobbies
- loss of energy, feeling tired despite lack of activity
- a change in appetite, with significant weight loss or weight gain
- a change in sleeping patterns, such as difficulty sleeping, waking up early in the morning, or sleeping too much
- restlessness or feeling slowed down
- decreased ability to concentrate or make decisions
- feelings of worthlessness, hopelessness, or guilt
- thoughts of suicide or death

If you are experiencing any or several of these symptoms, you should talk to your doctor or other qualified healthcare professional about depression.

Answer 3

Wanting to stay in bed does not sound good

I would go to the local library and wander around until i saw something that interested me:

Brazilian snakes how Walmart started decorating books -
then decide to do something new around the house or apt
paint something - re arrange something - stand in the doorway and just look around

surprise your family or husband - Let's eat supper backward tonight - we will start with dessert and finish up with salad

play a joke on your children or your other - tie their pyjamas pant legs in a knot

just think of odd ball things - then do them

stimulation - something new for that part of your brain
get out of the rut - a rut is a grave that is open at both ends

Answer 4

Well, you aren't taking any risks for one thing. Also, there is no passion in the things you do, besides maybe art. Do something spontaneous, or do something for someone else. Try and find something you're curious about. Write a story, maybe, if you like to write. Keep trying to progress as a person, don't let yourself be apathetic or content with what could be mediocrity. Oh- you kind of are reminding me of the Socs in the book The Outsiders by S.E. Hinton. If you've read it, just remember not to take your boredom out negatively like they did. If you haven't, that's another good book to read.

Answer 5

Try volunteering for a cause that inspires you - at a Food Bank, delivering Meals-on-Wheels to the elderly and disabled in your community. Become a Big Brother or Big Sister - find something that you feel passionate about and that inspires you!
Your local hospital might need volunteers, try becoming a volunteer with a group that helps the Bereaved ............. the list is endless, but you will find the more you are out there helping others, the happier you will become - try it, it works!
If you could afford it maybe you could take time off work to volunteer overseas, there are organizations that are crying out for people to help build schools or dig wells in underdeveloped countries - go for it!

Answer 6

I think it could be one of two things.

1. You are the type of individual who needs challenge to thrive. Your life is too easy. Get into debt, take up alcoholism, drive your car recklessly, or quit your job.

2. You need purpose in your life. While you're reading in bed you might as well read The Purpose Driven Life by Rick Warren. It couldn't hurt.

Answer 7

If you can concentrate to read a book, then chances are you're not depressed.

Working from home can demotivate you...try going to a writing group to help kick-start the motivation to get on with the writing.

Answer 8

listen to some music. chances are you are not depressed. you are just like me. all i like doing is staying in bed and reading a book. i am depressed and have suffered severe depression since s club 7 and 8 split!

Answer 9

You misspelled God. With an active lifestyle as you have it looks like your body may need to rest itself for awhile.If you feel tired and depressed after 6 months or so you may need to have a checkup.

Answer 10

It is said kings are seldom fulfilled, and yet they have the kingdom. And that those with nothing, can be completely fulfilled.

I think it doesn't depend on what you have at all. If anything all of it is getting in the way.