We have been dating for 5 year, on and off, and were best of friends . But I would like to know if I mention that I would like to get married, buy a house , and have kids with him ; would that scare him .
2006-09-24 06:59:24 · 11 answers · asked by L 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I don't think there is anything wrong with this idea. Why hold it inside when you are bursting to get it out???? Whether he likes the idea or not, you have a right to say how you feel and what you want out of your life. I have been with my guy for 5 years also and we talk about this type of stuff everyday, he's the one that brings these great things up, and he plans them so well. We'll be getting married in a year and a half from now. Even if he didn't bring these things up I would have brought it up because I would have wanted him to know what I wanted out of my life at that point. Your feeling like time is passing by and you are ready to settle down and have a family and a future with this man. I think it would be a great idea to let him know this because you will be able to see where you stand with him after doing so. There is no need of dragging on a relationship just for the sake of it when you want to move your life in a different direction. Your entitled to it and you should get it if that's what you want. Hopefully he wants the same thing with you as well, and maybe he's thinking the same thing but doesn't know what you want also. There should definitely be more communication where this is concerned, otherwise this issue can sit on the back burner for a long time, and you don't want that. Good luck!!!
2006-09-24 08:05:36 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would think that after 5 years of dating you should be comfortable enough to talk about anything with him. Plan a nice quiet evening at home (with no distractions) and tell him you are ready to get married.
It may be way past time to let him know how you feel. Maybe he thinks you are happy with the way things are now and don't want to change the relationship.
2006-09-24 07:02:56 · answer #2 · answered by physandchemteach 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its been FIVE years.....if hes not thinking about marriage and you aren't even sure you can talk to him about it....What The Hell Are You Wasting Your Time For????
If he doesn't want you to be his wife now, when the hell do you think he will? Give it up babe, you guys do not have a real relationship or you would have already been married for a few years now. Go find somebody else that wants a loving relationship and a family......two years from now you will be married, with a new baby and a house!
2006-09-24 07:05:50 · answer #3 · answered by WitchTwo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him what you want. This will let you know if you are wasting your time and may free you to move to the next level with him. It sounds like it is time for you to move on to someone that wants what you want. Time waits for no one.
2006-09-24 07:07:11 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yah pretty much ide say it would. but hey if your in this thing for the long haul,just maybe if he flips out when you get the nerve to tell him how you feel,ide rethink rather you love him, or he loves you goos luck
2006-09-24 07:05:25 · answer #5 · answered by rpoker 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well after 5 years i'm sure he must be expecting a conversation like this.
bring it up and if his dreams are not your own then you need to consider finding someone who shares your family aspirations
2006-09-24 07:03:44 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that after five years of dating, you should tell him how you feel.
2006-09-24 07:04:03 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it would probably scare him.. considering the fact it is an on and off relationship.
but if you want to give hints.. tell him about your dreams but dont point out that it includes him. its much safer!
2006-09-24 07:02:19 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well when u tell him that make it clear of if u get married and who knows maybe it will help u n the future.
2006-09-24 07:03:27 · answer #9 · answered by sexyblakk 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lol, start with just marriage....don't mention house or kids yet
2006-09-24 07:01:42 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋